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Scam Victim Recovery Is Not A Mystery
Follow The Process, Avoid Amateurs, Make A Commitment
About Scam Victim Recovery
A SCARS Insight
Recovery Is Not Mystical – It Is Mechanical
Scam Victim Recovery is about following the recovery process.
May scam victims talk about their confusion about recovering. They don’t know what to do or how to recover. Yet this process only requires two things: following the process and time.
We have said this many times before and in many different ways, but here is a brief overview again.
You know what to do if you are working the process:
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Start with the 3 Steps for New Victims.
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Join a Support Group & Start Counseling – so you have access to proper guidance. SCARS offers support groups online on Facebook, and to find a qualified trauma counselor click here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/trauma-and-ptsd Avoid amateur groups, especially those that focus on exposing scammers – this only increases your trauma.
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Participate actively – in the support group, in counseling – share what you feel and what you are going through – secrets are the enemy of recovery.
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Journaling every day – use the SCARS BLUE BOOKS or a journal of your choice – every day record how long it has been since your scam ended, how you are feeling, and your daily challenges. The key is to do it every day!
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Daily reminders of your recovery – we offer them in our store or chose any others to remind you why you need to push forward and that you are not to blame!
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Share your story, thoroughly in the support group and in counseling. Holding back is just keeping it secret and not helping you work through it!
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Acknowledge your milestones of progress. Every month that passes is a month further away from the scam.
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Follow the SCARS Steps 8 step program (available in book form here)
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Learn all that you can about your psychology and why this happened to you – this removes guilt, shame, and self-blame – you are already on the right website for that.
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Tell others about what happened to you – to educate and share – when you are ready, but start with trusted family and friends because they are also at risk.
These are the basics and if you follow them they work. The reason so many are confused or not progressing faster is that they are not following them.
This requires a commitment to your own future. If you don’t feel so good, do two things: read RomanceScamsNOW.com and write in your journal – these will help you get through the rough patches. Then talk about what you learned or how you are feeling in the support group and with your counselor.
It is NOT hard if you do it.
If you don’t, it will take much longer to recover. But that is a choice you are forced to make.
If you really do these things you can recover. Even your financial situation cannot hold you back – you can find peace.
Just remember, recovery is a team effort. Don’t isolate yourself from those that want to help you.
This is the way!
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Important Information for New Scam Victims
- Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims
- Enroll in FREE SCARS Scam Survivor’s School now at www.SCARSeducation.org
- Please visit www.ScamPsychology.org – to more fully understand the psychological concepts involved in scams and scam victim recovery
If you are looking for local trauma counselors please visit counseling.AgainstScams.org or join SCARS for our counseling/therapy benefit: membership.AgainstScams.org
If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
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At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
This spells out all the steps you need to take to succeed in your recovery. I’m working on them and am committed and determined to fully recover. Thank you SCARS for showing me the way!
This article lays out the steps to recover from your crime, it’s not a mystery at all. First you have to want to recover. You can spend a lot of time and mental resources trying to make someone pay for what happened. There will not be a payback for a great many of us. We lost money. The key thing to remember is the criminals are experts at what they do. Give up trying to track them down or to get your money back. Accept what happened and commit to recovering from the trauma of your crime. Follow the steps in this article. I have, and it helps and it works.
This article is concise and on point. I believe I am doing the steps and committing to my recovery and I feel like I’m on a good path. I’m in a good emotional and mental state. I truly agree that understanding the psychology and how I was scammed has certainly allowed the guilt, self-blame and shame to dissipate.
By following the steps to recovery above, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. SCARS have established the steps to recovery. I owe it to myself to do the hard work in order to recovery from my fraud. I am grateful to be here.
I liked this article, it was short and to the point. I think this is a great mantra: Follow The Process, Avoid Amateurs, Make A Commitment
This is a short and sweet summary of the route to recover. I personally have gone through it, and I can say that it works.