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SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit www.AgainstScams.org to learn more about SCARS.™ Quick Commentary: Why Report ScamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost.?

WHY REPORT SCAMS?

No one does anything and no one cares, right?

WRONG!

There are two Reasons for Reporting these crimes:

  1. So authorities know the true scope
  2. To relieve that burden from your soul!

Reporting is important because only about 5% of scamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. victims report scams. That is why governments around the world are just waking up to these crimes – because even 5% now is a huge number. Imagine if they knew about 100% 20 years ago?

NOT reporting become a burden on you. It’s a dirty little secret that victims hide away and have to live with. Reporting releases that and you will know then that you did all that you could to help stop the menace.

But there is an even more important reason for you to report YOUR scam. It is the first step in taking back control from the scammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer.. Silence is what the scammer wants, it is how they live and breed in the silence of their victims.

By reporting you are breaking the cycle of manipulation and standing up for yourself. You are asserting your own control over your situation. That is incredibly liberating, maybe not at first but it is that first major step towards a future without the remnants of manipulation, a life under YOUR control.

As you try to recover you don’t need any extra baggage. You already have plenty. Reporting is a way of throwing away a ton or two of extra baggage, filling it full of dynamite and watching it blow up!

Reporting is a scary process because it is also the moment where you are truly admitting to real people that you were scammed – this is one of the main reasons why most victims avoid it – but it is a release once it is done. You are no longer the child afraid to tell your parents you got a bad grade on a school test!

This is why recovery requires just three things, but if you do not do them, you are not recovering, you are in denialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality..

To Recover You Must:

  1. End the scam – blockBlock Blocking is a technical action usually on social media or messaging platforms that restricts or bans another profile from seeing or communicating with your profile. To block someone on social media, you can usually go to their profile and select it from a list of options - often labeled or identified with three dots ••• all contact – stop talking to strangers
  2. Report the scam – police, FBIFBI FBI - Federal Bureau of Investigation The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) is the domestic intelligence and security service of the United States and its principal federal law enforcement agency. Operating under the jurisdiction of the United States Department of Justice, the FBI is also a member of the U.S. Intelligence Community and reports to both the Attorney General and the Director of National Intelligence. A leading U.S. counter-terrorism, counterintelligence, and criminal investigative organization, the FBI has jurisdiction over violations of more than 200 categories of federal crimes, including financial fraud., and Anyscam.com
  3. Ask for help – join a support groupSupport Group In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers. and if needed local counselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes. A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists". SCARS does not provide mental health counseling. or therapy

Notice we did not say tell your family and friends. That is your business for now, but to truly release yourself from the scammers conditioning and manipulation you will have to do that too – but that will be when you are ready, and in some families, there may never be the right time – only you know when or if that is right for you.

But the three requirements are the difference between recovery or carrying this with you forever. After helping thousands of victims and modeling our recovery program after the 100 years of work in this field we know what we are talking about.

As we have said before not everyone will recover. Some let angerAnger Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, trigger, hurt or threat. About one-third of scam victims become trapped in anger for extended periods of time following a scam. A person experiencing anger will often experience physical effects, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion that triggers a part of the fight or flight response. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them", psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability. or their savior complex rule them, some let denialDenial Denial is a refusal or unwillingness to accept something or to accept reality. Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something, refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant; And as a term of Psychology: denial is a defense mechanism in which confrontation with a personal problem or with reality is avoided by denying the existence of the problem or reality. rule them. Those are beyond our abilities to help. But if you do the three things and work on your recovery then you can get through this and come out of it in a good place.

We always hope that you choose wisely.

But it is your choice. Now think about the last choice you made and how that turned out. Does this sound like a better choice?

 

SCARS the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Incorporated


Tim McGuinness, Ph.D.

Chairman & Founder
SCARS 
Miami Florida U.S.A.

 

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Always report scams involving money lost or where you received money to:

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