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Stop Thinking And Just Let Things Happen
This is a bit of a conflict.
You need your brain in gear when dealing with scammers, but you need to stop overthinking about what happened.
Rely more on instincts.
If you are honest with yourself, your instincts probably told you something was wrong with the scammer long before you let yourself accept it because you were overthinking – meaning your thought processes could not accept what your instincts were telling you.
You let your “needs and wants” overrule your instincts in the beginning (the Amygdala Hijack). They worked against your better self.
And they working against your recovery now too.
Stop thinking about the scam and the scammer. It’s over so let it go.
Justice doesn’t matter as long as you are doing something to get better, and when you do THEN you can help others, but you have to help yourself first.
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Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
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Sorry but the word has to get out any way you can.
Yes, we have kind of been doing that for decades, but people will not listen until they are scammed.
To tell you about scams. Us pop on my FAcebook all tthe time. The first they put you in relationship. Asking you be wife, then full all kinds of love. Then the last one making story. The same I knew from them. They said my father had money, want to has. All kind scammer wanted money. I have been thought. I knew that. I gave them all shit words. Wish them go the hell !
He sounds so true you want to believe every word but you can see lie after lie can’t get his money needs my Bank information and iTunes card so he keep texting me baby this and my queen and don’t forget my wife enough is enough
I want every female scammer in the USA and Nigeria,is that possible
First off, you really don’t know who or where they are. Only names you may have sent money to. Have you reported the information you know about?
In December of 2017 I was friended by a person on Facebook who used the name Sarah Lucas. At first everything seemed legit. Then this person began asking for money and I was instructed to purchase i tune and amazon cards. After I did a Google search of the scammer’s Facebook pictures I realized I was duped. The pictures were actually that of Philippine actress Liza Soberano. The person chatted often with me on Google hangouts. Their email address is sarlucas652@gmail.com I found the phone number that this person gave me. It is (310) 693-4598. I googled it and A result came up from U S Phone book site: https://www.usphonebook.com/
Atle Strom (310) 693-4598
Current Address:
350 Sharon Park Dr
Menlo Park , CA 94025
Phone Type:
LandLine/Services
Carrier:
Level 3 Communications LLC -CA
Building H
Sharon Green Apartments, Building H, 350 Sharon Park Dr, Menlo Park, CA 94025
Also: Phone Number
310-693-4598 Traced!
Location: INGLEWOOD, CA
Line Type: ALLEGIANCE TELECOM, INC. – CA
[unsafe link removed] … 0-693-4598
Hi Greg, can’t reply right now.
If you want to report a scammer go to
This is not the way to report scammers. Report them properly, either here https://www.romancescamsnow.com/how-to-report-scammers-fraudsters/ or on http://www.Anyscam.com