Lover Boy Technique Scams Lead To Human Trafficking & Prostitution 2023

Lover Boy Technique Scams Lead To Human Trafficking & Prostitution

A Variation On Relationship Scams Is Not About The Victim’s Money But Their Body!

How Scams Work – A SCARS Insight


It is almost impossible to tell the difference between a Lover Toy technique scam vs. a real online relationship. It uses all the manipulative techniques of romance scams but applies them to getting the victims to perform what the criminals want. They principally target young women and men.

The Lover Boy Scam Technique: A Cruel Form of Human Trafficking That Enslaves Its Victims As Sex Workers

The Lover Boy scam approach is not about getting a victim’s money, it is about their freedom and their life!

The lover boy technique is a cruel and manipulative form of human trafficking that is used to lure victims into forced prostitution. The perpetrators are typically young men who target vulnerable girls and women who are facing economic and social hardship. They prey on their victims’ vulnerabilities and insecurities, promising them love, affection, and a better life. Once the victims are emotionally dependent on them, the perpetrators isolate them from their friends and family and force them into prostitution.

While this is not a new form of crime, it has exploded in the last few years!

How the Lover Boy Technique Works

The lover boy technique typically begins with the perpetrator approaching a potential victim under the false pretense of wanting to build a relationship with her. He may be charming, attentive, and generous, showering her with expensive gifts and promises of a better future. He may also prey on her insecurities and vulnerabilities, convincing her that she is worthless and that she needs him.

Once the victim is emotionally invested in the relationship, the perpetrator will begin to isolate her from her friends and family. He may discourage her from seeing her loved ones or contacting them. He may also make her feel like she needs to keep the relationship a secret. This isolation further weakens the victim and makes it more difficult for her to escape.

Once the victim is isolated, the perpetrator will begin to force her into prostitution. He may threaten to harm her or her family if she refuses. He may also use violence or emotional blackmail to control her. The victim may be forced to work long hours in dangerous and degrading conditions, and she may be kept in isolation to prevent her from escaping.

Lover Boy technique begins in a variety of ways, but some of the most common methods include:

  • Approaching potential victims in places where they are vulnerable. This could include places like bus stops, train stations, malls, or nightclubs.
  • Using social media to connect with potential victims. Criminals may create fake profiles or use real profiles to target vulnerable individuals. This may look like a real online relationship and use many/most of the manipulative techniques of romance or relationship scams.
  • Posing as someone they are not. Criminals may pretend to be a student, a businessman, or even a member of law enforcement in order to gain the victim’s trust.
  • Showering the victim with gifts and attention. This is a common tactic used to create a sense of obligation and emotional dependence in the victim.
  • Making promises of a better life. Criminals may promise the victim a better job, a better home, or even a better life in another country.

Of course, these are all well-known relationship scam manipulative techniques, but in this kind of scam, they want the victim’s freedom and body!

Once the criminal has gained the victim’s trust, they will begin to isolate themselves from their friends and family using gaslighting manipulative techniques. They may discourage the victim from contacting their loved ones or make them feel like they need to keep the relationship a secret. This isolation makes it more difficult for the victim to escape.

The victim can be captured in many ways.

  • If it begins as an online relationship, the trafficker may ask the victim to come a visit them. Once they arrive they are effectively trapped.
  • Or if the criminal is local, they can begin the manipulation in person to achieve what they want.

Once the victim is physically isolated, the criminal will begin to pressure them into prostitution. They may use threats, violence, or emotional blackmail to control the victim. The victim may be forced to work long hours in dangerous and degrading conditions, and they may be kept in isolation to prevent them from escaping.

Who They Target

The Lover Boy technique scams usually target young women and men. Both because they are more easily manipulated, but this is also about trafficking and sex work. Victims can be any age from 13 to 30.

According to EUROPOL:

The ‘lover boy’ technique is widely used by criminals to recruit victims facing economic and social hardship into forced prostitution. The suspects prey on their victims’ vulnerabilities, enticing them with expensive gifts or promises of a better life. The scam starts with the perpetrators approaching potential victims under the false pretence of wanting to build a relationship with them. Eventually, perpetrators convince victims to move away from or cut ties with their family. Once isolated, the victims are forced into prostitution to earn money for their handler. They are often kept in this situation through a combination of affection, violence, and threats against them and their families.

Using the Lover Boy Technical on Previous Scam Victims

The Lover Boy technique is a cruel and manipulative form of human trafficking that is often used to target vulnerable individuals, including previous relationship scam victims. Asians are particularly at risk of being targeted by this type of scam, as they may be more likely to trust someone who is from their own culture or who speaks their language.

Criminals who use the Lover Boy technique often prey on their victims’ desperation and vulnerability. They may promise victims love, affection, and a better life in order to gain their trust – in some cases these criminals will actually send money to the victims. Once the victim is emotionally invested (groomed, manipulated, and controlled) in the relationship, the criminal will begin to isolate them from their friends and family. They will then pressure the victim into sex work/prostitution to earn money.

Victims of the Lover Boy technique are often unaware that they are being trafficked just like regular relationship scam victims. They may believe that they are in a loving relationship with the criminal, and they may be afraid to leave for fear of losing the relationship, or of violence or retaliation.

Here are some ways that criminals can use the Lover Boy technique against previous relationship scam victims:

  • They may promise to help the victim recover their money from the previous scam. Criminals may claim that they have connections to law enforcement or that they have a special way to get the victim’s money back.
  • They may offer the victim a job or a business opportunity. Criminals may promise the victim a high-paying job or a chance to start their own business. However, these jobs or businesses are often fronts for prostitution or other illegal activities.
  • They may promise to marry the victim and take them to a new country. Criminals may promise the victim a better life in another country. However, once the victim arrives in the new country, they are often forced into prostitution or other forms of exploitation.

It is important to be aware of the Lover Boy technique and to take steps to protect yourself from becoming a victim.

The Impact of the Lover Boy Technique

The lover boy technique has a devastating impact on its victims. The victims are often traumatized and suffer from physical and emotional abuse. They may also develop mental health problems such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.

The victims of the Lover Boy technique are also at risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV/AIDS. They may also become addicted to drugs or alcohol as a way to cope with the trauma they have experienced, or their captors may also deliberately make them addicts as a control mechanism.

Preventing the Lover Boy Technique

There are a number of things that can be done to prevent the lover boy technique. It is important to be aware of the signs of this type of trafficking and to report any suspicious activity to the authorities.

Parents and educators can also play a role in preventing the lover boy technique by talking to young people about the dangers of human trafficking and teaching them how to identify and avoid traffickers.

The obvious answer to this, like other relationship scams in general, is to avoid contact with strangers!

Law Enforcement Actions

Operation MOTLEY was a crackdown on criminals using the lover boy scam to traffic victims from Bulgaria to the United Kingdom for the purpose of sexual exploitation.

9 arrested in crackdown on loverboy trafficking in Bulgaria and UK

Victims safeguarded: 5

Assets seized: Assets worth over EUR 1.1 million, including cash, high value vehicles and property

Modus operandi: The suspects – all Bulgarian nationals, are believed to have trafficked young women to the United Kingdom for sexual exploitation. They targeted their victims on social media and used the loverboy method to lure them to the United Kingdom. Once there, the girls were advertised by this criminal organisation on adult services websites. The criminals routinely used violence to coerce their victims.

Europol’s contribution: Europol has been supporting this case since 2021 by facilitating the information exchange between the authorities involved and providing analytical support to map out the key targets and criminal activity. A Europol officer was deployed to Bulgaria on the action day to assist the investigators with the live analysis of data as it was being collected.


This is a real crime and the impact on victims can be devastating both psychologically and physically. It can lead to physical injuries and even death. But the psychological trauma can be extreme.

As we have seen over and over, the proper use of these standard manipulative techniques can force a victim to engage in almost anything the criminals want regardless of the danger.

Anyone who has been captured in this crime should reach out to a Human Trafficking nonprofit support organization. They have special knowledge about the impact on victims.

Finding Help:

National Human Trafficking Hotline
P.O. Box 65323
Washington, District of Columbia 20035
Phone: (202) 745-1001
Toll-Free: (888) 373-7888
Fax: (202) 745-1119
General Scope: The National Human Trafficking Hotline is a national, anti-trafficking hotline and resource center serving victims and survivors of human trafficking and the anti-trafficking community in the United States. The toll-free hotline is answered live 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Callers can speak with the Hotline in English or Spanish or in more than 200 additional languages using a 24-hour tele-interpreting service. The National Hotline is operated by Polaris

Additional Resources:


The Lover Boy technique is a cruel and manipulative form of human trafficking based on scamming that has a devastating impact on its victims. It is important to be aware of the signs of this type of trafficking and to take steps to protect yourself and others from becoming victims.

SCARS Resources:

Other Cyber Resources

-/ 30 /-

What do you think about this?
Please share your thoughts in a comment below!

SCARS FREE Support & Recovery Program - 4 EVER FREE

Do You Need Support?
Get It Now!

SCARS provides the leading Support & Recovery program for relationship scam victims – completely FREE!

Our managed peer support groups allow victims to talk to other survivors and recover in the most experienced environment possible, for as long as they need. Recovery takes as long as it takes – we put no limits on our support!

SCARS is the most trusted support & education provider in the world. Our team is certified in trauma-informed care, grief counseling, and so much more!

To apply to join our groups visit

We also offer separate support groups for family & friends too.

SCARS STAR Membership

Become a

SCARS offers memberships in our STAR program, which includes many benefits for a very low annual membership fee!

SCARS STAR Membership benefits include:

  • FREE Counseling or Therapy Benefit from our partner
  • Exclusive members-only content & publications
  • Discounts on SCARS Self-Help Books Save
  • And more!

To learn more about the SCARS STAR Membership visit

To become a SCARS STAR Member right now visit


SCARS Publishing Self-Help Recovery Books Available At

Scam Victim Self-Help Do-It-Yourself Recovery Books

SCARS Printed Books For Every Scam Survivor From SCARS Publishing


Each is based on our SCARS Team’s 32-plus years of experience.

SCARS Website Visitors receive an Extra 10% Discount
Use Discount Code “romanacescamsnow” at Checkout

Always Report All Scams – Anywhere In The World To:

Go to to learn how

U.S. FTC at and SCARS at
Visit to learn more!



Legal Disclaimer:

The content provided on this platform regarding psychological topics is intended solely for educational and entertainment purposes. The publisher makes no representations or warranties regarding the accuracy or completeness of the information presented. The content is designed to raise awareness about various psychological subjects, and readers are strongly encouraged to conduct their own research and verify information independently.

The information presented does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment of any psychological disorder or disease. It is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Readers are advised to seek the guidance of a licensed medical professional for any questions or concerns related to their mental health.

The publisher disclaims any responsibility for actions taken or not taken based on the content provided. The treatment of psychological issues is a serious matter, and readers should consult with qualified professionals to address their specific circumstances. The content on this platform is not intended to create, and receipt of it does not constitute, a therapist-client relationship.

Interpretation and Definitions


For the purposes of this Disclaimer:

  • Company (referred to as either “the Company”, “We”, “Us” or “Our” in this Disclaimer) refers to Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. (registered d.b.a. “SCARS”,) 9561 Fountainbleau Blvd., Suit 602, Miami FL 33172.
  • Service refers to the Website.
  • You means the individual accessing this website, or the company, or other legal entity on behalf of which such individual is accessing or using the Service, as applicable.
  • Website refers to, accessible from

Website Disclaimer

The information contained on this website is for general information purposes only.

The Company assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions in the contents of the Service.

In no event shall the Company be liable for any special, direct, indirect, consequential, or incidental damages or any damages whatsoever, whether in an action of contract, negligence or other tort, arising out of or in connection with the use of the Service or the contents of the Service. The Company reserves the right to make additions, deletions, or modifications to the contents on the Service at any time without prior notice.

The Company does not warrant this website in any way.

External Links Disclaimer

This website may contain links to external websites that are not provided or maintained by or in any way affiliated with the Company.

Please note that the Company does not guarantee the accuracy, relevance, timeliness, or completeness of any information on these external websites.

Errors and Omissions Disclaimer

The information given by SCARS is for general guidance on matters of interest only. Even if the Company takes every precaution to ensure that the content of this website is both current and accurate, errors can occur. Plus, given the changing nature of laws, rules, and regulations, there may be delays, omissions, or inaccuracies in the information contained on this website.

SCARS is not responsible for any errors or omissions, or for the results obtained from the use of this information.

Fair Use Disclaimer

SCARS may use copyrighted material that has not always been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. The Company is making such material available for criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, or research.

The Company believes this constitutes a “fair use” of any such copyrighted material as provided for in section 107 of the United States Copyright law.

If You wish to use copyrighted material from this website for your own purposes that go beyond fair use, You must obtain permission from the copyright owner.

Views Expressed Disclaimer

The Service may contain views and opinions which are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of any other author, agency, organization, employer, or company, including SCARS.

Comments published by users are their sole responsibility and the users will take full responsibility, liability, and blame for any libel or litigation that results from something written in or as a direct result of something written in a comment. The Company is not liable for any comment published by users and reserves the right to delete any comment for any reason whatsoever.

No Responsibility Disclaimer

The information on the Service is provided with the understanding that the Company is not herein engaged in rendering legal, accounting, tax, medical or mental health, or other professional advice and services. As such, it should not be used as a substitute for consultation with professional accounting, tax, legal, medical or mental health, or other competent advisers.

In no event shall the Company, its team, board of directors, volunteers, or its suppliers be liable for any special, incidental, indirect, or consequential damages whatsoever arising out of or in connection with your access or use or inability to access or use the Service.

“Use at Your Own Risk” Disclaimer

All information on this website is provided “as is”, with no guarantee of completeness, accuracy, timeliness or of the results obtained from the use of this information, and without warranty of any kind, express or implied, including, but not limited to warranties of performance, merchantability, and fitness for a particular purpose.

SCARS will not be liable to You or anyone else for any decision made or action taken in reliance on the information given by the Service or for any consequential, special, or similar damages, even if advised of the possibility of such damages.

Contact Us

If you have any questions about this Disclaimer, You can contact Us:

  • By email:

PLEASE NOTE: Psychology Clarification

The following specific modalities within the practice of psychology are restricted to psychologists appropriately trained in the use of such modalities:

  • Diagnosis: The diagnosis of mental, emotional, or brain disorders and related behaviors.
  • Psychoanalysis: Psychoanalysis is a type of therapy that focuses on helping individuals to understand and resolve unconscious conflicts.
  • Hypnosis: Hypnosis is a state of trance in which individuals are more susceptible to suggestion. It can be used to treat a variety of conditions, including anxiety, depression, and pain.
  • Biofeedback: Biofeedback is a type of therapy that teaches individuals to control their bodily functions, such as heart rate and blood pressure. It can be used to treat a variety of conditions, including stress, anxiety, and pain.
  • Behavioral analysis: Behavioral analysis is a type of therapy that focuses on changing individuals’ behaviors. It is often used to treat conditions such as autism and ADHD.
    Neuropsychology: Neuropsychology is a type of psychology that focuses on the relationship between the brain and behavior. It is often used to assess and treat cognitive impairments caused by brain injuries or diseases.

SCARS and the members of the SCARS Team do not engage in any of the above modalities in relationship to scam victims. SCARS is not a mental healthcare provider and recognizes the importance of professionalism and separation between its work and that of the licensed practice of psychology.

SCARS is an educational provider of generalized self-help information that individuals can use for their own benefit to achieve their own goals related to emotional trauma. SCARS recommends that all scam victims see professional counselors or therapists to help them determine the suitability of any specific information or practices that may help them.

SCARS cannot diagnose or treat any individuals, nor can it state the effectiveness of any educational information that it may provide, regardless of its experience in interacting with traumatized scam victims over time. All information that SCARS provides is purely for general educational purposes to help scam victims become aware of and better understand the topics and to be able to dialog with their counselors or therapists.

It is important that all readers understand these distinctions and that they apply the information that SCARS may publish at their own risk, and should do so only after consulting a licensed psychologist or mental healthcare provider.






This content and other material contained on the website, apps, newsletter, and products (“Content”), is general in nature and for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, legal, or financial advice; the Content is not intended to be a substitute for licensed or regulated professional advice. Always consult your doctor or other qualified healthcare provider, lawyer, financial, or tax professional with any questions you may have regarding the educational information contained herein. SCARS makes no guarantees about the efficacy of information described on or in SCARS’ Content. The information contained is subject to change and is not intended to cover all possible situations or effects. SCARS does not recommend or endorse any specific professional or care provider, product, service, or other information that may be mentioned in SCARS’ websites, apps, and Content unless explicitly identified as such.

The disclaimers herein are provided on this page for ease of reference. These disclaimers supplement and are a part of SCARS’ website’s Terms of Use. 

All original content is Copyright © 1991 – 2023 Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. (Registered D.B.A SCARS) All Rights Reserved Worldwide & Webwide. Third-party copyrights acknowledge.

U.S. State of Florida Registration Nonprofit (Not for Profit) #N20000011978 [SCARS DBA Registered #G20000137918] – Learn more at

View the claimed and or registered indicia, service marks, and trademarks of Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc., All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Contact the law firm for the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Incorporated by email at

Share This Information - Choose Your Social Media!

Leave A Comment