SCARS|RSN™ Psychology of Scams: Jay Shetty on Letting Go! [Video]

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SCARS|RSN™ Psychology of Scams: Jay Shetty on Letting Go! [Video]

Learning The Real Pain Of Holding On Is The First Step In Letting Go!

If we don’t heal the pain of our past we will bleed all over our future.

 

5 Ways to Let Go of Past Hurts from PshychoCentral:

The only way you can accept new joy and happiness into your life is to make space for it. If your heart is filled full-up with pain and hurt, how can you be open to anything new?

1. MAKE THE DECISION TO LET IT GO

Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt.

Making the conscious decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person (after you finish step 2 below). This is empowering to most people, knowing that it is their choice to either hold on to the pain, or to live a future life without it.

2. EXPRESS YOUR PAIN — AND YOUR RESPONSIBILITY

Express the pain the hurt made you feel, whether it’s directly to the other person, or through just getting it out of your system (like venting to a friend, or writing in a journal, or writing a letter you never send to the other person). Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.

We don’t live in a world of black and whites, even when sometimes it feels like we do. While you may not have had the same amount of responsibility for the hurt you experienced, there may have been a small part of the hurt that you are also partially responsible for. What could you have done differently next time? Are you an active participant in your own life, or simply a hopeless victim? Will you let your pain become your identity? Or are you someone deeper and more complex than that??

3. STOP BEING THE VICTIM AND BLAMING OTHERS

Being the victim feels good — it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special. Yes, your feelings matter. But don’t confuse with “your feelings matter” to “your feelings should override all else, and nothing else matters.” Your feelings are just one part of this large thing we call life, which is all interwoven and complex. And messy.

In every moment, you have that choice — to continue to feel bad about another person’s actions, or to start feeling good. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let the person who hurt you — in the past — have such power, right here, right now?

No amount of rumination of analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. Never. Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you?

4. FOCUS ON THE PRESENT — THE HERE AND NOW — AND JOY

Now it’s time to let go. Let go of the past, and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you — is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment. Some people find it easier to do this with a conscious cue, such as saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past, and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing _______________.”

Remember, if we crowd our brains — and lives — with hurt feelings, there’s little room for anything positive. It’s a choice you’re making to continue to feel the hurt, rather than welcoming joy back into your life.

5. FORGIVE THEM — AND YOURSELF

We may not have to forget another person’s bad behaviors, but virtually everybody deserves our forgiveness. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway.”

Forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness. Instead, it’s simply saying, “I’m a good person. You’re a good person. You did something that hurt me. But I want to move forward in my life and welcome joy back into it. I can’t do that fully until I let this go.”

Forgiveness is a way of tangibly letting something go. It’s also a way of empathizing with the other person, and trying to see things from their point of view.

And forgiving yourself may be an important part of this step as well, as sometimes we may end up blaming ourselves for the situation or hurt. While we indeed may have had some part to play in the hurt (see step 2), there’s no reason you need to keep beating yourself up over it. If you can’t forgive yourself, how will you be able to live in future peace and happiness?

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3 Comments

  1. Michelle June 26, 2019 at 8:44 am - Reply

    I have reported a scammer 3 different times and have not heard anything since. He has 2 identities James Acebedo and Sachin Sollapure. We had a relationship for 3 months until he was going to meet me. He said he was robbed while traveling. He asked for 6,500 when I refused he turned on me then asked me for a $200 Amazon gift card. I wouldn’t help him then he threatened to commit suicide and told me to get lost. I told him I was onto his scam and blocked him. He has blocked me but he is still on Instagram and Facebook looking for new victims. I sent pics and texts in all reports but nothing has happened. Please look into this to stop him. His phone is 3045843642 in Grafton, West Virginia born in Valencia, Spain he’s a Civil Engineer. Not a U S citizen here on work visa. Thank you

  2. Ed June 21, 2019 at 5:03 am - Reply

    Am always short a thousand or two. Keep Thinking if I had not been so stupid. As far as forgiveness. Let the good Lord do it I cant

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