SCARS Insight: Why Do You Think You Were Scammed?

SCARS™ Insight: Why Do You Think You Were Scammed?

Are You Still Doing The Same High-Risk Things That Got You Scammed?

  • You Wanted To Believe
  • You Did Not See What Was There
  • You Made False Assumptions
  • You Did Not Question Anything



Are You Still Doing The Same Things?

  • Are you still doing that in the Social Media Friends you accept online?
  • Are you still doing that in the Facebook Groups you join?
  • Are you still doing that in the Social Media Pages & Websites you believe?

It Is Time To Stop!


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  1. Lisa Ann Okoniewski March 28, 2018 at 10:06 am - Reply

    I have been talking to a Sargent Mario Fordham for more than four years now. I have no idea if he is fake due to the fact he states he is in a small town northeast of Toronto Canada. He states he is an electrical engineer who trains other including the Canadians at the base and at one off the base. He states he is not allowed to chat in person via Skype or other forms. We usually talk and text via Viber. He stated to me he has a side business of selling electrical parts to a contractor and had me accept money into my bank accounts from one and then send to another. He states he has no idea when he is coming home. He gets upset with me when I tell him it is hard for me at times to believe he is the military, especially just recently when he told me his commanding officer is seeing a woman but he told me I could not see him. I asked him how come he can and we could not. His response was that he is dating a Canadian woman he sees on their day off and he is his commanding officer. He tells me he is not a scammer cause he has never asked for money but I tell him, no but you have had me send money via MoneyGram or western union for you to Nigeria or Egypt. He tells me that is where his suppliers are located. The one guy I sent money to Nigeria for also has a bank account I have put money into. I am really wondering if I am being paranoid and I lost a real guy or if he is a really good scammer.

    • Romance Scams Now Editorial Team March 29, 2018 at 9:04 pm - Reply

      Because you received money and forwarded it, you will need to go to your local police to files report about this. If you do not and they come to you you may be in problems for money laundering.

      • Lisa Ann Okoniewski March 30, 2018 at 1:30 am - Reply

        what if it has been a while since I have done it? He states it is all legit and he tells me he is not afraid of any investigation cause he did nothing wrong and has the proof. I did have my one bank account frozen due to this and when I told him about it he told me it was all legit and not to worry about it. I am still worried and wondering. He told me recently he has stopped having me help him due to the fact of me. My question is if he is right and it is legit and I do a police report what happens after?

      • Lisa Ann Okoniewski March 30, 2018 at 1:53 am - Reply

        What if I sent the money from about four years ago and maybe the last time a couple years ago? I had one account frozen at my bank due to me sending large amounts of money and I was mad due to this fact. When I asked him about it he told me to let them investigate cause they would find nothing wrong. He always encouraged me to turn in people when my bank accounts were hacked and I told him if he did know them then I would press charges and he told me to do it. Due to this it made it hard for me to believe he was a scammer. Especially since I told him I would turn him in also and he said if he was a scammer then I should but he was not. Can I still file a police report and if he is not a scammer can that affect him?

        • Romance Scams Now Editorial Team March 30, 2018 at 11:31 pm - Reply

          It is not up to us to say what you can or cannot report. Talk with your local police. However, if you live in the U.S. you may be able to take a deduction form your taxes for the casualty loss, we suggest you talk with your tax professional.

  2. MANUEL ROMERO March 23, 2018 at 5:21 pm - Reply

    I thought I had found the perfect person. My marriage was dead, little did I know that like any fantasy reality sets in. Nothing coinsided and was logical. She was not the person she said she was. Then I rented a house, paid for everything. Gifts, money, favors ensued. I wanted more than anything for this to be real, but it wasn’t. Now I can’t trust anyone, even myself. I am ashamed, scarred, and worse have no recourse. In my culture I’m considered stupid for falling for this. When does it end???

    • Romance Scams Now Editorial Team March 25, 2018 at 9:30 pm - Reply

      You are not stupid, you did a stupid thing! You understand the difference? It takes time for the pain to go away, but it will. For most it takes between 6 months and a year.

  3. sandra cid March 19, 2018 at 11:51 am - Reply

    to explain this better my husband and I were married for 11 years was some kind of a scammer and it was not a cybercrime.

    I think I like some kind of people, those who talk well and touch our heart with words so I believe in everything they said. no, I am not able to see what is behind those words even when I don’t know who is behind those beautiful sentences empty of value. Mos of the times, I don’t I don’t ask but when I start to ask, the things are prey hugely.

    yes, I have a lot of social media groups and some of my friends come from there but never bored me but I believe that scammer studied his lessons pretty well although some of them seem to like to give a shot in the dark. It’s easier to read the reaction directly with my answers nice at the beginning, from cold to ice when they start to say that their heart beats for me

    I have to pages of my own one for photography works, other for the wright. when I refer to social media groups I was talking about pages from Poetry and Photography

    • Frances Gallagher March 22, 2018 at 5:38 am - Reply

      I just think I was trusting and lonely simple as that really. I had divorced after thirty five years of marriage and suddenly there he was.I had led a secluded life in the country. Falling for a scam taught me a lot about opportunists and the ways in which they operate and also about many people in general. Now I mostly make myself scarce and not even begin to entertain them for these insidious people can sink their hooks in and it can get difficult to extract yourself, its their job after all just like a used car salesman but worse for the targets involved

      • Sandra cid March 22, 2018 at 2:18 pm - Reply

        I agree with you scammers are opportunists, they can be also murders. Idirectly they can kill someone who gives to much or eho belives to much. They can be salesmen, docters, militaries…. what ever they want. Friends of a passed way military saying that you are beneath his nees.
        They can say you are the love of of their lifes and you belive and when you saw they try to transform you on money mule or on is privet bank.

      • sandra cid March 22, 2018 at 3:35 pm - Reply

        we always need to trust someone and loneliness help a lot. It’s so good to hear what we forgor during years of marriage. It’s so easy to fall in love with a scammer, they promise to a new life full of perfection and where everything is happy. My first scammer, when I gave him the money I told him that I would not give him more. of course, he tried but no more. At this time I didn’t what a scammer is and I didn’t know for at least 2 years.

        The big problem with fraudsters and scammer is that if they are used car salesman they are trying to sell the car and you are not seeing and you will never see it. their profession is thievery.

        But if read with attention all the articles published here I think you will understand the world of the scammers

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