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Scam Victims Often Sabotage Their Own Recovery After The Scam Ends – Victim Psychology
To Successfully Recover It Is Important To Understand How This Happens
When you feel the tension like this building within you, take a long, deep breath. Consider the potential consequences or implications of overreacting to it. It’s also important to understand what’s causing that stress and unrest to feed negative emotions. You can see emotional ticking time bombs in action in your daily life, too.
For example: You can see it in a hospital with two nurses, one cheerful and compassionate, the other rushed and unfriendly. You can see it in your own office, with two people in the same position coping differently with their tasks.
Our beliefs, filters, biases, upbringing, life experience, values, and health all contribute to how we process situations. These differences are why we all have different emotional responses to an identical situation.
This is especially true for scam victims. Overreactions and outbursts happen regularly, and it is the number one reason why victims do not stay in recovery of any type.
To manage these emotions, you must identify them and ask yourself why you feel this way. Acknowledge it but put space/time between the trigger and response, and actively choose how you respond.
The greatest challenge in managing your emotions is putting space between the trigger and your initial response. You can do this with a few deep breaths or by walking away from the situation where possible. You can do it by putting yourself or the other person in time-out.
This technique will allow you the time to choose your response actively. For some, it only takes a few minutes, but for those deeply traumatized it may take several days to reset their emotions.
You can’t control your immediate emotional response to an event or situation. However, you can manage your response, which is the key to diffusing an emotional ticking time bomb.
FIVE SABOTEURS
- Frustration – there’s an obstacle in your path. People are not helping or saving you as you believe they should.
- Fear – your brain is trying to protect you. Victims often carry fear for many months after the scam ends.
- Disappointment – an expectation hasn’t been met. Expectations are a real enemy immediately after the scam ends and for months, sometimes years afterward.
- Self-Doubt – you’re underestimating your worth. This takes many forms, but constantly asking “what if” questions is one of them.
- Anger – your values are being challenged. People tell you what you should do, but you just know better and anger is your default response.
This is something that happens to most victims that are not in counseling or professional support groups and we want to place special focus on helping you avoid these situations. The obsessive viewing and exposing of scammers is a manifestation of these.
This is from our Grief Counseling Training Guide Book that will be available in the next few months.
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- Managing Your Emotional 5 Saboteurs
- Understanding Ways Victims Sabotage Their Recovery
- The Psychology of Recovery
- Scam Victims Often Sabotage Their Own Recovery After The Scam Ends – Victim Psychology
- To Successfully Recover It Is Important To Understand How This Happens
- FIVE SABOTEURS
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At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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