Are You A Victim Of Sextortion?
GET HELP. REPORT IT. NOW!
This Is A Serious Crime, and Police WILL Understand.
It is a form of Blackmail!
You need to report it.
Police are not as good with Romance and Other Kinds Of Scams, But They Understand Extortion And Treat It Seriously. Police are well trained to help in these cases, they WILL help you.
If someone threatens you with sharing sexual photos or videos of you unless you send them more or pay them money, #SayNO!
Follow these steps
- Don’t share more.
- Don’t pay anything.
- If they ask for more photos or videos, don’t send any more.
- If you have already paid, check if the money has been collected.
- If yes, take note of where it was collected from.
- If no, cancel the payment – the sooner the better.
Many victims who have paid have continued to get more demands for money. In some cases, even when the demands have been met the offenders will still go on to post explicit videos.
The only way it will end is to bring in the police!
For more information on Sextortion read this: How to Survive a Sextortion Scam
Look for help. You are not alone.
- If you are a Teen or a Child, this is NOT YOUR FAULT!
- Look for an adult that you trust, or for your friends’ support.
- Don’t face this problem on your own. Consider talking to one or more of the following – they will be able to support you:
- Your Family: parents, brothers, sisters, or any other relatives. Yes, they may freak out, but they will get over that quickly and help you get this solved.
- Your Local Police – they are really good when it comes to things like this!
- Your Friends (your friends may not know anything or think they know more than they really do).
- Friends’ parents, teachers, carers, counselors, coach, or leader of an activity group.
- A helpline – even if you are NOT thinking about suicide, you can call a Crisis Hotline – they know how to help in these situations.
- Preserve evidence. Don’t delete anything.
- Save the messages exchanged, including any photos/videos that were sent.
- Take screenshots of all your communications.
- Write down all the details provided by the offenders, for example:
- The details of the online communication platform (name, user ID, URL)
- The payment site suggested and where to send the money.
- Stop communication. Block Blocking is a technical action usually on social media or messaging platforms that restricts or bans another profile from seeing or communicating with your profile. To block someone on social media, you can usually go to their profile and select it from a list of options - often labeled or identified with three dots ••• the person.
- Once you have all the evidence saved, block the person.
- Check your other chats and social media accounts in case the offender tries to contact you via one of them.
- Report it to the social media channel. Use the online reporting process. You can request to have inappropriate photos/ videos of yourself removed from social media platforms and search engines.
- Deactivate your social media account, instead of deleting it (if possible). (There is a way to do this on Facebook in your Profile Setting)
This way, the data is preserved and will assist the police to obtain more evidence. You can reactivate it afterward, ensuring your online memories are not lost forever.
Report It To The Police
Contact your local police. They will take your case seriously, and deal with it in confidence, without judging you. Ask them for victim support, they will be able to help.
Just call the Police Emergency number, and say this is not an emergency as ask to speak with a Police Officer. Ask them if they can send an Officer to where you are that you need to report a crime, but do not want to talk about it on the phone. You can ask for a Female Officer if you prefer, sometimes that makes it easier to talk about what happened.
REMEMBER, THIS IS CRIME AGAINST YOU
YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT. GOT IT?
Advice For Friends & Peers
Is your friend being extorted or coerced online?
Your friend might think there is no escape and will probably feel trapped. This is not true. There is help out there and you can help them find it:
- Talk to them about how they are feeling. Listen to them. Advise them to talk to SOMEONE (if they are a Teen or a Child – to an adult) they trust.
- Advise them to report it to the police. They will not be in trouble, they are a victim of a crime.
- Whoever is doing this to your friend is committing a crime.
- You Report it, so that the police can investigate the case and arrest the criminal A criminal is any person who through a decision or act engages in a crime. This can be complicated, as many people break laws unknowingly, however, in our context, it is a person who makes a decision to engage in unlawful acts or to place themselves with others who do this. A criminal always has the ability to decide not to break the law, or if they initially engage in crime to stop doing it, but instead continues.. Even if your friend will not report it, it is your duty to do it for them. In the end, they will understand why you tried to help them.
Advice For Parents, Teachers, And Professionals
For Children/Teen Victims
If your child, your child’s friend, or someone that trusts you, is potentially a victim of online sexual coercion or extortion, there are organizations that can help. Start with your local police.
For Adult Victims
If your friend or family member that trusts you, is potentially a victim of online sexual coercion or extortion, there are organizations that can help. Start with your local police.
WHAT TO DO?
Assess the risks:
What did they share?
- Was it a photo, video, or personal information when chatting?
- Are they embarrassed by the content? If so, why?
- Could the information be used to locate them?
- Was it shared with someone they have never met face-to-face?
Find out what they know about the person?
- Ask if they have felt threatened or uncomfortable in any way.
- If they have been asked to share sexual photos or videos, or they are being extorted for money, this is illegal and the crime should be reported to the police as soon as possible.
- Was it shared with friends and then the extortion happened?
- Is your friend or family member worried about what they will do with the information?
Never worry that someone else will get in trouble. If this is not an organized criminal, then you are helping the other person avoid more serious problems in the future if they keep doing this.
How was it shared?
Explore how it began. Ask how the contact started, in which platform were they first approached, and how have they been communicating with the person. Find out how many people might be able to see the content the child has shared.
In The Case Of Children Or Teen Victims
Take Control. Offer your support.
The child is a victim and needs to be comforted and reassured.
TELL THEM THIS IS NOT THEIR FAULT
THEY DID SOMETHING DUMB
BUT THEY ARE NOT IN TROUBLE
THEY WILL NOT GO TO JAIL
The extortionists may have told them incredible things and threats. You need to tell the child that NONE of that was true, it was just a threat, and you are going to get help and people to protect them (the police)
Follow the advice mentioned in the article and take steps to make sure they don’t become a victim again. (Our advice change your child’s phone to a Flip Phone – as dumb as you can find!)
In the case of children or teens, if a schoolmate is using personal information online to bully the child, you should speak to their school urgently. If the pressure comes from a peer outside of the school environment (sports activities, a neighbor, etc.), you should approach the police and let them contact the relevant responsible adult, for instance, a trainer or parent.
If you are in a position of trust, encourage the child to disclose the information to their parents and offer to be a facilitator or “go-between”. If possible, try to get someone else to chaperon or sit in with you and make notes.
Tips to encourage the child to talk:
- Make sure they know they can trust you.
- Give them time and space and listen attentively to what they say.
- Don’t judge.
- Ask them if there is something, in particular, they need you to do.
- Let them know that if they would rather talk to someone else, that’s fine, and help them to arrange that conversation.
If You Become Aware Of A Child Being Sextorted
Remember, if this is NOT your child you have a RESPONSIBILITY TO BRING IN THE POLICE. If the child does NOT want you to tell the parents, then don’t – let the police do it. BUT YOU MUST BRING THE POLICE INTO THE DISCUSSION WITH THE CHILD BY LAW.
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