Scammers Know How To Groom You! They Begin To Hook You With Common Interests
Scammers Know How To Start A Conversation With You And Spark A Friendship
From your religion, hobbies, a line of work, etc., they use everything against you to bend you to their will.
Once you accept their friend request or their connection, they will carefully scan information from your profile information and use it to start a conversation with you. It takes very little time before unsuspecting victims start divulging more information which the scammer uses to further the friendship or romantic relationship. In fact, some scammers will even adjust their social media profiles to adapt to the storyline, so they are an even better match for you.
Romance Scams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Are Big Business
Scammers generally do not work alone. They are part of larger groups, sometimes numbering in the thousands. They have specialists for each stage of the scam, and hire professional writers to write scripts for them. In 2019 UK woman was jailed for writing such scamming scripts. You can find writers for very little money on platforms such as FIVERR
Some scammers don’t bother getting original content, so they lift such things as romantic poetry and verses from the Internet. And of course, they steal photos from real people to be the pace that lures in the victim.
Anti-Scam Tip – Did You Know?
Did you know that you can copy and paste the scammer messages (text) into Google to see if they have been used and reported before? You can easily check such content online to find out whether or not they are used over and over. However, even if you don’t find it, it does not mean they are NOT a scammer.
A simple rule: If you suspect something is wrong – IT IS! Stop Block Blocking is a technical action usually on social media or messaging platforms that restricts or bans another profile from seeing or communicating with your profile. To block someone on social media, you can usually go to their profile and select it from a list of options - often labeled or identified with three dots ••• and Report right then. Don’t waste your time trying to convince yourself they are real.
Each Person (Victim) Is Different
Every victim is a different person, though scammers try to reduce these differences by seeking out victims that fit particular characteristics. These include:
- Recently Divorced
- Have Children
- Have Pets
- Are Very Busy With Work, or
- Are Very Unoccupied
- Have A Religious Affiliation
- Have Had Tragedies In Their Past
- Support Nonprofits & Charities
With just these and a few more attributes; a scammer can easily project commonalities with their victims. This is how the Scam Grooming Process begins.
It is important to always remember that scammers perfect their approaches by talking with thousands of similar victims. They have their pitches and scripts perfected based upon those that work and result in money. Every time a victim accepts a connection with a fraudster A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer., the scammer learns. They learn even from their failures – this is exactly like telemarketing – the more they connect, the better they will be!
Scammers “Love” Widowers
People who have lost a loved one are especially vulnerable. They are walking wounds that in most cases are not healed or only partially. Scammers know how to reach through the screen and exploit these victims expertly. Scammers use stories of being a widow themselves to both lure in victims and to establish empathy. People who have lost someone understand the pain (fake though it is) that the scammer claims to have.
Widowers are usually lonely, they still carry grief, and frequently need to talk about what happened. Scammers begin gently and draw the story out, letting the victim supply the communication they need during this grooming phase. Once they get the victim talking, then 90% of the “hook” is set.
The Recently Divorced
Just like with Widowers, recently divorced people are usually full of residual pain and conflict. The divorce also disrupts their social or support circles in many ways, and victims are eager for support, confirmation, and just having a friendly ear to talk to. They will open up and share all the information a scammer needs.
Divorced people also often harbor feelings of anger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam.
A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically.
Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability., resentment, and guilt – especially when children are involved and scammers know how to exploit this. The more a scammer can get a victim to talk about those feelings, the more sympathetic they appear and the more likely they will be able to turn this into a relationship and control the victim.
Victims With Children
Scammers know that the key to grooming a victim is to get them projecting – their own wants and needs on the blank slate that is the scammer.
Everyone loves to talk about their children, either good or bad. All of it works for the scammer. As the victim talks, emotions flood to the surface (these are hormones) and scammers are experts at manipulating them.
Most parents, especially single parents, have challenges in their lives, and just having someone to listen to them is a great help. Being able to share situations and their daily lives is a perfect tool that scammers can use to wedge open the victims to be even more vulnerable to manipulation.
Additionally, fraudsters know that victims with children are more susceptible to blackmail and threats at the end of the scam. Scammers will use every word that a victim says against them – either during the grooming and manipulation phases, or later on when they are trying to get the last little bits of money from a victim.
Victims With Pets
A person that cares for pets – we do not mean breeders or owners of working animals – is obviously a generous person. They are empathetic and probably kind. These are characteristics that scammers can and will exploit. Additionally, pets are also a very useful lure since pet owners are naturally attracted to other pet owners. We see this in the scammer’s use of stolen photos that show an animal. They use this as a way to both get the victim to lower their guard, but also to begin their conversations. Pet owners, like parents, love to talk about their babies.
Very Busy People
These are good candidates, especially if they have other characteristics from the list also. Busy people don’t have a lot of time to focus on extraneous things, so the