The Stages Of A Victim’s Experience Without Getting Help & Support
After A Scam, Scam Victims Experience Several States – This Is A Different View Of That Experience From The Grief Cycle Or Stages Of Recovery
Professional support and counseling are crucial for scam victims following the end of a scam due to the significant impact it has on their well-being and recovery.
This summary of these scam victim stages refers to their experience without support, counseling, or therapy.
Basics:
Victim Minimization and Denial
The victim denies the seriousness of the situation and excuses the abuser or calls them names: “He is stupid. He is scum. It didn’t affect me that much.”
Victim Self-Blame
This is an inescapable feature of life as a victim of crime as well as being a recurring component in psychological reactions to trauma.
Victims Seeking Help
Victims’ Assistance organizations and service providers most often see victims seeking help at the point when the scam is discovered and panic sets in. Unfortunately, victims are not careful who they are asking for help and end up in the hands of fakes, amateurs, or scammers again!
Ambivalence
The victim is irresolute at this stage, trying one thing after another. It is at this point that the victim may respond to new scams or even become a mule. It is the victim’s behavior during this stage that further victimizes and prevents recovery.
Living Without Scams
Although a survivor of online scams may live without fraud & manipulation after leaving the fake relationship, the victim may well suffer from long-term depression and Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome along with a host of other stress reactions to the violence and trauma.
Lack of Support
Of course, all of this assumes the victim has not found a real support provider or other professional victims’ assistance. This is what typical victims go through with amateur hate groups.
This is quite a different picture if the scam victim obtains support from SCARS or other competent providers, such as local trauma counseling or therapist to help them through the recovery from their relationship scam and onto recovery.
Deeper Impacts On The Victim
However, there are also deeper lasting impacts for victims that do not get proper support.
Here are several reasons why it is essential for scam victims to receive such support, along with the potential dangers if they do not:
- Emotional Trauma: Scams can inflict severe emotional trauma on victims. They may experience a range of emotions such as shock, anger, shame, guilt, anxiety, and depression. Professional support provides a safe space for victims to process these emotions, validate their experiences, and work through the psychological aftermath of the scam. Without proper professional support or counseling, victims may struggle to cope with these emotions, leading to prolonged distress and potential mental health issues.
- Rebuilding Trust: Scams often involve a breach of trust, as victims are manipulated and deceived by perpetrators they believed to be trustworthy. Rebuilding trust in others can be a challenging process. Counseling helps victims understand the dynamics of manipulation, identify red flags, and develop healthy trust-building strategies. Without proper support, victims may become excessively suspicious or withdraw from relationships, hindering their ability to form new connections and move forward.
- Financial Recovery: Scams can result in significant financial losses, leaving victims in dire financial situations. Professional support can assist victims in developing financial recovery plans, providing guidance on managing debt, how to work with financial institutions, and exploring legal resources for recovery & restitution. Without this assistance, victims may struggle to navigate the complexities of financial recovery, leading to prolonged financial hardship and ongoing vulnerability.
- Coping with Shame and Stigma: Scam victims often experience intense feelings of shame and self-blame, influenced by societal misconceptions that they should have been more vigilant or cautious. Counseling helps victims challenge these distorted beliefs, recognize that they were manipulated, and rebuild their self-esteem. Without support, victims may internalize shame and isolate themselves, impeding their ability to seek help or share their experiences with others.
- Prevention of Revictimization: Scammers often target individuals who have previously fallen victim to scams, exploiting their vulnerabilities and psychological state. Professional support equips victims with the knowledge and skills to recognize potential scams, set boundaries, and assert themselves against manipulative tactics. Without adequate support, victims may remain unaware of the signs of future scams, making them more susceptible to being targeted again.
- Long-Term Psychological Consequences: The aftermath of a scam can have long-lasting psychological consequences if left unaddressed. Untreated trauma and emotional distress can contribute to the development of conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety disorders, and depression. Professional counseling or therapy offers effective therapeutic interventions to mitigate these risks, promote healing, and prevent the escalation of mental health issues.
It is important to note that the dangers of not receiving professional support and counseling after a scam can vary depending on individual circumstances. However, overall, without appropriate assistance, victims may experience prolonged emotional suffering, financial difficulties, trust issues, social isolation, and an increased risk of being targeted by scammers in the future. Therefore, timely and tailored support is vital for scam victims to facilitate their recovery, promote resilience, and prevent further harm.
Resources
If you are a new victim, this is your starting point https://romancescamsnow.com/for-new-scam-victims/
SCARS provides a number of choices for scam victims, and in addition below are links to find trauma counselors and therapists in their community:
- Sign up for a SCARS support & recovery group: support.AgainstScams.org
- Find professional trauma counseling or therapy: counseling.AgainstScams.org
- Learn about scams and scammers: here on www.RomanceScamsNOW.com
- En Español: www.ContraEstafas.org
- See scammer photos (though we recommend caution for new victims): www.ScammerPhotos.com
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- What Happens To Victims That Do Not Get Support & Counseling
- The Stages Of A Victim’s Experience Without Getting Help & Support
- After A Scam, Scam Victims Experience Several States – This Is A Different View Of That Experience From The Grief Cycle Or Stages Of Recovery
- Basics:
- Deeper Impacts On The Victim
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Important Information for New Scam Victims
- Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims
- Enroll in FREE SCARS Scam Survivor’s School now at www.SCARSeducation.org
- Please visit www.ScamPsychology.org – to more fully understand the psychological concepts involved in scams and scam victim recovery
If you are looking for local trauma counselors please visit counseling.AgainstScams.org or join SCARS for our counseling/therapy benefit: membership.AgainstScams.org
If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.











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