A SCARS Commentary About How Hard It Is To Help New Victims In Complete Panic

One of the very hardest things for us is trying to help a relationship scamRelationship Scam A Relationship Scam is a one-to-one criminal act that involves a trust relationship and uses deception & manipulation to get a victim to give to the criminal something of value, such as money! Click here to learn more: What Is A Relationship Scam? victim in a complete panic.

When a victim is in so much panic that they cannot listen to any guidance, and will not tell us the truth about their situation, there is nothing we can do to help them but watch them self-destruct. How can we reach them when they will not listen to any advice – we listen and suggest the direction that will be most beneficial, but at times we just cannot get through.

This is unimaginably hard to do. To be forced to step back and know that we cannot help.

We try to refer them to local help, the police, advocates, and mental healthcare providers, but they are so unable to gain enough control to understand what we are trying to do for them. They just want someone to save them and give them their money back – which is just not possible.

Sadly, we do all we can, but when we reach this point and we are not doing what they want – when we are not saving them and not getting their money back, then we are the enemy. This is where a victim can become very hostile and abusive to our team. They can even be dangerous, making threats and more.

This is when we have to step back, give them the information they will need, and close the door for now.

Our mission is to do everything we can to help each person that comes to us. We try hard to wind them down from their panic and present the facts about what they need to know, need to do, and how they will eventually recover from this nightmare.

We think we do a good job at that, but there are times when we just cannot reach someone and we must withdraw.

This is hard on everyone involved, not just the victim.

Our team is made up of humans and we hear this almost every day. You can imagine what it is like when literally numbers of people that you tried to help hate you. Some go so far as to cyberstalk you afterward, send threats to you, your family, and even your friends.

Why on earth would we choose to help anyone when this happens?

In the final analysis, we also know that we cannot help everyone, some are beyond our reach. But it does not make it easy.

Our team deals with their own traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. from what we do – it is called vicarious trauma, and all first responders and caregivers experience it. We provide awareness training for our volunteers and staff in vicarious trauma, so it is not a new topic for us. Every first responder and most healthcare workers know it only too well.

But we are here to help because we can.

We have a unique set of skills and experience spanning 30 years that have enabled the SCARS Team to fully understand the relationship scam experience and its impact on victims. It is not about “exposing scammers’ or “scambaitingScam Baiting A foolish activity where a victim or nonvictim engages in deception and fraud to lead on a scammer into revealing information or for the sport of it. Deliberate deception online, regardless of the reason, is both unethical and in many places may also be illegal. While not prosecuted, Scambaiting has no legitimate benefit and should never be performed by victims since it is an act of revenge and only amplifies trauma. It is a reprehensible practice that is popularized by amateur anti-scam groups driven by their hate for fraudsters. Learn more: SCARS Position Statement Against Scambaiting” or other vigilantism, it is about helping as many as we can.

Even if we cannot reach them now, we present the information they will eventually need for when they are ready. If a victim comes back around to the point where we can help them, assuming they want that, we will forget what might have happened, and roll up our sleeves and try again.

This is what we do. This is the way.

This is why we are an incorporated government registeredgovernment-registered It means to be registered with departments or agencies of the government. In the case of SCARS, we are registered with state and federal governments in the United States, Europe & Asia. SCARS is registered as a crime victims' assistance nonprofit with agencies of the Department of Justice and Department of Homeland Security. And is incorporated in the State of Florida as a nonprofit corporation. nonprofit crime victims’ assistance organization. This is why we invest our own money in making this possible.

If you hate us, we wish you all the best. But we are not running away. We remain firm in our resolve to help all those that we can. And there are tens of thousands of victims that we have helped to successfully recover to prove it.

Thank you for your support of our organization. If you need our services they are here and free for all victims. Just remember that we can only help you if you let us.

It’s 2021 – a new year with new possibilities. Take advantage of them.

If you would like to help – we love volunteers (just make sure you are in a good place to help others – many try to volunteer before they are recovered), and we thank all of our donors whose generous donations help make all of their possible.

If you want to learn more about SCARS and our team please visit www.AgainstScams.org

We are SCARS and we support scamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. victims worldwide!

Our most humble thanks for understanding!

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