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Step 8

Create a solid foundation for a peaceful and fulfilled life.

This is about developing a more positive way of thinking, a better mental outlook, which will better serve you moving forward. A daily spiritual practice can help to promote emotional balance and stability.

You have admitted your dependency to the scam, and assessed yourself.

You have identified what you did wrong and those you did it too – including to yourself.

You have explained it to others and asked for the understanding and forgiveness.

You recognize the things in yourself that led you here, and that you are going to work on them going forward.

Now it is time to figure out what you want and compare it against what you learned. It is real, or just a fantasy?

You need to envision a spiritual objective, which is defined as an improved conscious contract, whether it be with a higher power or your higher self.

You need to create a relaxing environment free of distractions, and focus on your higher power’s will for you and let go of preconceived notions.  This is all about opening your mind, and deciding how you feel most comfortable. What’s important is that you clear yourself of unwanted defects and make room for care, compassion, love, and empathy.

You Are Ready?

You are ready. You have helped yourself and now you can apply your deeper understanding of yourself to help others too.

By going through these 8 steps, you should have had a major internal shift, and part of that shift is a desire to help others avoid the same fate that happened to you.

This is all about letting go of the horror of the past, and embracing the joy of good living, as you continue your journey into a life of acceptance and understanding. It also encourages you to help others and to empower them as you have been empowered.

What Do You Need To Do?

Reach out to your fellow victims that are still suffering. Give selflessly of your time and advice and ask nothing in return.

Bring the same spirit, love, and attitude of helping fellow victims to every aspect of your own life.

Take your problems as they come and transform them into assets or strengths.

Perspective is everything when it comes to continuing to practice this recovery in your day-to-day life.

Spiritual growth should be your highest priority. Abandon the need for self-importance and prestige. It doesn’t bring happiness. Instead, learn to find peace within yourself and with whatever life throws your way.



Recovery is a lifelong process that requires discipline and a change in attitude and perspective. Only by regular practice can you continue to live a scam-free, happy and peaceful life.

Use this tool as a guide to living honestly and compassionately.

Share it with others!

God bless and the best of luck in your life.



Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. and the whole SCARS/RSN Team
May 2016


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