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SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit to learn more about SCARS.™ Anti-ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Tip: Spotting Scammers

You Want To Learn To Spot Scammers, Right?

Let’s talk about that. Let’s talk about words like:

  • I think
  • I guess
  • I assume
  • I believe

These are excuses for not knowing. Excuses for not putting the work in to know something for sure.

When you were scammed, you thought he/she was real. You assumed it was ok. You guessed it would be fine. You believed what the scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. told you. Right?

How Well Did That Work Out?

Now you are doing the same thing trying to identify scammers.

  • You think they are a scammer
  • You guess they are a scammer
  • You assume they are a scammer
  • You believe they are a scammer

Think about what you are saying for a minute.

YOU are accusing a person of being fake. YOU are accusing them of being a criminalCriminal A criminal is any person who through a decision or act engages in a crime. This can be complicated, as many people break laws unknowingly, however, in our context, it is a person who makes a decision to engage in unlawful acts or to place themselves with others who do this. A criminal always has the ability to decide not to break the law, or if they initially engage in crime to stop doing it, but instead continues..

Imagine if the court system operated that way? Too often that is exactly the way it works when juries or judges do not force themselves to know for sure.

We are saying this because when you pass judgment on a scammer you are acting as judge, jury, and executioner.

Take the time to learn so that you can know. If you do not know or are not sure ask someone who is a professional (hint hint SCARS, our Volunteers, or SCARS Members).

Running around guessing is what got you scammed and it is the one thing you must give up to remain safe. Stop guessing.

If you do not KNOW someone is safe then avoid them, blockBlock Blocking is a technical action usually on social media or messaging platforms that restricts or bans another profile from seeing or communicating with your profile. To block someone on social media, you can usually go to their profile and select it from a list of options - often labeled or identified with three dots ••• them, and move on. At least you are not guessing, you are accepting that you do not know and acting in the safest way possible.

If you want to learn to spot scammers stop listening to urban legends and instant experts. Take the time to read and absorb the knowledge. There is no magic shortcut. These are skills you will be learning.

The instant experts have not taken the time or do not have the skill to know – they are guessing too! 98% of all anti-scam groups on Facebook have no clue. That is why SCARS Members follow a strict Code of Conduct.

Now That You KNOW You Were Guessing – Don’t!

We wish you all a safe scammer free holiday season!

SCARS the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Incorporated


A SCARS Division
Miami Florida U.S.A.