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After A Romance ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Comes AngerAnger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. Against Scammers, But When It Turns To Hate A Victim May Turn Away From Normal Recovery
Self-Hate, And By Extension Hate For The ScammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. And Others Is The Most Dangerous Coping Mechanism
Coping mechanisms are strategies and behaviors that are carried out to mitigate, manage or adapt to anything that causes distress.
AFTER A ROMANCE SCAM, THERE IS CERTAINLY DISTRESS
To cope with something traumatic like this, we have to find a way to cope because we feel we cannot change the thing itself (the “stressor” itself – the scam.)
We have to adapt to it so that the hurt we feel as a result of it is decreased or eliminated.
We would all hope for a world that did not have to be coped with. Sadly, that is not the world we currently live in and so we develop all manner of coping mechanisms to hold the pain or stress away.
Some coping mechanisms have the potential to be very limiting and damaging to a person themselves, in the long run, certain coping mechanisms can be more detrimental than others.
And the most dangerous coping mechanism is hate!
WHAT WE ARE REALLY TALKING ABOUT IS SELF-HATE
What Causes Self-Hate?
Self-hatred is something that develops over time and it’s typically triggered by more than one factor, including past traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated c