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RSN™ Anti-ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Alert: Savior Victims
One of the things that happens to some victims is they develop a kind of messiah complex – a necessity or mania to help other victims – meaning they think that only they can save others. They become a kind of collector going around and gathering other souls so they can save them.
They join anti-scam groups to “help” them but actually have no training in victims’ support or related fields, nor any experience in criminology. They are just manic victims that seek to control what happened to them by controlling the experiences of other victims. A savior complex.
Sadly, they can be very dangerous for some victims since most of you are looking for help, and you may not yet know the difference between real assistance and further manipulation.
This is not the same thing as simply offering advice or support to another victim in need. A Savior almost demands that right to speak for their victims and have them listen to them. They can be very domineering and hostile to differing viewpoints.
They tend to have very narrow and highly vigilante approaches to helping others. There is their way, and everyone else is wrong.
What Is The Savior Complex?
The savior complex is a psychological construct which makes a person feel the need to save other people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people.
There are many sides to a savior complex and it has many roots. One of its fundamental roots appears to consist of a limiting belief the savior person has that goes something like this:
“If I always help people in need, I will get their love and approval, and have a happy life.”
This Is, Of Course, A Nice Sounding Fairytale
In our experience, a savior will have such an assertive way of helping others that instead of allowing others to make their own choice, they get used to it and they expect other victims to accept their help, and when rejected can become overtly hostile. They feel entitled to give help whether it is wanted or not, simply because they need to give it. So while they may feel happy because they are helping others, at some level, they feel bitter and frustrated at the same time.
They are not masochistic; they have another belief that even if being a savior will not get them the recognition they want and will not make them happy, it is the noble thing to do. They believe they are somehow better than others because they help people without getting anything back. It is common for them to disagree and try to convince victims that professional experience is some how invalid, that the savior knows best.
If you think you have a savior complex or at least something close to it, the best thing you can do is to face up to the practical consequences it has in your life. Being a savior is neither noble nor practical. Learn to give and to ask for what you want, to help and to be helped. This is the healthy way to use your people skills and to interact with others.
Real Victims’ Assistance
Our job, as a real crime victims assistance and support organization is to do our best to keep this a safe environment for you. To offer real knowledge and information based upon our own 27 years of experience as well as based upon professional standards. We understand where the thin gray line is between support and professional care, and recommend those in need to seek it.
Unfortunately, Saviors do not. It is for this reason that we ban individuals that try to manipulate and “collect” other victims. Unfortunately, they are many and are out there trolling other anti-scam groups. In fact, some groups are founded by such people.
Real victims’ assistance and support is a professional practice that requires training and experience in a multitude of subjects. Many amateurs can actually be dangerous to traumatized victims. Sadly they don’t know that they don’t know and are so driven they will not listen to reason.
Please be careful about connecting with other victims, especially in your early stages. Share information only in secure groups and not by private messages.
Please trust that not every victim is stable yet, and a drowning person can pull you down just as easily. So, for now, please keep a distance and keep yourself safe.
If someone tries to contact you and ask you to communicate privately avoid them, decline and please let us know at once.
Thank you! Stay safe!
SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit www.AgainstScams.org to learn more about SCARS. Is A Registered Online Crime Victims’ Assistance & Support Organization