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SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit to learn more about SCARS.™ Commentary: Helping Others

How Can You Really Help Others?

When people are new to all of this they always say they want to stop it and help others.

However, before you can help others you have to help yourself. You have to stabilize and go down your own path of recovery first.

The best way to help is to become a volunteer. Start by helping those in your own group.

Bring things to the table that you think may help:

  • Share your own experiences and how you coped with it
  • Realize that there is a lot to learn
  • Participate in the group and comment for the benefit of everyone
  • After you pass the point of stability months after the scamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. ended – let us know and we will help you have a more public voice – we will even create an anti-scam page for you that complies with SCARS Code of Conduct – this lets you help more by your example
  • Help us by being a volunteer or a mentor to other victims in our support groupsSupport Groups In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers.
  • Help us edit our SCARS pages
  • Write a book – we have many successful authors in our sphere who can help
  • Help rescue victims in denialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality.
  • Be a local advocate in your town by speaking with the local crime victims advocates about helping scam victims – this includes going back to the police as a civic-minded citizen and explaining it all to their management – sharing our website as their resource
  • Help support SCARS advocacy initiatives and campaigns

In short, helping others, just like helping yourself comes in many different forms. Finding what works for you is the key.

There Is So Much That Needs To Be Done That Any Help Matters!

Let us know if you want to be a survivorSurvivor A Scam Survivor is a victim who has been able to fully accept the reality of their situation. That they were the victim of a crime and are not to blame. They are working on their emotional recovery and reduction of any trauma either on their own, through a qualified support organization, or through counseling or therapy. And has done their duty and reported the crime to their local police, national police, and on that can help others!


SCARS the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Incorporated


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Miami Florida U.S.A.



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