(Last Updated On: March 24, 2022)

White Knight SyndromeSyndrome It is a group of symptoms that can consistently occur together or a condition characterized by a set of associated symptoms.

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Many Men Feel An Immediate Compulsion To Rescue Women In Need

This quickly opens the door for fake female romance scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost..

What Is The White Knight Syndrome?

The “White Knight Syndrome” is also called “The Hero Syndrome.”  Not to be confused with Savior Syndrome

White Knight Syndrome is a term used to describe someone who feels compelled to “rescue” people in intimate relationships, often at the expense of their own needs.

Although the term frequently refers to males who rush to save the perceived “damsels in distress,” anyone of any gender can technically suffer from White Knight Syndrome.

In fact, since women are socialized to be emotional caretakers in relationships, they can also demonstrate signs of White Knight Syndrome in their relationships, and this makes them subject to easy manipulation by scammers.

White Knights are the ones who dream about being the great hero, riding in on their charger [horse] (or motorcycle, muscle car, rocket, etc.) to save the damsel in distress. They are the ones who try to live by a self-imposed anachronistic code of chivalry and gallantry. They’re the ones attracted to the “distressed”, the depressed, needy or damaged women, convinced that they can “rescue” them from themselves.

This makes them predisposed towards being manipulated in both real life and in scams.

White Knight Commonalities

White Knights often have a history of loss, abandonment, traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS., or unrequited love. Many of them are emotionally sensitive and vulnerable; traits that cause them to be hurt easily by others and a perfect victim for romance scams.

Empathy, the ability to understand and identify with the feelings of another is a highly developed character trait of all White Knights. Yet the White Knight’s ability to put himself into another person’s shoes can be used against them in a scamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost..

How Does White Knight Syndrome Work?

Men with the White Knight Syndrome have a strong inclination to seek women who are or appear to be in need of help (usually the more help the better) and can easily be manipulated into providing that help without requesting anything in return.

With this penchant towards saving women comes a whole set of perceptions (many of them unconscious) that model the White Knight’s emotions and behaviorBehavior   Behavior / Behavioral Actions Otherwise known as habits, behavior or behavioral actions are strategies to help prevent online exploitation that target behavior, such as social engineering of victims. Changing your behavior is the ONLY effective means to reduce or prevent scams..

The Archetypal White Knight:

  • They see women as powerless and unable to defend or take care of themselves
  • They see women’s problems as the result of misfortune or the cruelty of this world, never as their own fault. Women are never responsible for their troubles
  • They consider it is men’s responsibility to help women solve their problems and sees doing so as a sign of nobility
  • They think a woman will forever be grateful to a man who helps her. She will praise him, love him and give herself to him
  • They see men in black and white: they are either good or bad, there is no middle ground, and the decisive factor is how they treat women
  • The needs of others are treated as more important than their own
  • They will persist in helping even when it has been made clear that their help is not needed
  • They think they know best about what works and what doesn’t for others
  • They want other people to need them and will go from one person to the next offering assistance in order to gain this sense of being needed
  • When others ask for their assistance and they are unable to help they are overcome with guilt
  • They exhaust themselves in taking care of other people’s needs
  • They feel utterly rejected when their assistance is not welcome

The Typical White Knight Romance Scam

Typically men are contacted out of the blue by a pretty woman – usually, drop dead gorgeous. Of course, these are usually stolen photos of a porn star or model – since they offer the most alluring images and these women are selected for their visual appeal.

The fake female will quickly develop an emotional connection with the man and then initiate an emergency. This allows the White Knight to come forth!

Any scam victim who has gone through this will immediately recognize this chain of events and their own response to it.

Like all romance scam victims, the scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. uses this White Knight trait against the victim and exploits the syndrome. This can lead to significant financial loss for these victims.

However, once the scam ends, this is where the White Knight diverges from regular scam victims in the best approach for their recovery.

Recovery From A White Knight Related Romance Scam

In almost all romance scams the scammers use every trick in the book to triggerTRIGGERS A trigger is a stimulus that sets off a memory of a trauma or a specific portion of a traumatic experience. the initial Amygdala Hijack and then employ significant continuous manipulation to get what they want.

Most romance scams victims were vulnerable. Some had a marriage or relationship end. Some lost a loved one. It places them in a particularly difficult place once the scam is discovered and ends, but these can recover in time.

White Knights, on the other hand, need to recover from the scam and also address their deeper issues with being a White Knight.

In most cases, this is beyond the romance scam victims’ support that can be provided safely and effectively. In their cases, this will likely need the help of a professional counselor or therapist to help them unwind both the scam and White Knight Syndrome at the same time. We have observed that such men also have a great feeling of rageRage Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. once they discover the scam that does not fade in time as would be normal for most victims.

Our Recommendation

It is for these reasons that we recommend counselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes. A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists". SCARS does not provide mental health counseling. for most male victims

Fortunately, whether man or woman, in the United States we have governmental support to pay for counseling for victims of reported crimes. Counseling is also available in many other countries as well paid for by their national health system.

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