SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit www.AgainstScams.org to learn more about SCARS.™ Victims’ Assistance: Finding Real TraumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. Support For Romance ScamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Victims
Far Too Many Romance ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Victims Have Experienced Significant Trauma As A Result Of The Manipulations They Experienced During Their Scam.
The trauma of a romance scam can be significant and devastating, with long term consequences if untreated.
We recommend a combination approach to helping you recover:
- Education – learning what happened and how – you can start on www.RomanceScamsNow.com is the most complete resource for scam avoidance and recovery information
- Victims’ Support – exploring your experience with other scam victims through a SCARS Scam Victim Support Group – such as this one :: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SCARS.RSN.Support.Group.42/
- Local CounselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes. A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists". SCARS does not provide mental health counseling. – there are times when you just need someone local to talk to one on one – there is no shameShame Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. in asking for help!
Remember, no anti-scam group is allowed to offer counseling services. Counseling and therapy require medical licensing by their state or regional government. Even real crime victims’ assistance is regulated – most anti-scam groups are rank amateurs that have no real understanding of these crimes, much less the trauma victims experience – in fact, most do more harm than good.
SCARS is a government registeredgovernment-registered It means to be registered with departments or agencies of the government. In the case of SCARS, we are registered with state and federal governments in the United States, Europe & Asia. SCARS is registered as a crime victims' assistance nonprofit with agencies of the Department of Justice and Department of Homeland Security. And is incorporated in the State of Florida as a nonprofit corporation. online crime victims’ assistance incorporated nonprofit organization offering support services to scam victims worldwide. However, we are not a mental healthMental health Mental health, defined by the World Health Organization (WHO), is "a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community". According to WHO, mental health includes "subjective well-being, perceived self-efficacy, autonomy, competence, intergenerational dependence, and self-actualization of one's intellectual and emotional potential, among others". From the perspectives of positive psychology or of holism, mental health may include an individual's ability to enjoy life and to create a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience. Cultural differences, subjective assessments, and competing professional theories all affect how one defines "mental health". organization. For that reason, we refer scam victims seeking local counseling to professionals in their area that can help them.
SCARS (the Society of Citizens Against Relationship ScamsSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit www.AgainstScams.org to learn more about SCARS. Inc.) is a leader in the support of psychological studies and research relating to scam victim trauma. You can find more about this on our websites and Facebook pages, such as :: https://www.facebook.com/Psychology.of.Fraud/
Here Are Resources That Will Help You Find Local Counselors:
- UNITED STATES OF AMERICA :: https://www.nbcc.org/Search/CounselorFind
- AUSTRALIA :: https://www.australiacounselling.com.au/
- CANADA :: https://www.ccpa-accp.ca/
- GERMANY :: https://www.traumaaid.org/informationen/der-verein/
- UK :: https://www.ptsduk.org/treatment-options/where-to-get-help/
- If you find more resources for your country, please post it as a comment for others
- Psychology Today :: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
Important – Considering a Trauma Therapist/Counselor:
Whenever you are considering a trauma therapist consider the following:
If trauma seems like it might be a factor in your healing journey, finding a trauma-informedTrauma-Informed Trauma-informed care shifts the focus from “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” A trauma-informed approach to care acknowledges that health care needs to have a complete picture of a patient’s life situation — past and present — in order to provide effective care services with a healing orientation. Adopting trauma-informed practices can potentially improve patient engagement, treatment adherence, and health outcomes. therapist is key. This is often easier said than done. However, here are a few tips:
One way to get started is to contact a professional organization that offers trauma certifications for treatment professionals. They may not maintain updated registries but can at least help to point you in the right direction.
- International Association of Trauma Professionals – http://www.traumapro.net
- American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress – https://www.aaets.org/tss.htm
Certifications and licenses are not the same. Healthcare licenses are highly regulated by governmental agencies. In contrast, specialist certifications are not. Certifications are often developed and maintained by professional organizations. With the exception of highly specialized treatments such as EMDR these additional certifications do not necessarily indicate better quality care. Many well-trained, highly-skilled, licensed trauma specialists do not maintain certifications in addition to their licenses. These much sought-after clinicians already have full caseloads, and additional certifications are costly. Each region has different licensing requirements for healthcare professionals. Check with your regional health and human services or government departments to learn more about licensing requirements.
Another helpful strategy is to use an Internet search engine and type in the name of your location, plus the words “trauma” and/or “PTSD.” Professionals who feel competent to work in the area of trauma will generally list this on their websites. Doing homework in this way is generally well-advised. Go ahead and email them or call them with questions. Someone committed to client-centered, trauma-informed care will generally get back to you and be responsive to your inquiry and concerns. Even if they have a full caseload, they may be able to give you the names of other local clinicians that they respect.
Trauma recovery looks different for each survivorSurvivor A Scam Survivor is a victim who has been able to fully accept the reality of their situation. That they were the victim of a crime and are not to blame. They are working on their emotional recovery and reduction of any trauma either on their own, through a qualified support organization, or through counseling or therapy. And has done their duty and reported the crime to their local police, national police, and on Anyscam.com. It is largely dependent upon each person’s recovery goals. The healing process is also influenced by the type and amount of resources available to a person for recovery purposes. Resources do not necessarily need to be material things. Resources include time, money, family and peer supportPeer support Peer support occurs when people provide knowledge, experience, emotional, social or practical help to each other. It commonly refers to an initiative consisting of trained supporters and can take a number of forms such as peer mentoring, reflective listening (reflecting content and/or feelings), or in a support group. Peer support is also used to refer to initiatives where colleagues, members of self-help organizations and others meet, in person or online, to give each other connection and support on a reciprocal basis. Peer support is distinct from other forms of social support in that the source of support is a peer, a person who is similar in fundamental ways to the recipient of the support; their relationship is one of equality. A peer is in a position to offer support by virtue of relevant experience: he or she has "been there, done that" and can relate to others who are now in a similar situation. Trained peer support workers such as SCARS Volunteers receive special training and may be required to obtain Continuing Education Units, similar to clinical staff. Some other trained peer support workers may also be law-enforcement personnel and firefighters as well as emergency medical responders., access to therapy, availability of adjunct services (e.g., yoga), enjoyable and rewarding leisure activities (e.g., hobbies, community service work), and personal resources such as motivation and spirituality.
Resources can also refer to basic coping skills. In cases where there was childhood trauma or other childhood stressors (e.g., divorce), it is unlikely these skills were ever acquired. These skills include self-soothing techniques like deep breathing; muscle relaxation work; and, guided imagery. These and other healing techniques can be learned with a therapist; from another wellness professional (e.g., a yoga teacher, minister); or from a self-help book/recording. You are welcome to visit my website for some complimentary, trauma-informed coping skills videos that you can use even if you are not in formal professional care.
Another healing resource is the therapeutic relationship itself. This relationship naturally forms between therapy participants and their therapists (or other healing arts professionals). Indeed, this relational structure of therapy may be the foundational resource for your healing. As such, it important for you to consider your options. Don’t be afraid to do your homework. In addition to investigating the credentials and other qualifications of providers, visit several websites and try to get a feel for who they are and how they work. After you’ve narrowed the field, a face-to-face visit should be scheduled.
You should not expect that you must decide if a provider is the right fit for you in just one session. So, unless you feel extremely unsafe during or after that first visit, it’s generally advised to give any therapeutic relationship (with a counselor, social worker, psychologist, or even a medical manager like a psychiatrist) at least three sessions before making a decision. Because of geographical distance and other limiting factors (e.g., access to health insurance) some folks will have more choices than others.
In order to optimize your healing journey, it is important for you to enjoy a positive relationship with your treatment professional. You should feel safe and respected. This does not mean you will always like your therapist. There are times when the therapist may ask you to do things that are uncomfortable and challenging, and there are times when they must reveal unpleasant truths to you. Nonetheless, you should always feel liked and respected by them! Wherever possible, look for providers who are willing to honor your need for safety and possess a high degree of flexibility. Rigid professionals who tell you that there is only one way to heal trauma may be more harmful than they are helpful in your quest for recovery.
So what makes a good helping professional? When it comes to working with trauma, there are many articles that list criteria. Perhaps the best list out there is one that a survivor of complex dissociation and trauma herself gave us. Anna received services from a variety of treatment professionals over the years. Anna’s therapy experiences have been largely ineffective. Nonetheless, she has had enough contact with healing arts professionals to have developed a unique and valuable perspective. Anna shares the criteria she has found to be important. Her list might serve as a helpful guide in your quest for finding the right helper(s):
- A trauma-informed professional knows and understand your diagnosis.
- A trauma-informed professional gets to know you, and meets you wherever you are in your recovery journey. In other words, they find out where you are now, where you’ve been, and where do you want to go from here (i.e., your recovery goals)?
- A trauma-informed professional believes in TEAMWORK. Both the professional and the client do work, lots of it.
- A trauma-informed professional demonstrates compassion and empathy-NOT PITY, ever.
- A trauma-informed professional believes in a sense of connectedness.
- A trauma-informed professional should never impose their own morals and beliefs (e.g., religion). Instead, they are guided by their standards of ethics, coupled with a belief in the worth and value of every person.
Thank you to Grace Point Wellness for this advice.
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Always report scams involving money lost or where you received money to:
- Local PoliceLocal Police The Local Police is your first responder in most countries. In most English-speaking countries and in Europe report to them first. In other countries look for your national cybercrime police units to report scams to. In the U.S., Canada, & Australia, you must report to the local police first. – ask them to take an “informational” police report – say you need it for your insurance
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