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A Guide For Family & Friends

You Can’t Help Them Unless You Are Fairly Certain They Are Being Scammed – This Guide Will Help You To Know!

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Here Are Signs To Look Out For

The list of clues:

  1. A big change in their availability
  2. A change in personality – initially like they are in love and later in fear
  3. Being secretive and unsharing
  4. Reluctance to talk about their personal life
  5. Changes in personal finance
  6. Irritability when asking how they are
  7. Asking for money or to borrow money for strange reasons
  8. Always online
  9. They ask oblique questions about the military or specific professions or business
  10. Their sleep patterns change – such as being up all night
  11. Plans for random unexplained travel
  12. They talk about someone they met online

These are but a few of the obvious and detectable changes that someone goes through when they are being scammed.

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This is a man who has gone through several scams and finally lands in trouble. Be careful to observe the way he responds to questions, what he says, and what he told others. All of the symptoms of an ongoing scam were there, and may still be after all. This is a good example of how secrecy and lies are told by scam victims as a result of their manipulation and own personalities.

Helping a Friend or Family Member Can Be Hard

It’s Very Easy To Think That If A Loved One Or Close Friend Was Being Scammed, That They’d Simply Tell You!

WRONG!

Unfortunately, whether your loved one is elderly, vulnerable or simply answered the phone to the wrong person, there could be a variety of reasons why they might keep this information to themselves. And this is even more true for adolescents and millennials.

There are many reasons why they may keep this a secret or even lie about it.

What Are They Thinking?

Sometimes they are aware of what they are doing, but generally, it is a combination of denials and a deep belief in the fantasy the scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. provides – this is the manipulation working. Their logical thinking returns to that of a teen in love totally out of control.

They may be embarrassed that they’ve been duped, they may be too frightened to acknowledge what has happened or, they may not even realize that they’ve been targeted by criminals and are losing money.

While you might think that only gullible people fall for scams, in actuality, everyone can be scammed. It is just a question of the right story, the right manipulation, and the right face to deliver it. It is not a function of intelligence – smart people are scammed all the time too.

The complexity and the professionalism of these online criminals mean that they’ll stop at nothing to gain access to a victim’s personal and financial information, and then their money. Simply put, anyone can be scammed and if the person is more trusting, needy, or has no real knowledge of scams, then they will easily become a victim.

Remember, that they are two stages involved here:

  1. During the scam – hiding to live the fantasy
  2. After the scam – hiding to avoid judgment and shameShame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness.

DURING THE SCAM

During the scam, the scammer is controlling the victim in many different ways, and this control will show in the victim’s behaviorBehavior   Behavior / Behavioral Actions Otherwise known as habits, behavior or behavioral actions are strategies to help prevent online exploitation that target behavior, such as social engineering of victims. Changing your behavior is the ONLY effective means to reduce or prevent scams..

The scammer will manipulate them into believing that no one can understand their love or what they are doing, and to keep it secret. Scammers try hard to isolate victims.

In this mental state, victims will do almost anything for the scammer:

  • Lie to family & friends
  • Sell personal property and convert it to cash
  • Remortgage their house and take out loans
  • Share their financial accounts
  • Transport drugs
  • Embezzle and steal from their employers for the scammer
  • Receive stolen property
  • Receive money from other scam victims and forward it to the scammer

All of this to please their scammer!

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