Understanding The Long Con – The Basic Mechanics Of A Relationship Scam – How Scams Work

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How ScamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Work: Understanding The Long ConLong con A "long con" or "big con" (also: long game) is a scam type that unfolds over several days or weeks; it may involve a team of swindlers, and even props, sets, extras, costumes, or scripted lines. It aims to rob the victim of huge sums of money or valuables, often by getting them to empty out banking accounts and borrow from family members. A romance scam is a Long Con.

The Basic Mechanics Of A Relationship ScamRelationship Scam A Relationship Scam is a one-to-one criminal act that involves a trust relationship and uses deception & manipulation to get a victim to give to the criminal something of value, such as money! Click here to learn more: What Is A Relationship Scam?

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What Is A Long Con?

Con is derived from “Confidence TrickConfidence trick A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost.

A “Long Con” Or “Big Con” (Or Long Game) Is A ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. That Unfolds Over Several Days Or Weeks, Or Even Years.

It may involve one scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. or a team of fraudsters working together (a team), and even props ( such as fake documents), sets (online profiles), extras (extra fake actors), and carefully scripted lines.

It aims to rob the victim of huge sums of money or valuables, often by getting them to empty out banking accounts and borrow from family members.

This type of crime can be done using real identities, impersonationImpersonation An impersonator is someone who imitates or copies the behavior or actions of another. There are many reasons for impersonating someone, such as: part of a criminal act such as identity theft, online impersonation scam, or other fraud. This is usually where the criminal is trying to assume the identity of another, in order to commit fraud, such as accessing confidential information or to gain property not belonging to them. Also known as social engineering and impostors. of real people, or fake identities. It varies by the type of crime and many times by the region where it is performed.

Examples of Long Cons

  • Romance scams
  • Lotto scams
  • Product or property purchase scams
  • Blackmail or sextortion scams

Short Cons

There are shorter cons or scams that also follow the model of a long con, such as:

  • Jury duty or arrest scams
  • IRSIRS The Internal Revenue Service (IRS) is the revenue & tax service of the United States federal government responsible for collecting taxes and administering the Internal Revenue Code (the main body of federal statutory tax law.) It is part of the Department of the Treasury and led by the Commissioner of Internal Revenue, who is appointed to a five-year term by the President of the United States. The duties of the IRS include providing tax assistance to taxpayers; pursuing and resolving instances of erroneous or fraudulent tax filings; and overseeing various benefits programs. Visit www.IRS.gov to learn more. phone scams
  • Grandparent scams
  • Arrest threat phone scams

Phishing and RansomwareRansomware Ransomware is a type of malware from cryptovirology that threatens to publish the victim's personal data or perpetually block access to it unless a ransom is paid. While some simple ransomware may lock the system so that it is not difficult for a knowledgeable person to reverse, more advanced malware uses a technique called cryptoviral extortion. It encrypts the victim's files, making them inaccessible, and demands a ransom payment to decrypt them. In a properly implemented cryptoviral extortion attack, recovering the files without the decryption key is an intractable problem – and difficult to trace digital currencies such as paysafecard or Bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies that are used for the ransoms, making tracing and prosecuting the perpetrators difficult. Ransomware attacks are typically carried out using a Trojan virus disguised as a legitimate file that the user is tricked into downloading or opening when it arrives as an email attachment. However, one high-profile example, the WannaCry worm, traveled automatically between computers without user interaction. Attacks

Both of these can include elements of a con since both rely heavily on social engineeringSocial Engineering Social engineering is the psychological manipulation of people into performing actions or divulging confidential information. It is used as a type of confidence trick for the purpose of information gathering, fraud, or system access, it differs from a traditional "con" in that it is often one of many steps in a more complex fraud scheme. It has also been defined as "any act that influences a person to take any action that may or may not be in their best interests." lures, but these are typically quick reflexive and automated attacks against individuals or organizations.

Relationship Scam

A long con is almost by definition a relationship scam, in that it requires a developing relationship between the scammer and the victim. The relationship not only enables the scam but provides the means to control the victim over time. Additionally, the relationship not only allows the scammer more control and ability to manipulate, but this is also a significant part of the traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. the comes to victims with the discovery of the scam.

Stages of the Long Con

In Confessions of a Confidence Man, Edward H. Smith lists the “six definite steps or stages of growth” of a confidence game. He notes that some steps may be omitted.

  1. FOUNDATION WORK – Preparations are made in advance of the scam, including using the team as required and studying the background knowledge needed for the role. This also includes collecting stolen photos. Purchasing the latest scripts and storylines. Looking at the analysis of successes and failures, to adapt for greater future success. It may also include online training courses. In select cases, such as with Sakawa and Yahoo Yahoo Boys – becoming involved in rituals to give them luck.
  2. APPROACH – the lures are laid out and the victim is approached or contacted. This can be a comment in an online game or a friend or connection request.
  3. BUILD-UP – The victim is given an opportunity to profit from participating in a scheme. The victim’s greed is encouraged, such that their rational judgment of the situation might be impaired. Or the scammer will focus on other desires, such as: attention, love & affection, to be valued, or the need to help someone else
  4. PAY-OFF OR CONVINCER – In romance scams, the scammer proves their attention and affection. In 419419 An advance fee scam or fraud (419 scam) is a form of fraud and is one of the most common types of online confidence tricks. The scam typically involves promising the victim a significant share of a large sum of money, in return for a small up-front payment, which the fraudster claims will be used to obtain the large sum. If a victim makes the payment, the fraudster either invents a series of further fees for the victim or simply disappears. The 419 comes from the Nigerian law against this type of scam. style scams the victims (thinks) they received something of value. In other cases, it might be the threat of losing something of value. Sometimes, the victim receives a small payout as a demonstration of the scheme’s purported effectiveness – this is common in relationship-based investment scamsInvestment Scams When a caller claims to have a promising investment opportunity that will help you get rich quick, it's likely a scam.. This may be a real amount of money or faked in some way. In a gambling con, the victim is allowed to win several small bets. In a stock market con, the victim is given fake dividends.
  5. THE “HURRAH” – A sudden manufactured crisis or change of events and forces the victim to act or make a decision immediately. This is the point at which the scam succeeds or fails. With a financial scam, the scammer may tell the victim that the “window of opportunity” to make a large investment in the scheme is about to suddenly close forever. Or, the scammer says they will have to go to jail or need immediate healthcare, or a thousand other scripted emergencies.
  6. THE IN-AND-IN – A conspirator (a scam team member who participates with the scammer but assumes the role of an interested bystander) puts an amount of money into the same scheme as the victim, to add an appearance of legitimacy. This can also be a fake government official, an attorney, etc. This can reassure the victim, and give the scammer greater control when the deal has been completed.
  7. CORROBORATION – In addition, some scams require a “corroboration” step, particularly those involving a fake, but purportedly “rare item” of “great value”. This usually includes the use of an accomplice (team) who plays the part of an uninvolved (initially skeptical) third party, who later confirms the claims made by the con man. This is not common in romance scams but frequently occurs with typical 419 Advance Fee FraudAdvance Fee Fraud An advance fee scam or fraud is a form of fraud and is one of the most common types of online confidence tricks. The scam typically involves promising the victim a significant share of a large sum of money, in return for a small up-front payment, which the fraudster claims will be used to obtain the large sum. If a victim makes the payment, the fraudster either invents a series of further fees for the victim or simply disappears. schemes.

All of the above stages are critical moments where the scammer or fraudsterFraudster A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. or con artist can employ psychological manipulation to control the victim.

Vulnerability Factors

Confidence tricks and scams exploit typical human characteristics of needs & desires, such as: greed, dishonesty, vanity, opportunism, lust, compassion, credulity, irresponsibility, desperation, and naïvety.

As such, there is no consistent profile of a relationship scam victim; the common factor is simply that the victim relies on the good faith of the scammer.

Victims of investment scams tend to show an incautious level of greed and gullibility, and many scammers target the elderly and other people thought to be vulnerable, using various forms of scams.

Victims of romance scams tend to show a greater need for attention, affection, demonstration of worth and value, and simply being listened to.

Scammers Succeed In Inducing Judgment Errors

Mainly errors arising from imperfect information and cognitive biases. In popular culture and among professional scammers, the human vulnerabilities that they exploit are depicted as ‘dishonesty’, ‘greed’, and ‘gullibility’ of the marks. Dishonesty, often represented by the expression ‘you can’t cheat an honest man’, refers to the willingness of marks to participate in unlawful acts, such as rigged gambling and embezzlement. Greed, the desire to ‘get something for nothing, is a shorthand expression of victim’ beliefs that too-good-to-be-true gains are realistic. Gullibility reflects beliefs that marks are ‘suckers’ and ‘fools’ for entering into costly voluntary exchanges. Judicial opinions occasionally echo these sentiments.

However, we know that victims are far more complex than the typical stereotypes and that their motivations for connecting with a scammer are more than the simplistic desires.

Accomplices, team members, fellow scammers, also known as shills, help manipulate the victim into accepting the perpetrator’s plan. In a traditional confidence trick, the mark (victim) is led to believe that he will be able to win money or receive some benefits by doing some task. In romance scams, there are family members or other actors that come into the scam to further convince the victim of the benefits of continuing. The accomplices may pretend to be strangers who have benefited from performing similar tasks in the past, or business associates, professionals (lawyers or doctors), or family members (such as parents or children).

Summary

Scammers, fraudsters, or con men (or women) all follow certain models for how they conduct their scams. They specialize in certain types (usually) because of the complexity of their schemes and the amount of knowledge required to successfully execute them.

They do display a significant weakness though when they engage multiple victims. It is very difficult to maintain continuity between multiple victims without letting anything slip. However, when they do, they will employ additional amygdala hijacks and gaslighting to sweep it away.

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