You Want Your Money Back!
For Some Recent Victims That Is All They Can Focus On!
But that obsessive desperation and chasing the money can be dangerous to their recovery after the scam ends.
If you were a scam victim who lost money and you cannot let go of chasing the money, please read the following.
What kind of harm does that do to your chances for emotional recovery and increasing your trauma?
As a scam victim who has lost money, it can be incredibly difficult to let go of the pursuit of recovering your funds. However, the reality is that chasing the money can often do more harm than good in terms of your emotional recovery and healing from the trauma of being scammed.
Once you have reported the crime to your local and national police, it is important to let them do their jobs. Your job is to turn away from the scam and the past, and focus on your present, and on your recovery!
When we are victims of scams, we often feel violated, embarrassed, and angry. These feelings can be intensified when we are unable to recover our lost money, leaving us with a sense of helplessness and a feeling that justice has not been served. This, in turn, can lead to feelings of resentment, frustration, and a desire to seek retribution.
However, the pursuit of recovering lost funds can quickly become an all-consuming obsession that can take over our lives – this is called “chasing the money” or “chasing justice.” We may find ourselves constantly thinking about the scam, checking bank statements, and looking for ways to recover our money. This can lead to a decrease in our ability to focus on other things and can have a negative impact on our mental health.
Plus, chasing the money can also increase the likelihood of encountering additional scammers who are seeking to take advantage of our vulnerability and desperation with fake offers of investigative or money recovery services. In your state of desperation, you continue to be highly vulnerable to follow-on or secondary scams like these. These encounters can further exacerbate your feelings of vulnerability, shame, and anger, causing additional harm to your emotional well-being.
In some cases, the pursuit of lost money can also lead to financial stress and strain, as you may be spending money on legal fees, private investigators, or other resources to recover the funds – many may be scams as well. This can cause you to become more financially vulnerable, which can have a profound impact on your mental and emotional health.
Being scammed can be a traumatic experience that can leave a lasting impact on a person’s life. The loss of money, trust, and control can leave individuals feeling vulnerable, angry, and helpless. For some, this trauma can lead to obsessive behavior that is focused on recovering the lost funds. However, this kind of behavior can actually decrease the chances for emotional recovery and increase trauma.
Obsessive behavior is characterized by intense and persistent thoughts and behaviors that are directed toward a particular object or situation. In the case of a scam, the object of obsession is often the lost money. The individual may spend hours each day trying to recover their funds, constantly checking with the police and trying to apply pressure to get them to act, and looking for any other way to retrieve the money. Trying to apply pressure on the police our of desperation does not work – they have their processes and you need to let them do it, even if it looks like they are doing nothing.
This kind of behavior can quickly become all-consuming, taking over the individual’s life and affecting their mental health.
One of the ways that obsessive behavior can decrease the chances for emotional recovery is by creating additional stress and anxiety. The constant focus on the lost money can increase feelings of hopelessness, frustration, and anger, making it difficult for the individual to cope with the aftermath of the scam. The stress of trying to recover the money can also lead to physical symptoms such as headaches, fatigue, and sleep disturbance.
The process of trying to recover lost money can also cause you to become even more isolated. By focusing so much on the money, you are not able to benefit from the support of professionals or support groups, since you are single-minded in your focus. This tends to keep you isolated from the community fo people trying to help you.
You can become more isolated from your friends and family, as you may become consumed by your pursuit and less engaged in your relationships. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression, which can further harm your emotional health.
Focus On What You Can Control
You cannot control the police or what they do or do not do! So just let them do what they do for a while – later when you are better equipped you can reconnect with them.
In order to maximize your chances for emotional recovery and reduce the potential harm from chasing the money, it is important to focus on the things that you can control. This should involve seeking support from professionals, joining a real victim’s support group, and if they are supportive even your friends and family, engaging in self-care practices such as exercise and meditation, and seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor.
It is also important to remember that the most important thing is to take care of your emotional and mental well-being, as this is the foundation for any meaningful recovery. By focusing on your healing and working to overcome the trauma of being scammed, you will be able to move forward in a more positive and productive direction. This may allow you to have options you overlooked early on in your desperation.
Being a victim of a scam can be a traumatic experience that can have a profound impact on your emotional and mental well-being. However, chasing the money can often do more harm than good, exacerbating your feelings of vulnerability and anger and potentially causing additional harm to your well-being. To maximize your chances for emotional recovery, it is important to focus on your healing and to seek support and professional resources.