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SCARS™ Knowledge: What Is Our Job?
Literally Every Day We Are Attacked For Not Doing Our Job!
[lwptoc]But What Is Our Job?
So Many Victims Have No Idea How Scams Work Or What Is Realistic To Expect
We spend vast amounts of time explaining the process, working to help victims directly through our assistance and recovery programs – helping them set rational expectations, yet many are so enraged they are incapable of even hearing us.
HERE IS A SET OF COMMENTS FROM A RECENT VICTIM [UNEDITED]:
I have reported a sscammer recently Steve Lawson gave all info and have not heard from you he wants more money of course wont get it and also a stolen profile of my friend they got me for 1000s of dollars and a military scammer who took me for 35000 dollars i want to report all but if i dont hear for more info i cannot do so please contact me’
But I have a few more to report but I have to know you guys are doing your job and letting me know that they’re caught
We asked what she thought our job was?
doing your job meaning that you guys are going to catch these people I gave you a lot of information that should be easy to get him and I have a lot of scammers and they come from the website POF 99.9% of the ones I met were all scammers Yvonne last me for money they’ve asked me for everything else and I don’t appreciate it but I want to know that they are being caught because I’d like to put this behind me and if nobody’s telling me anything that I don’t know
plus I’m very adamant as far as being a single parent that I know they’re caught because what they’ve done to me they’re doing to a lot of others and I’m not happy until I know
I have a lot of information on both or all three people and you guys really should see if you can’t get them
In exploring what this person wanted …
Well good night that’s why I reported to you cuz I hope you help me as well I’ve had enough of online scammers online dating sites that are all scammers it’s ridiculous you guys should have put forth to have these places shut down
We explained that we are not police …
well then you’re telling me that you’re no good because you not here to help catch them I recovered my life I live like I’m a single mother with a beautiful son and I have a job and I have family I don’t need scammers if you’re not going to help me I will find somebody who will and I’ll bust their ass my phone
We offered to help her recover emotionally – that she is clearly very angry …
you’re not here to help me you’re here to help yourself so in other words I don’t want nothing to do with you guys cuz you don’t do anyting you are from romance scam and I knew from the beginning they were nothing but crackheads because that’s all they do is try to get you to pay them money for this that and every other thing that’s not legal if it’s free it’s free if you guys ain’t going to help people what good are you you should be helping me get these people
We continued to try and calm her but then she accused us of being scammers too …
I hate to tell you I know what I fell into and I can tell you a scammer probably from the first time I
As we tried to explain what we do …
I don’t need your help to recover my life my life is recovered I’m worried about getting them arrested and I don’t live in a fantasy world thank you very much bye bye now cuz I don’t want nothing to do with you you guys are absolutely useless
you and everybody else my friend nobody wants to help anybody you’re all in it for money pay this pay that blah blah blah you don’t want to help anybody get caught
Oh my God sit there and tell me I need you guys are f****** stupid
What Some Victims Believe
As you can see, this victim believes that we or someone – anyone – should rush to her side and run out and arrest every scammer and shut down businesses such as dating sites, Google, Facebook, and others.
Sadly, that is neither possible nor rational. And we say that not to bash or blame this victim, but to point out that romance scams exist because people have expectations that “the impossible is possible” and it does not stop after they discover the scam. This is why the average victim is scammed multiple times.
Every victim needs to understand what is possible and what is not. They need to accept reality and that is the first step in their recovery.
As we have said before the fear after the discovery of a scam drives anger and rage. Victims like this one attack instead of listening. If we are not doing what they want when they want it, we are not doing our job.
BUT WHAT
REALLY
IS OUR JOB?
What Is Or Isn’t Our Job At SCARS?
SCARS is a nonprofit NGO – meaning we function within the limitations of our charter and incorporation. We are tax-exempt and a charitable organization. Our functions are based upon our funding – meaning we do what funding permits and our Board of Directors mandate.
Worldwide there are only three known real NONPROFIT NGO organizations that specifically provide victims assistance and support for scam victims. SCARS (Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.) is one of them.
In The Case Of SCARS, Our Job Is To:
- Provide primary scam avoidance education to potential victims.
- Provide information to help victims cope with and understand the “how and why” of their scam experience.
- Provide victims assistance and support to help the victim move past the scam and recover.
- Work with governments and law enforcement to better understand scams and potential solutions, as well as address current law or new laws if needed.
- Collect and distribute scam and scammer data (SCARS|CDN) for distribution to agencies around the world to facilitate law enforcement and governance strategies.
What SCARS Is Not:
- We are not private detectives
- We are not law enforcement
- We are not bounty hunters
Do not expect ANY anti-scam group to chase down scammers and catch them. Any group that says they do is lying!
We hope this helps everyone adjust their expectations more realistically, and allows them to take advantage of our services in ways that will help them long term.
Open Hostility
Remember one thing clearly. Our team is made up of real people that are doing a difficult job helping traumatized scam victims. They are doing their best to help victims survive through their scamming experience. We help a thousand victims a day. And have helped thousands to recover.
We understand that this may be the worst day of your life, but that is no excuse to attack us or our employees or volunteers. That only guarantees that you will not get the help you need.
We do not tolerate hate or hostility directed at our employees or other victims. When we encounter it, we will block that person. Our team experiences their own trauma helping as many people in pain as we do. It is important that everyone understand that respect and civility are essential for everyone involved.
Other People’s Jobs
Here is an article that can help you understand the roles or “jobs” of others in the world of scams «CLICK HERE»
We wish every victim the very best and hope they seek and find real support.
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FAQ: How Do You Properly Report Scammers?
It is essential that law enforcement knows about scams & scammers, even though there is nothing (in most cases) that they can do.
Always report scams involving money lost or where you received money to:
- Local Police – ask them to take an “informational” police report – say you need it for your insurance
- Your National Police or FBI « www.IC3.gov »
- The SCARS|CDN™ Cybercriminal Data Network – Worldwide Reporting Network « HERE » or on « www.Anyscam.com »
This helps your government understand the problem, and allows law enforcement to add scammers on watch lists worldwide.
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To learn more about SCARS visit « www.AgainstScams.org »
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Important Information for New Scam Victims
- Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims
- Enroll in FREE SCARS Scam Survivor’s School now at www.SCARSeducation.org
- Please visit www.ScamPsychology.org – to more fully understand the psychological concepts involved in scams and scam victim recovery
If you are looking for local trauma counselors please visit counseling.AgainstScams.org or join SCARS for our counseling/therapy benefit: membership.AgainstScams.org
If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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