Victim’s Paradox – The Desire For Certainty And How It Derails Recovery

Victim's Paradox - The Desire For Certainty And How It Derails Recovery How Scam Victims Often Sabotage Their Own Recovery In The Search For Certain Outcomes A SCARS Victim Recovery Insight What is the "Victim's Paradox"??? Do you want to be Certain? Victims of a crime demand certainty in all aspects of their interaction with law enforcement and the criminal justice system, and in their own recovery from these traumatic [...]

Loneliness – Before And After The Scam

Loneliness - Before And After The Scam The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight Loneliness Can Lead You Into Scams And Prevent You From Recovering We have noted over the years that many (most) scam victims talk about being vulnerable to a romance scam because they were lonely. Is This Really True? Though our need to connect is an essential part of us, many of us frequently feel alone. But [...]

A Quick Way To Understand The Brain & Trauma [Infographic]

A Quick Way To Understand The Brain & Trauma [Infographic] Courtesy of NICABM A SCARS Psychology of Scams Insight An Infographic that Provides a Quick and Simple Way to Think about the Brain Could having a map of the brain help victims better understand the concepts of trauma and its effects on the brain? For example, just being able to show victims what part of the brain controls emotion, or [...]

Why People Blame Victims?

Why People Blame Crime Victims? The Just-World Phenomena A SCARS Insight This Is Called The Just-World Phenonema  Why We Blame Victims In Order To Rationalize Why Bad Things Happen? According to VeryWellMind.com: The just-world phenomenon is the tendency to believe that the world is just and that people get what they deserve. Because people want to believe that the world is fair, they will look for ways to explain or rationalize [...]

Hindsight Bias! You Knew It All The Time!

Hindsight Bias! You Knew It All The Time! The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight You Knew It Was A Scam All The Time Right? Have you ever noticed that events seem more predictable after they have already happened? The results of an election, for example, often seem more obvious after the tallies have been counted. They say that hindsight is 20/20. In other words, things always seem more obvious [...]

The Dark Side of the Psychology of Scams – Schadenfreude

The Dark Side of the Victim Psychology - Schadenfreude The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight The Dark Side Of Victim Psychology For Many Years We Have Attempted To Understand The Obsessions Many Scam Victims Experience With Scammer Photos! PLEASE NOTE: This is not presented to make victims feel bad. This is shared to help victims take a look at their own emotions in the hope that it can bring [...]

Shame – Secrets & Lies

Shame - Secrets & Lies The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight A Common Response To Shame Is To Hide This Can Happen Both During The Scam And After It One of the ways the scam victims hide from the reality of their situation is by lying about their real situation. This deception of friends and family, may seem like the thing to do at the time, but it only [...]

Psychology of Scams – Article Catalog

Psychology of Scams The How & Why of Scam Psychology From Approach & Selection to Capture & Grooming, to Manipulation & Containment! Learn the answers to why this happened to someone like You! A SCARS Topic Collection Our Human Psychology Enables Us To Be Scammed! We Are Built To Be Manipulated And Scammers Know How To Do This! However, the more you know about these psychological processes, the [...]

After A Scam, No One Can Tell You How You Will React

After A Scam, No One Can Tell You How You Will React Trauma and the Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight Victim Trauma Response After The End Of A Relationship Scam Is Complex It is always important to remember that trauma does not always manifest the same in everyone. So much depends on a person's resilience to determine the lasting effects of their trauma. Additionally, many victims may believe that [...]

Living under Manipulation for Too Long Leaves Victims …

Living under Manipulation for Too Long Leaves Victims ... An Exploration of the Short-Term & Long-Term Effects of Long-Term Relationship Scams A SCARS Insight into the Psychology of Scams What Does Extending Exposure To Romance Scams Manipulation Do To Victims? Long-Term Scams Can Have Very Lasting Effects This article is intended for both scam victims and can be shared with family and friends to help them better understand the scam [...]

How To Confront A Scam Victim In Total Denial

How To Confront A Scam Victim In Total Denial For Families & Friends Of Scam Victims A SCARS Guide How To Confront A Scam Victim In Total Denial What To Say To A Romance Scam Addict In Denial IMPORTANT: If you are a victim and you are reading this - IT DOES NOT APPLY TO YOU! You are already working through your scam, you are seeking knowledge and help to [...]

Resilience, Recovery And Romance Scam Victims

Resilience, Recovery, And Romance Scam Victims Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight "Resilience" Is The Capacity To Recover Quickly From Difficulties; A Mental Toughness Psychological Resilience Is The Ability To Mentally Or Emotionally Cope With A Crisis Or To Return To Pre-Crisis Status Quickly Resilience exists when the person uses "mental processes and behaviors in promoting personal assets and protecting self from the potential negative effects of stressors". In [...]

Diversions – A Scammer’s Manipulative Technique

Diversions - A Scammer's Manipulative Technique Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight Scammer Diversions - Dodging The Bullet! A Diversion is a technique that telemarketers use to control the potential customer on the phone, steering them toward the desired outcome In the case of scammers, it is one way to maintain control over a victim. Scammers use simple techniques to avoid having to remember very much about a [...]

How To Know If You Are In Scam or Recovery Denial?

How To Know If You Are In Scam or Recovery Denial? Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight How to Know if I’m in Denial About Your Scam? Waking up day in and day out afraid or angry or refusing to deal with the reality in front of you isn’t a way to be happy. Neither is trying to ignore what happened to you! The tendency to dismiss mounting [...]

The Fear of Missing Out and Romance Scams

The Fear of Missing Out and Romance Scams The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight The Grass Is Always Greener - Except When It's Fake! Did FOMO Get You Too? FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is really nothing more than viewing the distant grass as greener than the lawn you’re standing on. This applies to both single people and people in committed relationships. In both cases, it is [...]

Forgiveness and Scams – Why It Matters So Much!

Forgiveness and Scams - Why It Matters So Much! The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight What Is Forgiveness? Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. What is forgiveness and how does it happen? We talk so much about forgiveness, throw around so many [...]