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Editorial: Should You Try To Find Out The Real Name For Your Scammer?
That is the question: Is it better know the real name for your scammer?
This is a serious question for most victims.
You want revenge. You want justice.
How can you get that without knowing who to accuse, right?
WRONG
First off, you were probably not scammed by just one person. Scammers work in teams, and they take shifts. Someone is always on “duty” whenever the victim is available. You could have been scammed by as many as 5 or 6 people using a single fake identity.
Second, in most cases, if you sent money, the money went to a pick-up person and not the actual scammers. Most scammer cartels or even smaller gangs have their embedded members actually working for the Western Union or Moneygram agencies for this purpose. After all, it is the money transfer agency on the receiving end that verifies the identity of the pickup person, but who verified the agency employee?
You have to get this notion that there will be justice out of your head.
You were scammed, and that is all that matters. The odds are the scammers will not be arrested or even identified.
We are not happy about the situation, but we are realistic enough to know what it is. We will change it, but we have to acknowledge how the world really works.
If you get a mosquito bite you will probably never know which mosquito bit you. So what do you want to do? Do you chase around the neighborhood looking for that one mosquito, or do you care for the bite? Same is true here too!
There Is No Justice With Scams
There is only a hand full of arrests each year. This is year has seen a record number of arrests – approaching 4,000 – but it is still a small amount compared to the total number of active scammers.
There is only you left behind to pick up the pieces of your life.
We are here to help you in any way we can. But you have to be the one to get out the glue and mend your broken life.
You Can Do This! You Can Survive This!
Each of us who has been a victim has done this. It is hard. It is slow. But you recover if you let yourself recover.
If you really want to get over this you will, but if you want to hang on to your anger that is what will happen too.
Just ask yourself what would make you happier?
For most of us, it is going forward and recovering.
Your need for revenge and “justice” is just helping the scammer wreck your life more than they already did.
Don’t let the scammer do any more damage, turn you back on the scammer after you report them.
Be Triumphant! Be A Survivor!
Live You Live And Recover!
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A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
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At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
I was scammed by a couple thousand dollors and yes I was devastated. Thing is I know the scammer now and he is from Nigeria. His name is Collins Oluwahopkid Smiles and he tried to remain being my friend after I found out. Funny thing is he even sent me pictures of his mother, Roden Smiles and even gave me her address so I can send stuff. All I know is what comes around goes around and he has done wrong. He still has Whatsapp up and also has an account under Collins Oluwahopkid on fb. I left all this alone but was crushed at the scam.
You are still being scammed. The whole telling you the “truth” is just another scam they pull after they get caught. After that comes the threats. Yes report him properly – look in the menu!