Sending A Letter To Your Scammer – Getting The Last Word – 2024

Sending A Letter To Your Scammer – Getting The Last Word!

Most Scam Victims Wish They Could Have A Last Word! This Will Allow That Safely!

Psychology of Scams – A SCARS Insight

Article Abstract

Sending a letter to your scammer can offer emotional closure without direct confrontation. This letter was crafted to achieve specific psychological effects, helps victims express their pain and reclaim power.

It’s not about telling your story or confronting the criminal; it’s about leaving a lasting impact on the scammer’s conscience and letting you have the last word. The letter highlights the devastation caused, emphasizing the enduring guilt and shame the scammer will carry, affecting their future relationships and opportunities.

Victims should send this letter via email without alteration, ensuring its intended effect. If the scammer replies, avoid engagement to prevent further exploitation.

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Sending a Letter to Your Scammer – Not to Confront Them, but Rather to Have the Last Say in a Very Traumatizing Experience can be Helpful to Victims!

As we have said many times, never confront the criminals, but there is a way to have the last word and that is to send them a letter.

We recommend that you send this letter to your scammer via email.

This may seem like a contradiction because we tell new victims to block the criminals and have no further contact. However, this is not having contact with them, this is delivering a final statement purposefully, a last word. This does not re-engage you in a conversation with the scammers. Just send it, and then do not respond to anything they reply.


It is crafted to achieve specific psychological effects, both for the victim and the scammer. It is not intended for you to tell your story, nor to confront the criminal. It is intended to be the last word that will remain in the scammer’s mind as they move forward from what they did to you. If you edit it, you risk reducing the effect and it turning into an emotionally charged confrontation or attack and that will throw away its value.

Just copy and paste it as it is – changing just your name and the scammer’s name.


Subject: The Pain and Devastation You’ve Caused

Dear [Scammer’s Name],

I hope this letter finds you in a moment of reflection and understanding, though I doubt that will be the case. I am writing to you not with anger or hatred, but with a heavy heart filled with pain, trauma, and a desperate need for you to comprehend the devastation you have caused in my life.

When I first met you, I believed I had found someone who genuinely cared for me, who understood my vulnerabilities and shared in my dreams and hopes. I trusted you. I opened my heart to you, believing the emotions we shared were real. However, what you offered was nothing but a facade, a cruel deception designed to exploit my kindness and trust.

The financial loss I endured is significant and I will never recover from it, but it pales in comparison to the emotional and psychological trauma that continues to haunt me. Every day, I wake up with a sense of betrayal that permeates every aspect of my life. The realization that someone could be so callous, so calculating in their manipulation, has left me feeling isolated and broken. The friendships and connections I once valued have suffered, as I find it difficult to trust anyone anymore.

The shame and guilt I carry are overwhelming. I question my judgment, my intelligence, and my worth. How could I have been so blind? Why didn’t I see the signs? These questions plague me, eroding my self-esteem and self-worth. The psychological scars are deep, and the journey to healing is long and arduous.

But what about you? Have you ever paused to consider the burden of guilt and shame that will inevitably catch up with you? The curse of the lies you weave and the trust you betray cannot ever be forgotten. The faces of those you’ve hurt will haunt you, and the weight of your actions will bear down on your conscience. Every time you look in the mirror, you will see the reflection of the pain you have caused. You may try to bury it, to rationalize your actions, but deep down, you will know the truth.

This guilt will not just affect you; it will permeate every aspect of your life. Your relationships with family and friends will be tainted by the dishonesty that has become a part of your existence. The deceit you have sown will cast a long shadow over your future, making it difficult to form genuine connections or experience true happiness. Every new relationship will carry the seeds of mistrust, planted by your own actions.

Think about the opportunities you are sacrificing for the sake of short-term gain. The reputation you are building will follow you, closing doors to legitimate avenues of success and fulfillment. The shame of your actions will be a constant companion, whispering in your ear and reminding you of the hurt you have caused.

I want you to understand that your actions have consequences beyond the financial. You have taken advantage of my deepest vulnerabilities, leaving me to pick up the pieces of a shattered life. The emotional support you pretended to offer has left a void so profound that some days, it feels insurmountable.

I hope you take a moment to consider the human cost of your actions. The pain you have inflicted is real, and it is enduring. I am not the only one who suffers because of your deceit; my family, friends, and loved ones are affected too, as they witness my struggle and try to help me through the darkness you have cast over my life.

I am working hard to recover, to rebuild my trust in others and myself. This letter is part of that process. By confronting you with the truth of what you have done, I reclaim a part of the power you took from me. I will heal, and I will find strength in this painful experience.

In closing, I want you to know that despite the immense hurt you have caused, I choose to move forward with my life. Your actions will not define me. I will rise from this, stronger and wiser. But I hope that someday, you will reflect on the pain you have caused and choose a different path, one that does not involve the suffering of others.


[Your Name]


Do not change this, it is engineered to have an effect that any changes would diminish.

This letter is for YOUR benefit, not the scammers’. It tells what you might not have been able to say coherently and completely. It proclaims your independence, your autonomy, and your defiance.

As you go through the process of copying and pasting it, adding the names, and sending it, be mindful of how you feel before, during, and especially afterward. Let a few hours go by and see how you feel then. Do you feel better? Has a small portion of the weight lifted off of your chest or back?

We hope this helps you!


If the scammer responds, do not read the reply. At least not immediately. Some scammers may try to leverage this to get you re-engaged and allowing them to try to exploit you again. You must not allow that to happen.

Simply send it, and ignore what comes back.

We wish you all the best!

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