Higher Power

While we don’t include belief in higher powers or religion in our program, your faith can be the most powerful element in your recovery. We strongly suggest that you seek your priest, rabbi, or other spiritual leader to help you in regaining your equilibrium, as this will help you follow the RSN Steps and have a more successful recovery. We also recommend Yoga for those that can.

Step 2

Make a real searching and penetrating moral inventory of yourself

During this step, you make a list of poor decisions or character flaws that brought you to this place.

This is where you begin to understand the causes of how you so easily became a victim of fraud. You will be examining your emotional problems in order to prepare yourself for a life without future scams. In the process, you may discover why you were alone to begin with, and maybe this understanding will allow you to find a life-partner after all.

You should also outline not just the hurt you caused yourself, but also hurt you caused to others. You probably alienated your family or friends when they tried to help you.

Also list your feelings, like fear and guilt, that motivated some of what led you here. Once you have acknowledged these items, they are less likely to serve as triggers to future online or scam abuse. You can use them to examine the future decisions that you make.

This is not easy, and is not done in a day. Keep your list handy so as insights emerge, you can write them down. Health professionals are trained to help you explore these, and you would be wise to seek one out.

What Do You Need To Do?

Be honest about your moral or personality defects. They can give you tremendous insight into why you fell for the scam in the first place.

You absolutely have to accept that the problem is within you, the scammer was just taking advantage of a problem that already existed inside you. They are a bug, but you let them in.

You were scammed, and certainly the scammer was a criminal, but you no longer get to blame anyone. You and you alone are responsible for your behavior. You really must accept this to move on.

So don’t hold back. You don’t have to share this with anyone else, but you must do it for yourself. You won’t benefit if you don’t own up to your shortcomings.

Trust yourself and remember: You are more than your mistakes. You are still a good person, and have people that care about you.

Be thorough and write down your inventory. This will be the first real proof of your process of recovery.

Remember, this is not meant to destroy your belief in yourself. It is meant to help you understand any false beliefs that you held, and so you can focus on your real strengths.

Take It ONE STEP At A Time!

You cannot be impatient. That is what got you scammed to begin with. There are no shortcuts!

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  1. John April 26, 2017 at 10:44 am - Reply

    I’m being skyped daily by a sexy white girl claiming to be in Ghana. She keeps asking for foodstuffs through , I email with her, skype with her, have seen a woman claiming to be her Mother. Her microphone does not work and her cam freezes often, however when she wants me to see her in her skimpy lingerie I can. HOW CAN I FIND OUT IF SHES A SCAM???
    It’s all just to much to believe for me… She also sent me a copy of her expired US Passport claiming she needs to renew it to come back to the US….???? Please contact me with info for my own understanding. I also have 3 phone numbers for her. I HAVE NOT YET SENT MONEY or anything to her…. It sounds way to good to be true. But I can see her on skype and it looks like she is in a very nice home or apartment probably here in the US.. LOL HELP me to understand this and whether it’s BS or could it be REAL???? Her name is Jessy Samadu… That’s on her US Passport expired in 2015.

    • Romance Scams Now Editorial Team April 27, 2017 at 3:11 am - Reply

      You are being scammers. Period.

      • John April 27, 2017 at 10:36 am - Reply

        Is there a way to find out who she really is from the Passport photo she sent me? It appears as though she is skyping with me from the US as the inside of her house is very modern and furnished extravagantly by Ghana standards. How can she skype with me live and take showers and dance if shes fake? From my knowledge there are NO WHITE GIRLS in Ghana?? How are they doing this? Can I trace her somehow?

  2. AMeucci February 7, 2017 at 5:21 pm - Reply

    Is there anyway to start alerting the people whose photos have been stolen….they are victims, too. In some cases, it seems like the pictures were collected for a period of the persons lifetime…say from teenage years on up to the forties. How horrible!

    My first scammer on the dating site Match…sent me pics of two seperate men….claiming to be the same guy. Unbelievable…and got really angry when I wrote—you look so different in these pictures…your eye and hair color and height appearl totally different. They are careless as well…scrutinize all pics even backgrounds.

    • Romance Scams Now Editorial Team February 9, 2017 at 5:02 am - Reply


  3. Dree February 7, 2017 at 7:15 am - Reply

    Please join the class action suit against Facebook…Also if you reside in the USA…Report scams to the FTC.

  4. JAYNE HIGGINS October 20, 2016 at 4:00 pm - Reply

    My experience of online dating scams led to my inspiration to write a book to give me (the victim) a happy ending if only in a fictional context! It is dedicated to women everywhere and the need for us to be there for each other and it is getting very good reviews as detailed below.

    Well I finished Exactly 23 days and I Absofuckinglutelylovedit! Not my usual sort of read but it had me gripped. The ending OMG! Seriously, I read it every spare minute I had. I couldn’t put it down. Bit bloody clever you are! When’s the next one out Jayne because I really loved it. Seriously. Brilliant. It put a smile on my face and a lump in my throat, on several occasions. Well done you. Get back to that desk of yours and pen a new one. NOW. (male 40’s Oct 2016)

    Exactly 23 days is available from, Amazon, Barnes & Noble and Goggle Books.

  5. Julie Loranger October 10, 2016 at 1:59 am - Reply

    I was wondering if this person is for real details are: Ryan Rangers/ E7 Sergeant First Class at Army
    Has never requested anything but did say that he could not go leave from deployment unless someone
    like a wife, fiancée , signed for him. I then read on a site about some military protocol. Me thinks
    it is just a little lie, what do you think? Why are we so naïve.

    • Julie Loranger October 11, 2016 at 11:33 am - Reply

      Don’t need the comment, I researched myself. Romance scammer. WE need to educate ourselves about who we are friends with on FB, as well as any other dating sites. Above all stay vigilant.
      God Bless Julie. L.

  6. who cares May 15, 2016 at 7:21 pm - Reply

    You have to forgive the scammer?

    Thats exactly what they afterward requested from me too. Yet later on trying to even rip more munah.

    No! I tell you what to do here. You set an example in revenge that beats all the actions what they served to the victims before and share it right to their family clan audience on social media. The more doing it, the faster it will stop.

    • Romance Scams Now Editorial Team May 15, 2016 at 11:38 pm - Reply

      Anger makes you stupid. You were already dumb enough to be scammed in the first place, making one bad decision after another is not a great way to go. And how would you get revenge on someone that lives half a world away? You can deal with your situation or not, that is a choice.

      It takes no courage to rant, hiding behind Google is easy. It takes courage to face yourself and move on!

      • Elina Juusola-Halonen May 24, 2016 at 4:27 am - Reply

        I agree with this. How can you even try to have revenge on someone that is not there. It is a fake profile you would be taking revenge on. A better way would be to set the scammer aside, and deal with your own problem, whatever it is that has made you vulnerable in the first place? This does not have to be something where you bash yourself. It can be something that starts the healing process for you. Maybe start a daily journal and record your feelings and your dreams. You will be surprised to find that you might have the answer there already..

  7. Elina Juusola May 8, 2016 at 6:49 pm - Reply

    HI Tim, and the team. This is certainly a really STRONG program. Quite scary, at times, but I am sure that it will help to start a recovery for a person who is lost in the thrones of understanding the scam he/she is involved in. I have written a book called ‘Love on the Line’ and through that experience of writing out my story, learning to understand the relationships between the world we live in and the scamming phenomena and believing in that we now can re-create our own ‘happy ending’ with no blame or self-beating involved, we can start the long recovery process. I think that it is a lot about forgiving yourself also. Thank you for the program. I will share it around, Warmly Elina Juusola

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