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You Need To Let Go
A touch of “tough love” from Romance Scams Now
A victim recently corresponded with us about how he was scammed over a 6 month period by a Ghana scammer known as “GIFTY.” If you have read our website, you would know that anyone in Ghana named “Gifty” should be assumed to be a scammer.
What is always tragic is how hard it is to accept the fact that it was a scam.
Yet accepting that fact is essential to recovering from the scam.
Being a victim of a romance scam is the equivalent of being psychologically raped.
It was a lie, and they cut you to your soul.
When you discover this, you are angry and depressed. You know it to be true, but you can’t or won’t believe it. You want to reach the real person and find out if it was so. The fact is you were just a pawn, you were being used as a means to an end. They just wanted your money.
How you hate them for that.
You are smarter now, less trusting. Except you are likely to be scammed again. You are your own worst enemy.
Our statistics show that the average victim will be scammed between two and three times before they truly get it. Why? Because as Fox Mulder says “I want to believe”. You want to believe there is a person for you out there, and in fact, there is, but you have to be smart about it.
You have to learn the ways of the scammers, in order to avoid being scammed.
YOU have to do it for yourself.
You have to learn, and accept what has happened to you.
What are YOU doing that is REAL?
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When you encounter a scammer document everything – don’t be lazy You need to get emails, profile web addresses, phone numbers, names, everything you can
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Report EVERY SCAMMER you find here: www.Anyscam.com or on this website. This publishes the information worldwide to governments, law enforcement, websites, and social media.
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If you feel you need help contact us We are the crime victims’ assistance and support division of SCARS. Talking about your scam is important and helps you come to grips with your experience
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Comment when you have something to say to others. Just clicking LIKE is lazy – you have knowledge and experience – share it with words. However, this is a serious subject, so please treat it that way.
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Report the scam to your national police (FBI, PNP, RCMP, MET, etc.) Most Western Nations make this easy through online report forms – don’t expect anything to happen, but it helps inform your government on who and how big the problem is
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Report the scam to Your Local Police There are many reasons for this, including being able to take advantage of local crime victims’ assistance resources.
You can stay at home and complain all you want, nothing will change unless WE MAKE IT CHANGE.
So try to move through it
Regardless, Do something NOW!
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- Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims
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A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
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The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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