A Scam Victim’s 7 Deadly Sins

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A ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Victim’s 7 Deadly Sins

After a scam, bad decision making continues and leads many victims in directions that may feel satisfying but delays or avoids recovery.

Originally Published April 2019 – Updated January 2021

When Scam Victims Turn To The Dark Side

WARNING: Just because you are a scam victim does not make you an expert at cybercrimeCybercrime Cybercrime is a crime related to technology, computers, and the Internet. Typical cybercrime are performed by a computer against a computer, or by a hacker using software to attack computers or networks. nor will it instantly make your decision making reliable. The same problems that led you to be scammed are still at work in you.

The purpose of this article is not to blameBlame Blame or Blaming is the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. When someone is morally responsible for doing something wrong, their action is blameworthy. By contrast, when someone is morally responsible for doing something right, we may say that his or her action is praiseworthy. Blame imparts responsibility for an action or act, as in that they made a choice to perform that act or action., shameShame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness., or condemn, but to help recent victims understand that their after-scam decisions have just as many consequences as their decision to let their scammer in.

Who Are We (SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit www.AgainstScams.org to learn more about SCARS.) To Talk About This?

SCARS is a victims’ assistance and support organization. We have helped millions of victims learn about scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. and start on the path to recovery – literally almost 6 million (2021).

In addition, we have directly helped thousands recover through our own support groupsSupport Groups In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers.. We are also the only incorporated nonprofit registered online crime victims’ assistance organization in the United States supporting victims worldwide – we literally wrote the book on scam victim recovery. Plus, our leadership has 30 continuous years of experience working to help victims of online crime.

We have seen it all and help scam victims find the better path, but sadly many victims will rush headlong over the cliff into continuing destructiveness.

This article is intended to help victims understand the directions they have or may yet take. These directions avoid, derail, or prevent your recovery.

There Are Things That Some Victims Do After A Scam That Are Difficult To Reconcile And This Article Is About These

This is going to be an article that will be harsh, pulling no punches, and judgmental. Because behaviorBehavior   Behavior / Behavioral Actions Otherwise known as habits, behavior or behavioral actions are strategies to help prevent online exploitation that target behavior, such as social engineering of victims. Changing your behavior is the ONLY effective means to reduce or prevent scams. that harms other victims is not acceptable whether done by a scammer or by another victim. It will not apply to most of you, but you still need to know this because you will encounter them.

The First Fails

First, let’s talk about the inherent challenges facing a recent victim because most of the lasting mistakes start right after the scam.

  • Many victims are in a panic and start making decisions from a position of fear. Obviously, that is not the mindset to start planning next steps or thinking clearly.
  • Other victims are enraged and hate so much that all they see is the enemy and want them dead by whatever means is possible. Anyone that gets in their way or disagrees with them is also the enemy.
  • Others are envigorated following their scam – they have something of a revelation – that they personally are going to stop all the scammers and only they know the answer.
  • Still, others find themselves in various delusional states and act on them. We would hope they find help but many do not.
  • Also, many victims will fall into a state of denialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality. and while this is harmful to themselves and their immediate friends and family, it is not really harmful to other victims directly – but it is indirectly.

It is during this initial period that many of the victims that are unable to recover or fall into more severe states emerge. We hope that if you see these tendencies in yourself that you will work to control or overcome them, seeking professional help as needed. If you see these in others be cautious as the can drag you down just like a lifeguard saving a drowning swimmer.

The Longer Fails

Many scam victims after the scam embark on long journeys that can extend for years. These are the missionaries that channel their pain or angerAnger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. into missions to save or guide other victims. Many believe that only they know the answer and everyone else is an enemy. Many believe that victims should only follow them.

They are frequently vigilantes too who believe that no one is doing anything and they will stop scamming all by themselves.

Still, others, transform into cynical victims who delight in playing with scammers.

While it is true that there are many who have very useful skills that they have acquired throughout their lives, the majority of those that fall into these traps do not. They rely on their conviction, obsession, or fantasy, that they are the right person with the right ideas and do not have to listen to anyone else because they just know what to do. If they were in other walks of life they would live in a bunker or wear tinfoil hats!

7 DEADLY SINS

When we say deadly sins we mean actions that cause harm to others.

Everyone has the right to choose how they recover and react after a traumatic experience. However, they do not have the right to hurt others or get in the way of real solutions.

In fact, many of these actions are illegal in many Western Countries.

The Deadly Seven

Here is our list of the Seven Deadly Sins that a subset of victims engage in after they have been traumatized by a romance scam:

  • Messiahs & Cult Anti-Scam Group Creators – Capturing Other Victims With Urban Legends, Half-Truths, And Destructive Methods
  • Haters & Trolls Attacking All That Disagree – Only They Are Right
  • Vigilantes That Believe No One Is Doing Anything So They Have To Do It
  • Scam Baiters » That Turn Scammers Into Toys Or A Sport
  • Trackers & Stalkers » Of The Face In The Photo – Invading The Lives Of Other Victims
  • Panicked Victims That Cling To Other Victims Looking To Be Saved
  • Mules & Moles » Still Believing In Their Scams And Serving Their Scammers

We have written extensively on each and every one of these topics in the past and will again as the continuing need arises. We will not go into detail about each of these except to explain briefly why they are harmful to others.

Messiahs & Cult Anti-Scam Group Creators

Almost every day another victim believes they are an instant expert and creates yet another anti-scam group. They create a page on social media and start plastering it with mostly useless information. Worse still is that because of their lack of skill and knowledge they profoundly increase the traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. for many victims by their never-ending focus of forcing victims to view an endless stream of scammer photos. The majority of victims are traumatized after a scam and leading them to believe that “exposing” scammers to the public will stop scamming is ridiculous. Instead, it continuously forces other victims to relive their experience in these photos which can cause or triggerTRIGGERS A trigger is a stimulus that sets off a memory of a trauma or a specific portion of a traumatic experience. other effects that can limit or delay their ability to recover, or worse transform them into vigilantes or haters. Repetitive exposure to trauma can also lead to PTSD »

Victims Assistance is a profession with formalized training, certifications, and registrations in most Western Countries. The United States Department of Justice is the leader in the field through its Office of Victims of Crime and their sponsored organizations such as the National Center for Victims of Crime (which SCARS is registered under). The amateur messiah groups are not registered, not trained, not professional, and are simply harmful in most cases. SCARS maintains a strong set of ethical standards and a Code of Conduct for all of its Member Groups. Amateur and fake groups to not!

Haters & Trolls

Many victims succumb to their own hate for scammers and fall into a permanent state of anger against anyone that does not follow the same beliefs that they have.

Frequently they will also create their own anti-scam “ScamHaters” groups and wage war against others that properly help scam victims. The main problem with them and the messiahs is they tend to appeal to recent victims’ need for action and justice, and as such draw them into these fake amateur groups which can profoundly affect the recent victim’s ability to recover properly. In addition, their constant hate and battles against more rational groups or organizations that are making real progress create a general condition of confusion and can slow real progress against ending scamming overall.

Vigilantes

A variation on the haters and messiahs are the Vigilantes. These are victims that decide they are going to be the investigators, enforcers, judge, and jury of scammers. Unfortunately, it is also for anyone that gets in their way.

There is nothing wrong with investigating your own scam – within reason. What we mean is that after you have been scammed you want to know all you can about what happened to you – or at least you should. You may not understand how it happened and you may feel a sense of duty to help prevent it – that is admirable. However, if it is driven by rageRage Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. or hate it becomes something altogether different. It becomes destructive and harmful to others, and in many cases harmful to yourself.

It is important to recognize that there are limits to what you can do. By wanting to investigate these crimes victims have actually attacked the real people pictured in the stolen photos or others have harassed law enforcement for not doing enough when their hands are tied by international law and treaties. Vigilantes are over the top in terms of their reactions to a process that is now accelerating. Instead of being part of the solution, they chose to let their limited experience and knowledge make them a barrier to real progress.

Scam Baiters (Online or On Phone Vigilantes)

We have published extensively on Scam Baiters in the past, but a brief review is in order as a part of this article.

Scambaiters play with scammers based upon the belief that wasting a scammer’s time will reduce the number of victims or somehow magically cause scammers to give up. It is a complete self-conceit – meaning that it is a fantasy. ScambaitingScam Baiting A foolish activity where a victim or nonvictim engages in deception and fraud to lead on a scammer into revealing information or for the sport of it. Deliberate deception online, regardless of the reason, is both unethical and in many places may also be illegal. While not prosecuted, Scambaiting has no legitimate benefit and should never be performed by victims since it is an act of revenge and only amplifies trauma. It is a reprehensible practice that is popularized by amateur anti-scam groups driven by their hate for fraudsters. Learn more: SCARS Position Statement Against Scambaiting accomplishes NOTHING useful. If it did then why has scam baitingScam Baiting A foolish activity where a victim or nonvictim engages in deception and fraud to lead on a scammer into revealing information or for the sport of it. Deliberate deception online, regardless of the reason, is both unethical and in many places may also be illegal. While not prosecuted, Scambaiting has no legitimate benefit and should never be performed by victims since it is an act of revenge and only amplifies trauma. It is a reprehensible practice that is popularized by amateur anti-scam groups driven by their hate for fraudsters. Learn more: SCARS Position Statement Against Scambaiting not resulted in any meaningful arrests or even a reduction in scamming? It simply is nothing more than masturbation by the scam baiters, and worst the scam baiters are actually spending their time training scammers to be better at their communication skills. By the level of time that scam baiters spend with scammers in conversations improves the language skills and knowledge of the individual scammers and thus allows them to be more effective in scamming others. The result? Scambaiters create better scammers!

Scam baiters have turned the activity into a sport. They have clubs and groups devoted to baiting scammers and sharing their trophies (chat or email sessions). It is a self-indulgent – self-gratification and nothing more. Of course, they hate our organization because of our position on the subject. Our position is that if you engage in fraudFraud In law, fraud is intentional deception to secure unfair or unlawful gain (money or other assets), or to deprive a victim of a legal right. Fraud can violate civil law (e.g., a fraud victim may sue the fraud perpetrator to avoid the fraud or recover monetary compensation) or criminal law (e.g., a fraud perpetrator may be prosecuted and imprisoned by governmental authorities), or it may cause no loss of money, property, or legal right but still be an element of another civil or criminal wrong. The purpose of fraud may be monetary gain or other benefits, for example by obtaining a passport, travel document, or driver's license, or mortgage fraud, where the perpetrator may attempt to qualify for a mortgage by way of false statements. A fraud can also be a hoax, which is a distinct concept that involves deliberate deception without the intention of gain or of materially damaging or depriving a victim. online regardless of the goal you are also a fraudsterFraudster A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer.. You cannot use the tactics of scammers without it rubbing off on you, and this certainly does nothing to help them or others recover from the trauma of a scam. However, we do admit it makes good comedy!

While the police may not prosecute for it, scam baiting is engaging in online fraud against the scammers and is certainly unethical unless done by law enforcement.

Learn more about Scambaiting here

Trackers & Stalkers

WARNING: Tracking down and contacting the face in the photo is a crime called cyberstalking. Learn more here

One of the things that recent victims do that is profoundly disturbing is tracking down the real face in the photos that were stolen and used to scam them.

In the victim’s state of panic and confusion, this can be somewhat excused briefly. It is arguably natural to be curious about who’s face was in the photo that they formed an attachment to – a relationship with. They may want to do Google searches to identify the real person in the photo. But it is important to know for a fact – that the victim did not and does not have a relationship with that person – only with their photo. This is where curiosity can turn into an obsession or delusion and even into criminalCriminal A criminal is any person who through a decision or act engages in a crime. This can be complicated, as many people break laws unknowingly, however, in our context, it is a person who makes a decision to engage in unlawful acts or to place themselves with others who do this. A criminal always has the ability to decide not to break the law, or if they initially engage in crime to stop doing it, but instead continues. behavior.

Why would someone believe that it was acceptable to stalk a real person and invade their life? Many victims use the excuse that they just want to let the person know that their photos are being used by scammers – however, our experience is quite different. We have found that many victims use this as an excuse and that their real goal, even if they do not realize it, is to see if somehow magically when they meet the face they fell in love with that the other person will feel the same way. Of course, this is nonsensical.

It is triggered by the panic that sets in after the scam and fed by a desperate substitute fantasy that if you can just see that person somehow everything will be alright. But it will not. Not only will there be no relationship “pot of gold” at the end of the rainbow but the stalker is stomping through the life of another victim. The face in the photo is just as much of a victim – in this case of impersonationImpersonation An impersonator is someone who imitates or copies the behavior or actions of another. There are many reasons for impersonating someone, such as: part of a criminal act such as identity theft, online impersonation scam, or other fraud. This is usually where the criminal is trying to assume the identity of another, in order to commit fraud, such as accessing confidential information or to gain property not belonging to them. Also known as social engineering and impostors. – and every bit deserving of their own privacy. In addition, this kind of stalking is actually a crime in many cases.

More importantly, the impersonation victims already know they have had their identity and face stolen by scammers because hundreds or thousands of other victims cross the line and have stalked and tracked them down. Can anyone imagine what that is like for them and their families?

Panicked Victims

It is natural that after a scam victims are afraid and do not know where to turn. Fear can become severe. This is one of the reasons that so many victims take their own lives every day. However, it also becomes a problem when a victim attaches themselves to other victims obsessively.

We are very sympathetic about this, but just remember that other victims are going through their own issues and while they may initially accept connections it doesn’t mean they can or will save you, especially financially. We have seen many victims start to work in a group they have joined begging for help or money.

The amount of money some victims send to their scammers is staggering. Some send more than a million dollars, and so many in the tens of thousands. Dealing with the reality that a victim actually did that and then the aftermath of debt or potential homelessness is overwhelming. But other victims are dealing with the same things too and should be respected.

The proper course of action is to explore every available option the government and private means allow. There are programs that can provide financial assistance to victims of crimes, including mental healthMental health Mental health, defined by the World Health Organization (WHO), is "a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community". According to WHO, mental health includes "subjective well-being, perceived self-efficacy, autonomy, competence, intergenerational dependence, and self-actualization of one's intellectual and emotional potential, among others". From the perspectives of positive psychology or of holism, mental health may include an individual's ability to enjoy life and to create a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience. Cultural differences, subjective assessments, and competing professional theories all affect how one defines "mental health". programs as well. This is where it is appropriate to turn to, but not to turn into a burden for another victim. This should always be kept in mind.

Mules & Moles

Of course, Mules and Moles are victims that do not yet know they are victims – at least in most cases.

We mention them because not only is this one of the deadly sins that seriously affect other victims, but it is also a problem for them when they discover they were the victim of a scammer and helped the scammer harm others. This is a difficult thing to realize and so many simply hide in denialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality., which in its own way causes further harm to new victims because to prevents or delays the identification of the scammer and their victims.

A MuleMule A money mule sometimes called a "smurfer," is a person who transfers money acquired illegally (e.g., stolen) in person, through a courier service, or electronically, on behalf of others (usually criminals that they are knowingly or unknowingly affiliated). Typically, the mule is paid for services with a small part of the money transferred - but not always. Mules may or may not be aware that they are performing these actions. Money mules are often dupes recruited online for what they think is legitimate employment, not aware that the money they are transferring is the product of crime. The money is transferred from the mule's account to the scam operator, typically in another country. Similar techniques are used to transfer illegal merchandise. Mules can be prosecuted for numerous crimes. may have aided a scammer without knowing but once they discover the scam have a duty to report it to the police so they can help the other victims involved. Hiding the dirty little secret only allows the scammer to continue to victimize people without interruption. This has not only made them an accessory to the original crime but an accessory after the fact for hiding it.

Moles are more active participants in carrying out the instructions of the scammer by knowingly causing harm to others. They may not know they are being scammed, but by acting for the other person (the scammer) to spy on others they have crossed ethical and legal lines as well.

Moles and Mules are the most difficult to help after the scam because of their more active participation for the scammer. This brings a heavier level of guilt and shame, but without the full realization and willingness to report the crime, they only further compound it.

Path To Recovery

We have written extensively about the path victims should take towards recovering after a romance scam, but the most essential element or act is simply acceptance.

Each victim has to accept what happened to them and that they are not anyone’s savior. They are a victim in need of help to recover – either an organization like SCARS or local counselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes. A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists". SCARS does not provide mental health counseling. – but recovery is a process and it is hard to follow on your own. Once a person is substantially recovered and healed then you can turn to help others and they will welcome your help, but not before. Doing it before you are ready will only cause more harm than good.

A Role You Can Play

One of the roles that recent victims can play that truly can help others is by sharing their stories. Being honest and open about what happened to you will help others understand and come forward as well. This is not being a savior, it is just being human and putting yourself there! If you do, you will be surprised at how much support will come your way! Just remember, not everyone that reaches out to you will have your best interest at heart, some will be saviors and vigilantes and haters more interested in using you than helping you, so be on guard always! But it is still worth doing because it helps you most.

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There are SCARS Groups and SCARS Partner Groups around the world to help you. We are also here to listen and guide you to where you may find help.

For those who took the time to read through this, we wish you all the very best, and we hope you understand that our goal is to see every victim recover their former selves again, but when they engage in behavior that harms others it needs to be called out.

We hope you can find your path and just know that we will be here if you want or need us!

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  1. Steve Jones January 23, 2021 at 1:06 am - Reply

    I’ve been corresponding with a girl (?) from Ghana for almost 2 years. Your articles definitely have helped me know she is a scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer., especially her fake pictures. Im having trouble acceptlng it , that she is not who she says. So instead of confronting her i look up another article here. Thank you.

    • SCARS™ Editorial Team January 23, 2021 at 8:46 pm - Reply

      Thank you for your comment. Yes, acceptance is a very hard thing, especially when you don’t have PROOF. Though you don’t need proof since their behaviorBehavior  

      Behavior / Behavioral Actions

      Otherwise known as habits, behavior or behavioral actions are strategies to help prevent online exploitation that target behavior, such as social engineering of victims. Changing your behavior is the ONLY effective means to reduce or prevent scams. is all you need. Men have the hardest time with scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost., especially when they think about the fact that they are talking to men. If you lost money, report it to the police and get a report number, then talk to a victim’s advocate through the police department about victims’ counselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes.

      A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists".

      SCARS does not provide mental health counseling. – it will help you to have someone local that you can talk to candidly. Unfortunately, men do not really participate in support groupsSupport Groups In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers.. But you are welcome to come and join on of our groups – but you will need to completely break off all contact first. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SCARS.Avoidance.Information.Public.Group

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