Scammers Use And Exploit Victim Needs To Lure Victims In And Control Them
Scammer Lures: Decoding Our Obsession With Needs And Greed
Karl Marx famously said humans are “creatures of need.” But as even this remark suggests, we’ve always been “creatures of want.”
“I’m not needy. I’m wanty.”
ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. victims need to understand how their needs can be exploited and used to lure them into the scam. These are some of the more basic scammer lures they use.
Understanding them can help you both understand what happened to you but also how to avoid scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. in the future.
Where Did Our Obsession With Needs And Need Fulfillment Begin?
The most visible resource for this is Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. This eminent psychologist proposed that humans are not nearly as transparent in their motivations as the word “need” suggests. We are not driven purely by necessities. Instead, Maslow delved into our collective psyches and unearthed different kinds of needs.
Perhaps Maslow’s limitation — and therefore of those who adopt his framework — is the sweeping label of “needs” he gives to the higher-order life drivers. More appropriately, these are desires. Or, as we could call them, greeds. We use the words greed, desire, and want interchangeably to signal that consumption is no longer driven by necessity.
The Key Point Is That Needs Are Finite, And We Have Long Moved On From Satisfying Them. Greeds, On The Other Hand, Are Infinite
Consider that physiological “needs” are as basic as breathing. However, we no longer merely “need” to breathe to live. We want air purifiers, humidifiers, dehumidifiers, air conditioners, air fresheners, and nonpolluting vehicles. We want rejuvenating areas that satisfy our craving for space that doesn’t cramp us physically or psychologically. Spas are as much a solution for better breathing as they are for better being.
Shoes were originally created in response to a safety “need,” to protect feet from dust, grime, and harm from protruding objects on the ground. We only needed one pair, until they wore out then we needed another. Today, we desire shoes to match our clothes, our occasions, our personalities, and our social milieu. The biggest clue to where the future lies though is still in the plaintive cry of “I need new shoes!” we continue to hear from people.
Our sustenance needs food. But we crave a lot more from food than mere hunger satisfaction. We want to satisfy our desires for gluttony, for things gourmet, for comfort (“just like mom’s cooking”,) bragging rights (“you haven’t eaten at Salt Water Café yet? Where do you live?”,) achievement (“you haven’t arrived until you get the corner table at Bungalow 9”,) and so much more. For protection from the elements, we need shelter. But we want a lot more from the place we live in: elegance, attitude, vibrancy, the right vista, the right address, the right neighbors, the right amenities, the right schools in the neighborhood, the right conveniences, and the social signals that emanate from having all of the preceding.
It is obvious that needs have given way to desires. The hidden truth is that we are all also well on our way to turning desires into needs. Or at least in articulating our desires as our needs.
A new perspective thus emerges of what drives consumption, and in fact, human behaviorBehavior Behavior / Behavioral Actions Otherwise known as habits, behavior or behavioral actions are strategies to help prevent online exploitation that target behavior, such as social engineering of victims. Changing your behavior is the ONLY effective means to reduce or prevent scams.. The second, deeper meaning is this: Needs define a category (eg food, hunger satisfaction), but desires define societal segments (eg victims, connoisseurs, social butterflies, achievers). Distinct segments desire different inputs and outcomes. And we gravitate toward them instinctively. But criminals use them to exploit us all – they become the scammer lures that enable the scam.
Consider a 21st-century category such as social networking
Social networking serves the need of people to connect with one another. Some people gather on Twitter, friends and family often prefer Facebook, relationship seekers go to dating websites & appsApps Applications or Apps An application (software), commonly referred to as an ‘app’ is a program on a computer, tablet, mobile phone or device. Apps are designed for specific tasks, including checking the weather, accessing the internet, looking at photos, playing media, mobile banking, etc. Many apps can access the internet if needed and can be downloaded (used) either for a price or for free. Apps are a major point of vulnerability on all devices. Some are designed to be malicious, such as logging keystrokes or activity, and others can even transport malware. Always be careful about any app you are thinking about installing., entertainment seekers throng YouTube, geo-proximate people congregate on FourSquare, the visual stimulus enthusiast community hangs out on Instagram and Pinterest, and so on.
In simpler times, needs were much simpler. Today’s consumers, however, follow a more complex pattern of behavior. Abundant supply and choice in the marketplace signal the primacy of want (or desire or greed) in driving consumption.
So Why Are We Talking About This?
Because this is a driver of part of your vulnerability to scams, fraudFraud In law, fraud is intentional deception to secure unfair or unlawful gain (money or other assets), or to deprive a victim of a legal right. Fraud can violate civil law (e.g., a fraud victim may sue the fraud perpetrator to avoid the fraud or recover monetary compensation) or criminal law (e.g., a fraud perpetrator may be prosecuted and imprisoned by governmental authorities), or it may cause no loss of money, property, or legal right but still be an element of another civil or criminal wrong. The purpose of fraud may be monetary gain or other benefits, for example by obtaining a passport, travel document, or driver's license, or mortgage fraud, where the perpetrator may attempt to qualify for a mortgage by way of false statements. A fraud can also be a hoax, which is a distinct concept that involves deliberate deception without the intention of gain or of materially damaging or depriving a victim., and deception we need you to understand how it plays into vulnerability and becomes a scammer lure. It is a tool that serves as scammer lures that pulls victims into the scam
However, the criminals’ success lies not just in catering to a victim’s wants. That is merely the first step. Lasting success comes from turning that want, that greed into a need over and over again throughout the life of the crime. Basic human nature, even in times of prosperity, tends to be predictably rational (or irrational, actually) in more easily justifying need fulfillment over greed fulfillment for fear of being judged by society as wanton creatures. The elusive formula, then, is to (a) go beyond need, (b) cater to greed, and (c) convert greed to need, in order to create enduring victims.
The bottom line is this. In seeking such desires, people turn to places (in the real world and online) where they think they will find it — as much for desire fulfillment as for choice, experience, and kinship with others who have sought fulfillment of the same desires. Then this becomes the way thatHow did we come to this?
Why did we explore this? Because this is part of what led you into the scam – this is a primary lure mechanism, and the scammers use this helps maintain passivity during the scam. In other words, this is an initial vulnerability and then exploited becomes part of the control mechanisms.
How Does This Apply To Different Scars?
The following will help you understand how needs set you up for failure and served as lures that scammers use to pull you in.
- Romance scams – the need in this case is the need for a relationship. Even if the victim did not want a relationship there was a need for human connection – someone to talk to and who would listen.
- Pig ButcheringPig Butchering Sha Zhu Pan 殺主盤 “Pig Butchering” This is a scam type that originated in China involving the scammer developing a relationship with the victim - sometimes romantic sometimes not - and leading the victim to invest in a fake company or asset. These typically target smart younger women. Scams – these begin in much the same way as a romance scam with basically the same need, but instead of carrying through on the full level of manipulation, the scam flips the need to a different type of greed. Why do people invest? They want what more money brings – so instead of heavy manipulation, this need drives the scam through to the end.
- Lotto Scams – this is a simpler kind of need or greed, the desire for a boatload of money, not at investment levels, but money falling from the sky levels.
- Phone Scams – most phone scams are based upon a desire for safety – they are fear-based – someone or something is in trouble and the person on the phone can fix it and take away the fear.
- Phishing Scams – these are the outliers, there is really no specific desire per se. The message can define the desire, but often it is just poor impulse control that results in these.
In essence, these are the desires, needs, greeds, that scammers use to lure you in. But once lured in, they own you until the scam ends or they make a functional mistake during their execution of the crime.
But You Felt It Was Not Right?
Keep in mind that victims often sense things during the scam. We don’t disagree with that, but we do not believe it is what victims believe they are.
- In a romance scam, it is also an abusive relationship. So victims sensed the abusive aspects of it without being aware of the crime.
- In the case of investment scamsInvestment Scams When a caller claims to have a promising investment opportunity that will help you get rich quick, it's likely a scam., it is often the case that the victim will have doubts about the amount of money they are investing – a kind of advance remorse or doubts – not about the crime being committed, but just about the investment risk itself.
It is very important to eventually deconstruct the scam into its relevant parts so that you can understand why it happened, what the initial mistake was, and why you are not to blameBlame Blame or Blaming is the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. When someone is morally responsible for doing something wrong, their action is blameworthy. By contrast, when someone is morally responsible for doing something right, we may say that his or her action is praiseworthy. Blame imparts responsibility for an action or act, as in that they made a choice to perform that act or action..
Your biases and coping mechanism will tell you it was different than this, but when you have the ability to think this through you will come to accept it.
In the meantime, accept that you are the victim of well-trained professional criminals and you were neither prepared nor skilled enough to avoid the scam.
There is no shameShame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. or blame in that!
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