Clothes As Therapy For ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Victims: When & How Does “Enclothed Cognition” Work?
You have all heard the phrase “Clothing Makes The Man” (or Woman)
As traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. victims, finding ways to overcome your trauma and regain control in your life is very important and powerful.
We talk a lot about trying to let go of the angerAnger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. and the artifacts of the experience, but we humans tend to surround ourselves with other less obvious artifacts of our experiences. Additionally, we tend to invest our emotions into other things or places we have.
An example of this is the way we keep the scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. chats and images. These are toxic artifacts from the scam experience, but people hold on to them as a kind of “life-raft.” It is like letting go of them will drown you. It can be incredibly liberating to let them go and dispose of them. But we are humans and this is a hard thing to do until we fully heal and these objects lose their value to us.
The past is something to hold onto, not so much because it has value, but because we are reaching into an uncertain future. We hold onto the stable side of the chasm because we do not yet have the ability to grasp the other side or take the leap of faith we need to let go. The objects that remind us of the traumatic experience are much the same.
But there are other objects that we keep that become infused with the emotions of our experience as well, and clothing is one of them. I would encourage you all to listen to Debby Montgomery Johnson’s “Stand Up Speak Up” show from today September 3rd (https://soundcloud.com/user-148380436), because it deals with aspects of this. The point though for you is that what you wear is also serving to remind you of your trauma and that making a change can also be liberating in a way you might not have thought about.
Such as: stop wearing clothes that you wore during the scam. Even going to the point of disposing of them in a ritual, such as a Viking Funeral of burning them all to end their hold over you.
Taking a good look at the artifacts in your life – especially those that were acquired during the scam or which were infused with emotional baggage from it – is something you may want to consider disposing of.
In a similar way, new clothing or even clothing from before the scam can be liberating as well. One way to return to your former self might be to begin wearing clothes from before the scam.
Here is an article on the topic of what is called “Enclothed Cognition.”
The subject is interesting and empowering because our clothing is one of humanity’s oldest artifacts, almost as old as tools and weapons. Societies and institutions use clothing (uniforms) to inform attitudes and perceptions about the self and their tribes. And it applies to victims of trauma too!
May 27, 2018
By Anabel Maldonado
“It has long been known that clothing affects how other people perceive us, as well as how we think about ourselves”, Adam Galinsky, one of the foremost researchers on enclothed cognition, has said. While as a concept, wearing certain items or looks to affect others’ perception of us is nothing