How To Know If You Are In ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. or Recovery DenialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality.?

Psychology of ScamsPsychology Of Scams Psychology Of Scams is the study of the psychological or emotional effects of scams or financial fraud on victims of these crimes. It helps victims to better understand the impact of scams on them personally or on others. To find the SCARS articles on the Psychology of Scams, use the search option to enter the term and find them.

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How to Know if I’m in DenialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality. About Your Scam?

Waking up day in and day out afraid or angry or refusing to deal with the reality in front of you isn’t a way to be happy.

Neither is trying to ignore what happened to you!

The tendency to dismiss mounting negative consequences from the traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. of your scam starts to take on a life of its own, with even more dire results. These signs of denial about what happened to you and the trauma that comes from not properly addressing it are worth being aware of.

Understanding the Dynamics of Denial About Your Scam

Whether someone you love is in denial or you’re the one in denial, there’s no question that the situation isn’t anything to dismiss or ignore. ScamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. are traumatic!

It could be that the signs of denial were a normal part of your life before the scam all along and gradually took on the semblance of normalcy. Symptoms of denial aren’t always familiar enough to raise any immediate concern. Yet denial and scams go hand in hand, and it’s common to experience a relationship scamRelationship Scam A Relationship Scam is a one-to-one criminal act that involves a trust relationship and uses deception & manipulation to get a victim to give to the criminal something of value, such as money! Click here to learn more: What Is A Relationship Scam? (whatever the form) and the corresponding denial in some form or at some level.

If it is a case of denial, what signs should someone look for? Is there a test that can be applied, for example, if a loved one, family member, or even you appears to display symptoms of denial—especially related to the need to take action after the scam, such as reporting to law enforcement or asking for help?

Where Is the Line Drawn? No Longer Deniable

After months or years of denial that a problem exists, negative consequences accumulate and accelerate to a point of nearly irreversible personal decline. There’s no longer any shred of deniability that a problem exists. The people around you can see it. So can you if you’re being honest with yourself.

When this point of no return occurs, it is often up to the loved ones and family members to insist that the individual accept help and get treatment if the individual refuses to do so. Unfortunately, this can also result in complete withdrawal.

It may very well be that by this time the person secretly wants to be encouraged to accept professional treatment or support since self-efforts to remedy the problem have not succeeded. Professional intervention may be required, and even recommended before the road to real recovery can begin.

What Is Denial?

In essence, denial is a case of saying it isn’t so or it can also be wishing it isn’t so.

Despite the reality that may be apparent to others, denial frequently happens when someone can’t or won’t face what they know deep inside to be true.

This is particularly common in those who are confronted with situations that are painful and traumatic, such as scams, gambling, addictions, abusive relationships, and so many more.

When It Helps, When It Hurts

Denial is a coping mechanism that gives you time to adjust to distressing situations — but staying in denial can interfere with your recovery after a scam or your ability to tackle challenges of daily life.

If you’re in denial, you’re trying to protect yourself by refusing to accept the truth about something that’s happening in your life – the scam or possibly, more precisely, the damage it has done to you.

In some cases, initial short-term denial can be a good thing, giving you time to adjust to a painful or stressful issue. Denial is a normal part of the grieving process that everyone has to go through to heal. It might also be a precursor to making some sort of a change in your life. But denial has a dark side.

Understanding Denial And Its Purpose

Refusing to acknowledge that something is wrong is a way of coping with emotional conflict, stress, painful thoughts, threatening information and anxiety. You can be in denial about anything that makes you feel vulnerable or threatens your sense of control, such as an illness, addiction, eating disorder, personal violence, financial problems or relationship conflicts, and especially victimizationVictimization Victimization (or victimization) is the process of being victimized or becoming a victim. The field that studies the process, rates, incidence, effects, and prevalence of victimization is called victimology.. You can be in denial about something happening to you or to someone else.

When you’re in denial, you:

• Won’t acknowledge a difficult situation
• Try not to face the facts of a problem
• Downplay possible consequences of the issue

When Denial Can Be Helpful

Refusing to face facts might seem unhealthy. Sometimes, though, a short period of denial can be helpful. Being in denial gives your mind the opportunity to unconsciously absorb shocking or distressing information at a pace that won’t send you into a psychological tailspin.

For example, after a traumatic event, you might need several days or weeks to process what’s happened and come to grips with the challenges ahead. You have been scammed, so you already know what the triggering event was. You might feel a rush of fear and adrenaline as you think about it.

So you the scam as much as you can, hoping it’ll go away on its own.

This type of denial is a helpful response to stressful information. You initially denied the distressing problem. But as your mind absorbed the possibility, you began to approach the problem more rationally and took action by seeking help. That is helpful!

When Denial Can Be Harmful

But what if you had continued to be in denial about the scam and the trauma it caused? What if you never sought help? If denial persists and prevents you from taking appropriate action, such as consulting a victims’ assistance provider or a counselor, it’s a harmful response.

In situations such as these, denial might prevent you or your loved one from getting help, such as recovery support or counselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes. A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists". SCARS does not provide mental health counseling., or dealing with problems that can spiral out of control — all with potentially devastating long-term consequences.

What Are the Signs of Denial?

What many people who live with or are regularly around those who are in denial may see, yet many times refuse to acknowledge exists, are several telling signs and symptoms of denial, especially scam denial. Outsiders may be quicker to recognize these symptoms of denial. That said, even those who are fairly knowledgeable about the psychology of scams sometimes have difficulty separating occasional telltale signs of denial from an individual’s normal character or behaviorBehavior   Behavior / Behavioral Actions Otherwise known as habits, behavior or behavioral actions are strategies to help prevent online exploitation that target behavior, such as social engineering of victims. Changing your behavior is the ONLY effective means to reduce or prevent scams..

Classic Signs Of Denial Include:

• Refusal to talk about the scam or their need for help, especially with loved ones but also with friends, co-workers, and others.
• Lying about the scam, their involvement in it, including financial expenditures related to the scam. Such as hiding their continued contact with the scammer.
• The insistence that they are in control of what they do – both online and in real life – both during and after the scam, or that their attitudes and perceptions or behavior are normal.
• Comparing one’s actions to those of others. Bother to justify them or to avoid something.
• The rationalization that everything is under control, that they are just fine.
• Constantly making excuses for their emotions, such as angerAnger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability.. They have a right to be angry, hate, or want vengeance, even when it is getting in the way of their real relationships and happiness.
• BlamingBlaming Blame or Blaming is the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. When someone is morally responsible for doing something wrong, their action is blameworthy. By contrast, when someone is morally responsible for doing something right, we may say that his or her action is praiseworthy. Blame imparts responsibility for an action or act, as in that they made a choice to perform that act or action. others for their problems. No one does anything – the police, the government, etc. Of course, the only one to blameBlame Blame or Blaming is the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. When someone is morally responsible for doing something wrong, their action is blameworthy. By contrast, when someone is morally responsible for doing something right, we may say that his or her action is praiseworthy. Blame imparts responsibility for an action or act, as in that they made a choice to perform that act or action. is the scammer!
• Not caring about the consequences of their actions, including not caring about their recovery – both as apathy and wilfully disregard (for themselves and for others – a lack of empathy.)
• Not caring about others similarly affected – are unable to show empathy for other scam victims. They just want justice or vengeance.
• Making insincere promises to improve participation in their recovery and change their behavior.
• Alternating bouts of sadness and anger. Especially directed at those they disagree with.
• Being adamant about living life on their terms and remaining totally in control – even though their actions and emotions tell a far different story.

If you’re wondering if you’re in denial, consider the following questions:

• Do I refuse to accept criticism and well-meaning comments from others who tell me they want to help?
• Do I get upset when someone shares information that contradicts what I believe?
• Am I so stubborn that I can’t see how my life is deteriorating around me because of my scam?
• Am I worried about the shameShame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. or stigma associated with the scam and, therefore, afraid to seek or accept help?
• How many times have I experienced panic attacks, paralysis, or other trauma symptoms but do not want to face them?
• Have I ever lost a job or been reprimanded due to attitude after the scam ended?
• Am I being overlooked for promotion because I can’t be relied upon to complete my responsibilities?
• Have I lost time for unexplained “illnesses” when I was really in no fit state to even talk to anyone and too many absences from the job?
• Is my family negatively affected by my scam and my behavior after it ended?
• Have I lost control with my loved ones as a result of my shame and guilt, lashing out to them potentially with emotional violence or verbal abuse?
• Have I tried and failed to kill myself, or wanted to do it?
• Have I given up on long-held goals or personal dreams because I’m stuck in the cycle of emotional exhaustion?
• Is there a family history of addiction, trauma or a mental health disorderMental Illness Mental illness, also called mental health disorders, refers to a wide range of mental health conditions — disorders that affect your mood, thinking, and behavior. Examples of mental illness include depression, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia, eating disorders, and addictive behaviors. that might make it hard for me to recognize the signs and symptoms in myself?
• Do I no longer care about keeping promises I’ve made to my loved ones?
• Do I really want to get help to manage the depression, anxiety, or trauma that’s wreaking havoc on my life but never seem to actually do it

If you answered yes to any of these then you may be in denial!

How to Overcome Denial

Symptoms of denial may become so self-evident that the individual displaying them decides to face up to the truth and get help to overcome the problem of their scam recovery or the difficulty living life with the associated trauma or mental health disorder. On the other hand, denial may be so embedded that the scam victim can’t recognize, let alone acknowledge, that they have a problem and need help to overcome it.

Nevertheless, professional victims’ assistance and support, trauma counseling,  treatments, and therapies can address the denial that accompanies being a scam victim, as well as get at the root causes for such issues. Then, continuing counseling and treatment, plus ongoing support & education from professionals and peers can help ensure forward momentum in recovery.

Having a heartfelt conversation or series of caring discussions about your situation and the sincere desire to overcome this weight can go a long way toward getting beyond denial and into real recovery. All it takes is that first step!

Moving Past Denial

When faced with an overwhelming turn of events, it’s OK to say, “I just can’t think about all of this right now.” You might need time to work through what’s happened and adapt to new circumstances. But it’s important to realize that denial should only be a temporary measure — it won’t change the reality of the situation.

It isn’t always easy to tell if denial is holding you back. The strength of denial can change over time as it turns into deeper trauma— some periods are linked to less defensiveness, and at other times denial may be much stronger. If you feel stuck or if someone you trust suggests that you’re in denial, however, you might try these strategies:

• Honestly examine what you fear – the scam is over, so what is holding you back now?
• Think about the potential negative consequences on your life and family of not taking action?
• Allow yourself to express your fears and emotions – but understand that it is all about balance!
• Try to identify irrational beliefs about your situation – learn about your reality, your situation, what caused this, why this happened to you, and what you can do about it.
• Journal about your daily experience (SCARS publishes a journal specifically designed for scam victims or you can use your own – just make sure you do it).
  Open up to a trusted friend or loved one.
  Participate in a support groupSupport Group In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers..

If you can’t make progress dealing with a stressful situation on your own — you’re stuck in the denial phase — consider talking to a professional support provider or mental healthMental health Mental health, defined by the World Health Organization (WHO), is "a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community". According to WHO, mental health includes "subjective well-being, perceived self-efficacy, autonomy, competence, intergenerational dependence, and self-actualization of one's intellectual and emotional potential, among others". From the perspectives of positive psychology or of holism, mental health may include an individual's ability to enjoy life and to create a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience. Cultural differences, subjective assessments, and competing professional theories all affect how one defines "mental health". provider. They can help you find healthy ways to cope with the situation rather than trying to pretend it doesn’t exist.

When A Loved One Or Friend Needs Help Moving Beyond Denial

You might find it frustrating when someone you love or a friend is in denial about an important issue. But before demanding that your loved one or friend face the facts, take a step back. Try to determine if he or she just needs a little more time to work through the issue.

At the same time, let the person know that you’re open to talking about the subject, even if it makes both of you uncomfortable. Ultimately, this might give your loved one or friend the security he or she needs to move forward. Your loved one or friend may even be relieved when you bring the issue up.

If your loved one is in denial about serious emotional or mental health issues, such as depression, addictive behaviors, or other issues, broaching the issue might be especially difficult. Listen and offer your support. Don’t try to force someone to seek treatment, or support which could lead to angry confrontations. Offer to meet together with a doctor or mental health provider, or help them participate in a support group. SCARS Support GroupsSupport Groups In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers. do allow family and friends to participate in specific situations. However, recognize that your active participation can have the opposite effect – that embarrassment or shame can get in the way.

Recovery Fear

Overcoming fear about what treatment or support for victimization and mental health disordersMental Illness Mental illness, also called mental health disorders, refers to a wide range of mental health conditions — disorders that affect your mood, thinking, and behavior. Examples of mental illness include depression, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia, eating disorders, and addictive behaviors. entails is a huge hurdle for anyone who wants or needs help to overcome them. The perceived stigma that surrounds victimization is also an obstacle, as they’re among the most stigmatized psychiatric conditions. But having a victim trauma or mental illnessMental Illness Mental illness, also called mental health disorders, refers to a wide range of mental health conditions — disorders that affect your mood, thinking, and behavior. Examples of mental illness include depression, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia, eating disorders, and addictive behaviors. is not indicative of a character flaw or that the person is somehow less worthy or capable than anyone else.

Trauma does require professional help to overcome and learn to manage symptoms and how to live in recovery. This is true not only for the individual who has the trauma but also for the family members who want the best for their loved ones and themselves.

SCARS is a professional government-registeredgovernment-registered It means to be registered with departments or agencies of the government. In the case of SCARS, we are registered with state and federal governments in the United States, Europe & Asia. SCARS is registered as a crime victims' assistance nonprofit with agencies of the Department of Justice and Department of Homeland Security. And is incorporated in the State of Florida as a nonprofit corporation. and award-winning crime victims’ assistance organization dedicated to helping scam victims worldwide. Our team has been helping to educate scam victims about the dangers of scams and helping them to recover for 30 years! No victim has anything to fear from recovery and support.

It is not easy, and in fact, it may be the most difficult thing they have ever faced, but recovery is possible for almost everyone if they will allow it.

Summary

If the signs of denial are recognizable, make the decision today to get help to overcome your scam by contacting us for free, discreet, confidential, and comprehensive answers to your questions about what we can do to help. Don’t allow fear to stand in the way of taking proactive steps toward healing recovery. We are here to help and we are experts in the field of scam victimization, support, and recovery.

You can contact us by email at Support@AgainstScams.org or jump into one of our support groups, such as this one: Scam Victims’ Support Group : SCARS Official Group | Facebook

Whatever you decide, get the help you need and deserve!

DO NOT SUFFER IN SILENCE!