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SCARS™ Scammer Methods: A Scammer’s Primer – Part 1
A Guide To Help You Better Understand Why Scammers Do What They Do!
Based Upon Actual Scammer Training Guides
The Scammer’s Introduction
Scammers Have A Variety Of Guides They Follow To Learn And Expand Their Knowledge Of Scamming
They use these guides to learn their manipulation techniques and how to dominate their victims.
In this series, we will be presenting excerpts from such scammer guides to help you recognize common styles and patterns that scammer use on their victims.
From One Of Their Guides – Unedited:
WAYS OF SAYING HI TO A CLIENT PICK ONE BELOW
- Hi, how was your weekend?
- Hey, how’s your week going so far?
- Hi. What have you been up to lately?
- Hey, how are things with you today?
- Hi, any fun plans for the weekend?
- Hi, I hope your week is going well.
- Hi, how are you? ??
- Hi there. How’s life treating you today?
- Hey, what are you up to today?
- Just stopping by to say hello. Hello!
- I just had to say hi to you. Hi!
- What’s up? How are you?
- How’s your day going so far?
- I hope you’re having a nice day ??
- Hi there, how are you?
- Just wanted to say hi!
- Hey there! ??
- Hi, I hope you’re having a great day.
- Saw your profile and just had to say hi.
- Hey, what are you up to right now?
FLIRTY/FUNNY HELLOS:
- I can’t think of anything better than getting a reply from you.
- I want this message to be the reason you smile at your screen.
- Do you ever feel like something really great is about to happen? I kind of feel that way now.
- If you respond to one message today, let it be mine.
- I kind of, sort of, well, pretty much think you seem amazing. Want to chat sometime?
- If you wanted to talk, it’d definitely make my day… or maybe year.
- Hello. Also, you are amazing.
- Could you please reply to this message and make me feel like the luckiest person in the world?
- You have no idea how happy it would make me to talk to you.
- You had me at It’s a Match.
- I tend to wear my heart on my profile. ??
- Hello, bonjour, aloha, salut! (I wasn’t sure how to say hi, so I tried a bunch.)
- Rawr means hello in dinosaur. RAWR!
- That awkward moment when you try to message a guy/girl and all you can think of is hello.
- Just saying hi. Because I’m annoying like that.
- I’m willing to risk the cooties if you are.
- I like how your nose is in the middle of your face. That’s really cute.
- I like hugs.
- I will always tell you when you have something in your teeth. That’s just the kind of person I am.
- I’d love to talk to you. For reals. No fakesies.
- I think I quite fancy you.
- You seem super duper.
- Double thumbs up to you.
- Anyone can be cool but awesomeness like yours takes practice.
- You (yes, you) are the person I want to talk to.
- I don’t flirt, but I will totally seduce you with my awkwardness.
- I’m looking for someone I can be a complete nerd with. You interested?
- I like it when a guy/girl talks nerdy to me.
- I’m the good kind of weird. How about you?
- You deserve a whole sheet of gold stars.
- The truth? I like you a lot. And I don’t even know you yet. I just have an idea.
- I passed by your photo too many times not to stop a say hi.
- My atoms are attracted to your atoms. It’s chemistry.
- Hello amazingness.
- You make me smile. That is all.
- You had me at online now.
- I want to be the reason you look into your phone and smile.
- I was more excited to see your profile photo than pizza. And I really like pizza.
- I bet my dog would like you.
- I bet my cat would like you.
These are directly from one of their guide books that they copy and paste in messages to new prospect victims.
Note that when they refer to a “Client” they mean a victim – this is a peculiar carryover from how scamming emerged from telemarketing centers in Africa and Asia.
If you are not a native English speaker you would not notice the odd phrasing of many of these intros. Also since they copy and paste them they keep the bad grammar as is.
Keep an eye out for any of these, assuming you are still talking to strangers! Just remember, that ANYONE that contacts you directly that you do not know or have a prior affiliation with is going to be a scammer!
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- Scammers Have A Variety Of Guides They Follow To Learn And Expand Their Knowledge Of Scamming
- From One Of Their Guides – Unedited:
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Articles that address the psychology, neurology, physiology, and other characteristics of scams and the victim experience recognize that all people share cognitive and emotional traits that can be manipulated under the right conditions. These characteristics are not flaws. They are normal human functions that criminals deliberately exploit. Victims typically have little awareness of these mechanisms while a scam is unfolding and a very limited ability to control them. Awareness often comes only after the harm has occurred.
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While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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