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SCARS™ Insights: Beware Of Scam Victim Saviors

We Wanted To Share Some Thoughts On Scam Victim Saviors

Be careful what you believe out there, misunderstanding and urban legends are everywhere.

Countless victims believe they are instant experts.

A significant percentage of victims instantly believe they are experts just because they went through a scam. Being a victim does not make anyone an expert. As the saying goes, it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at something.

But the desperate need to restore control leads people into wanting and believing to be in control when they are really not. At least not yet.

Also, many victims fall into the delusion that they are the ONLY person that can save other victims. This is a real mental condition known as “Savior Complex” or “Messiah Complex” and may require assistance from a mental health professional (which we are not). Be watchful for people like this, they will pull you off course, try to dominate you in comments, and either prevent your real recovery or prevent you from recovering at all because they live in a constant state of outrage and anger while projecting concern for your wellbeing.

Scam Victims Are Easy Prey To The Incompetent Amateurs Out There

You were scammed once, and it only confirms that you are susceptible to being scammed again. Avoiding scams is not about attitude, nor is it about knowledge alone.

It is about a combination of knowledge and new behaviors that hold you back when you want to make an impulsive action. It is about learning that your emotions are easily hijacked, so you change your behavior to give yourself time to let it fade. Avoid Messiahs.

Saviors are every bit as dangerous as scammers because saviors believe they are the only one that knows anything – when in reality they only know bits and pieces, and large amounts of false or urban legends spread by other victims who have also been misled. They tend to be very domineering with other victims and argumentative towards real professionals.


There are thousands of one-person or small amateur anti-scam groups. Always be careful of who you trust and follow. They are a big part of the reason why less than a third of victims actually recover. And all the amateur anti-scam groups combined have never made a dent in the growth of scamming.

We are always on guard for saviors in our pages and groups and remove them, just as we do moles, and mules and victims still engaged with or in denial over their scammers, not to mention scammers themselves. Our goal is to help you by keeping the threats out.

It is always a disappointment to remove someone from one of our pages or groups who assumes the position form the moment they enter that they are an instant expert. But we have also learned over the years that we can’t help them until they are willing to be helped. It is the age-old saying that you do all that you can do and ignore the rest.

But the truth is we don’t ask you to trust us. Use what you find useful or not, that is up to you. We have a process that we follow. We are professionals recognized by governments around the world. We literally wrote the recovery program for scam victims and help 1,000 times more people than any other “group” – almost 4.8 Million victims this year alone.

We are a nonprofit corporation and the only incorporated and government registered victims’ assistance organization dedicated to cybercrimes in the world. We have been combating cybercriminals for 27 years. That gives us a different perspective. We are certified cybersecurity, social, and regulatory professionals.

Do Your Homework. Trust The Trustworthy, But Not Because They Say So!

We hope you find this SCARS page or group beneficial. We hope we can help you avoid scammers and to recover who you were before. We offer support groups if you feel you need help. But if not, that’s ok too – we will wish you well.

Just remember that the duty is on you to be watchful and thoughtful and cautious in everything you do online. Because somebody always wants something, either your money or your loyalty or your time. Be sure you choose wisely.

Tom Borman
Division Manager

SCARS the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Incorporated


A SCARS Division
Miami Florida U.S.A.



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It is essential that law enforcement knows about scams & scammers, even though there is nothing (in most cases) that they can do.

Always report scams involving money lost or where you received money to:

  1. Local Police – ask them to take an “informational” police report – say you need it for your insurance
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This helps your government understand the problem, and allows law enforcement to add scammers on watch lists worldwide.

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