Surviving Sextortion / Sexual Photo Blackmail

Surviving Sextortion / Sexual Photo Blackmail

(Last Updated On: March 24, 2022)

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Surviving Sextortion / Sexual Photo Blackmail

A SCARS™ Guide

Sextortion Uses Explicit Photos Taken From The Victim

Sextortion uses explicit photos either provided willingly or by other means (such as hacking) to use them against the victim

What is Sextortion? Click Here to see an official FBI Video introduction


Sextortion As Coercion

Sextortion can be a form of sexual exploitation that employs non-physical forms of coercion to extort sexual or other favors from the victim. Sextortion (on Wikipedia) refers to the broad category of sexual exploitation in which abuse of power is the means of coercion, as well as to the category of sexual exploitation in which threatened release of sexual images or information is the means of coercion.

Sextortion As Blackmail

Sextortion also refers to a form of blackmail in which sexual information or images are used to extort money from the victim. Social media and text messages are often the source of the sexual material and the threatened means of sharing it with others. An example of this type of sextortion is where people are extorted with a nude image of themselves they shared on the Internet through sexting. They are later blackmailed for money or something of monetary value.

Sextortion Can Be Used By Romance Scammers

After a basic romance scam is completed by the victims discovering the truth or when they stop paying, the scammers frequently will turn to sextortion as a means of obtaining more money. Most romance scammers will try some form of follow-on scam if they are able, either blackmail (which can include disclosure to friends and family), or other deceptions, such as money recovery scamsRecovery Scams If you've already fallen for a scam, another scammer may call you and offer to get you your money back for a fee. Their goal is to double-dip and steal more of your money. Unfortunately, in most cases, only real law enforcement or your government can get your money back. There are exceptions, but you are safer to avoid all recovery options., investigative scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost., and more.

Dealing With It

Obviously, dealing with sextortion would not be necessary if the photos in question were not out there. The obvious lesson is they should have never been out there, and we can but hope that it is a lesson you will pass along to others – especially teenage girls and boys since they are heavily victimized in sextortion scams.

If there is any good news in this, it is that there are potential approaches to dealing with both the scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. and if the worst happens and they are released or published.

Basic Defense

After a scam, it is critically important to stop all contact with the scammer, and not to let them know that you know.

This is because an angry scammer is a more dangerous scammer. Not that they are going to get on a plane to come and assault you, but you fed them a steady diet of information that they can use against you. Either private information that you shared or photos.

In fact, it doesn’t even matter if you gave them something that you fear the world knowing, they are quite capable of making it up or faked photos.

Every Victim Has Three Main Things To Worry About After The Scam:

  • Disclosure of real or fake information or photos
  • Exploitation or leveraging of your family and friends since you gave them access to all of them
  • ImpersonationImpersonation An impersonator is someone who imitates or copies the behavior or actions of another. There are many reasons for impersonating someone, such as: part of a criminal act such as identity theft, online impersonation scam, or other fraud. This is usually where the criminal is trying to assume the identity of another, in order to commit fraud, such as accessing confidential information or to gain property not belonging to them. Also known as social engineering and impostors. of you to scam others since you provided the information need to make a modest facsimile of you online

However, if you blockBlock Blocking is a technical action usually on social media or messaging platforms that restricts or bans another profile from seeing or communicating with your profile. To block someone on social media, you can usually go to their profile and select it from a list of options - often labeled or identified with three dots ••• them before they are the wiser, then all they will know if that you disappeared. They will expend some energy to reconnect, but they will give up quickly.

The First Rule Of Scamming:

It is a game of numbers!

Don’t waste time on someone that will not pay!

Scammers will rarely waste time if there is no payday! Unless you make them angry and they want revenge. Though most of the time even their angerAnger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. is fake.

What If They Do It?

What if you realistically expect a scammer to follow through? Usually, because you gave them the photos they will be using.


Think it through, what really would be the impact if some scammer sent your photos around or posted them online?

You would be able to get them taken down from social media since the major social media like Twitter and Facebook do not allow them and will remove them when reported.

What would be your family’s and your friend’s reaction – might consternation and then thinking you were just dumb, or something more serious? You need to logically try to make this assessment.

However, never ever pay the blackmailing scammer, because it will never stop them. They will continuously ask for more and more money!

The Simplest CountermeasureCountermeasure An action or device that reduces a vulnerability or other negative action or attack. Countermeasures can be to stop a cyberattack or cybercrime, other types of crime, emotional trauma, or other negative consequence to a victim.

The easiest, though mildly embarrassing, is to simply alert family and friends!

NO! Do not tell them these are your photos – you don’t need to do that. You feed them a MORE believable story they will easily accept – mostly true with a small white lie in the middle!

Here Is A Sample Message You Can Send Out To Family And Friends:

Hi, I need to alert you that some scammer tried to scam me but failed. He threatened to create nude photos of me and send them to my family and friends. He said they can do it so perfectly that no one would know they were fake. I wanted you to know about this so you will avoid such scams, and in the event that you get anything like this please delete them!

You have probably heard how good these DeepFake photos and videos are getting!

I have no intention to giving into this kind of online blackmail, so I don’t know if they will do it or not. Be especially careful if any of your children might get them, watch their email and social media accounts for the next month or so. Make sure no one accepts any friend or contact requests from strangers. Please let everyone know that that is how it begins, and once they get through it is how they try to blackmail.

I am sorry that I have to share this with you and I am deeply embarrassed but I felt the best defense is to proactively warn everyone!

Thank you for understanding and your help!

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Involving The Police

Sextortion is both a local crime in many places and also a Federal Crime (in most countries).

If the scammer follows through, then you should report this to the police. That opens some doors and may get the national cybercops on the trail. However, do not expect an easy solution. If the scammers are in Africa (for example) your police are not going there to arrest them.

But filing the police report means that they can alert social media and email providers and they can do some things to help stop it.

The Reality

The reality of this is that once they are out there you cannot easily stop it. So it is better to create a counter story that will work for you if or when they ever surface.

We wish we had a better answer, that there was some magical Internet Police that could stop the bad guys to harming real innocent people, but there is no such thing. However, law enforcement around the world does their best, with the help of NGOs like SCARS to address these problems.

In the end, if the scammer has an incentive to release them they will. So deny them an incentive. Never talk with them, never pay them. Scammers have a short attention span!

SCARS Guide To Sextortion – Click Here

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FAQ: How Do You Properly Report Scammers?

It is essential that law enforcement knows about scams & scammers, even though there is nothing (in most cases) that they can do.

Always report scams involving money lost or where you received money to:

  1. Local PoliceLocal Police The Local Police is your first responder in most countries. In most English-speaking countries and in Europe report to them first. In other countries look for your national cybercrime police units to report scams to. In the U.S., Canada, & Australia, you must report to the local police first. – ask them to take an “informational” police report – say you need it for your insurance – get a police report number
  2. U.S. State Police (if you live in the U.S.) – they will take the matter more seriously and provide you with more help than local police
  3. Your National Police or FBIFBI FBI - Federal Bureau of Investigation The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) is the domestic intelligence and security service of the United States and its principal federal law enforcement agency. Operating under the jurisdiction of the United States Department of Justice, the FBI is also a member of the U.S. Intelligence Community and reports to both the Attorney General and the Director of National Intelligence. A leading U.S. counter-terrorism, counterintelligence, and criminal investigative organization, the FBI has jurisdiction over violations of more than 200 categories of federal crimes, including financial fraud. & FTCFTC The Federal Trade Commission (FTC) is an independent agency of the United States government whose principal mission is the enforcement of civil (non-criminal) U.S. antitrust law and the promotion of consumer protection. The FTC can also act as a clearinghouse for criminal reports sent to other agencies for investigation and prosecution. To learn more visit or to report fraud visit
  4. The SCARS|CDN™ Cybercriminal Data Network – Worldwide Reporting Network on

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