Victim’s Paradox – The Desire For Certainty And How It Derails Recovery

Victim's Paradox - The Desire For Certainty And How It Derails Recovery How Scam Victims Often Sabotage Their Own Recovery In The Search For Certain Outcomes A SCARS Victim Recovery Insight What is the "Victim's Paradox"??? Do you want to be Certain? Victims of a crime demand certainty in all aspects of their interaction with law enforcement and the criminal justice system, and in their own recovery from these traumatic [...]

Victim Expectations And Recovery Failure

Victim Expectations And Recovery Failure How Victims Can Sabotage Their Recoveries With Unrealistic Expectations A SCARS Scam Victim Recovery Insight Setting Your Expectations To Fail? Many Victims Do Just That! Expectations guide your progress in recovery from your scam, but having unrealistic expectations during the process sets you up for failure. When you set expectations so high you couldn’t possibly attain them, or expect another fantasy, you add unneeded stress [...]

Why People Blame Victims?

Why People Blame Crime Victims? The Just-World Phenomena A SCARS Insight This Is Called The Just-World Phenonema  Why We Blame Victims In Order To Rationalize Why Bad Things Happen? According to VeryWellMind.com: The just-world phenomenon is the tendency to believe that the world is just and that people get what they deserve. Because people want to believe that the world is fair, they will look for ways to explain or rationalize [...]

Things Scam Victims Can Do to Improve Their Mental Health Every Day

Things Scam Victims You Can Do to Improve Their Mental Health Every Day Scam Victim Recovery A SCARS Insight Small Steps To Build Resilience, Increase Positive Feelings, And Feel Better When people talk about mental health, they are often referring to a disorder – such as anxiety or depression – that may require professional support and treatment. But mental health is much more than a diagnosis. Mental health includes your [...]

Using Rituals To Help Scam Victims To Recover!

Using Rituals To Help Scam Victims To Recover! The Psychology of Recovery A SCARS Insight Provided for educational purposes only and as a topic to be discussed with your professional mental healthcare provider. The Importance of Ritual to Mental Health After Your Scam In a world that often feels chaotic and unpredictable, developing personal rituals can help you feel in control over your own life. Rituals are actions that have [...]

You Made A Mistake

You Made A Mistake An Editorial About Responsibility & Recovery A SCARS Commentary What Do We Mean By Saying That Every Victim Made A Mistake? You have all heard us say that the victim is not to blame, right? Yet we also say the victim made a mistake? This seems impossible to reconcile! For example: this is equivalent to someone that drives during winter but did not check for road [...]

Scam Victim Recovery Is Not A Mystery

Scam Victim Recovery Is Not A Mystery Follow The Process, Avoid Amateurs, Make A Commitment About Scam Victim Recovery A SCARS Insight Recovery Is Not Mystical - It Is Mechanical Scam Victim Recovery is about following the recovery process. May scam victims talk about their confusion about recovering. They don't know what to do or how to recover. Yet this process only requires two things: following the process [...]

NEW for Scam Victims – The Power of Journaling in Your Scam Recovery

The Power of Journaling in Your Scam Recovery For Scam Victims A SCARS Self-Help Recovery Program Guide Click Here To Visit The SCARS Store SCARS BLUE BOOK Survivor's Recovery Journal A Scam Victim's Self-Help Recovery Journal (Click to View) Give yourself the perfect tool to measure and track your recovery progress while getting the therapeutic benefit of journaling! This official SCARS Self-Help Recovery Program Journal allows [...]

Sadness & Scam Recovery

Sadness & Scam Recovery SCARS Psychology of Scams Are You Sad? Being unwilling to experience sadness hold you back. But if you can experience it & share it you can move forward! About Sadness Sadness is a normal human emotion that every single person will experience at stressful or somber times. A number of life events can leave people feeling sad or unhappy. The loss or absence of a [...]

The Complicated Truth About Grief

The Complicated Truth About Grief A TED Insight The Messy, Complicated Truth About Grief Mourning the loss of a loved one isn’t efficient, compact or logical, and it changes us forever, says writer Nora McInerny. She explains why. This is true even if the person you are grieving for is not real too!

Really Understanding Your Anger [INFOGRAPHIC][VIDEOS]

Really Understanding Your Anger! Scam Victim Anger Works Against Recovery A Full Third Of Scam Victims Lose Themselves To Anger After The Discovery Anger is a normal part of the grief cycle but it easily gains control and prevents a victim's ability to move forward How Anger Affects Your Brain and Body Anger Can Be A Challenging Emotion To Work Through Sometimes our anger can be frightening. Or, [...]

Failure Is A Choice

You Have A Choice To Make! Failure Is A Choice However, YOU Can Recover If You Want! We Will Help You! ARE YOU CHOOSING TO FAIL? When You Are Scammed, Why Wouldn't You Want To Protect Yourself? Strangely, many scam victims ignore their own safety. Yes, only about half of victims bother to follow the recommended actions to secure their own safety. Even members of this group have [...]

Are Victims Fraudsters Too?

Are Victims Fraudsters Too? Here is a question to ask yourself: Did you commit fraud while you were scammed? Did you lie to others to get money to send the scammer? Did you lie to others to send money to your scammer? You do not need to respond to this post if you do not want to. But just answer it for yourself honestly! This is one of those very difficult questions that eats at [...]

SCARS™ Editorial: Are We Not All Tired Of The Outrage!?

SCARS™ Editorial: Are We Not All Tired Of The Outrage!? What Is Wrong With People Sometimes? [lwptoc]   Don't We Have Enough Rage And Hate In The World? When you are interacting with Scam Victims, the answer is always no. Because rage knows no limits When someone goes through the trauma of being a romance scam victim, after the shock and initial denial comes the anger. Anger at themselves, the scammer, the government, the money [...]

SCARS™ Psychology Of Scams: Scam Obsession – Becoming Scam Junkie

SCARS™ Psychology Of Scams: Scam Obsession - Becoming Scam Junkie Some Victims Replace The Obsession Of The Scam With Another Obsession About Scams Unfortunately, some scam victims simply cannot turn away from the scam once it has ended. [lwptoc] Those Of Us That Assist Scam Victims Cannot Turn Away From Scams We are forced to deal with scams and scammers on a daily basis. We write about them, report scammers, and help victims. This activity has [...]

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: Screen Time, Sleep Deprivation, and Romance Scams

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: Screen Time, Sleep Deprivation, and Romance Scams The Effects of Screen Time on Health Extract of an article by Dr. Gadi Lissak, Behavioral Medicine Psychologist & Biofeedback Specialist, on the effects of screen time on the health of children, adolescents, and adults. [lwptoc] Introduction The variety of devices enabling media consumption is constantly increasing, and there is constant improvement in their technological capabilities.  However, one of the constant common characteristics is [...]