Last Updated on by SCARS Editorial Team
Here Is The Typical Scenario …
Some guy or gal goes onto an online dating website, and creates a profile …
They are hopeful and want the process to succeed. They want to find a great person, and be able to make a new friend, and perhaps even more.
Sounds great right?
But what happens next …
Depending upon the website, there can be anywhere from 10% to 95% of the profiles are operated by African or Asian Dating ScammersDating scammers Dating scammers or love scammers create fake identities on dating apps and social media to coax you into fake online relationships. They often quickly move to personal channels such as phone or email, using your trust to acquire money or personal info, or help you hide their criminal activities. You'll probably never meet them in person. This is a relationship scam. (according to our testing). As a new member, you are shown in a list of new members, and these are the ones the scammers target most. They know you are not yet experienced in their ways and are most vulnerable.
The rest of this is, you will meet someone who cares for you, and may ever sound wonderful. But it is all a scamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost..
When you discover this, you will be feeling not particularly happy about the whole experience. Depending upon how far down the rabbit hole you went, you could be heart-broken, or at the very least very angry. Partly angry at yourself for being stupid to believe them, and if you sent them money as they always want, even angrier for doing that.
Scammers cause feelings of shameShame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness., self-hatred and loathing, rejection, and even worse – the sense that there is no one for you.
The loneliness that comes from being a victim of dating and romance scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. can be profound.
One U.K. study found that being a victim of online romance scams increases the probability of suicide by a factor of 5.
The staggering statistic is just this, EVERYONE that uses online dating has connected with a scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer.. They may not have gotten far with them, but they did meet them.
In no other business in the world is there that kind of average for crime!
Just imagine what New York City would be like if EVERY PERSON that walked down EVERY STREET met a mugger? Maybe you were smart enough to avoid them, but they were there regardless. Can you just imagine the outcry?
This is what is happening in online dating today!
What is worse, the dating site operators and owners know this. Some do very little about it, because what they care about is marketing their site to you, and for that they need large numbers of profiles to lure you into to thinking that theirs will be the place you will find love!
However, the courts have held that their terms and conditions protect them from any responsibility. The fact is that they are PIMPS and DRUG DEALERS serving you up in such away that you will be forever changed by the experience.
Does that mean that you give up?
It just means that while you wait to find that special person, you go hunting. You do what YOU CAN DO to make the world a better place and expose scammers when you find them. Trying, all the while, not to lose your soul and give up.
How do you start?
It starts with Reporting Them All. It seems like an uphill battle, and it is, but it helps keep others safe! Find our Report Scammers Feature in the Top Menu above.
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