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Many Scam Victims Are Pressured Into Having Phone Sex With Their Fake Relationship!
Scammers Use Heavy Manipulation And Control To Hold Onto A Victim – Phone Sex Can Be One Of Them
Phone sex can actually be a tool that allows scammers to better control a victim by drawing them into a more intimate relationship, and then use that to control them and get the victim to follow the criminal’s directions.
Phone sex refers to simulating sex over the phone. People in committed or casual relationships may participate in this activity when they wish to connect with a partner and foster intimacy, especially when one of them is away – traveling or working away from home.
During Phone Sex, Most People May Engage In:
- ♥ sharing fantasies or plans for future sexual activities over the phone
- ♥ talking explicitly about what they would like to do with the other person
- ♥ sending explicit messages or photos via text, known as sexting, or other messaging services
People may masturbate during this activity. However, in normal cases, phone sex is a tool for fostering intimacy, and masturbation is either absent or secondary to the activity itself.
But phone sex also carries several risks and dangers, especially in the case of relationship scams, such as:
Privacy Concerns:
There is a danger that one or more people will share pictures and voice, text, or video messages without the sender’s consent.
In the case of a romance scam relationship there are very likely others listening in. Also, the audio or video is likely being recorded to use for blackmail later on.
Sexual Coercion:
Fraudsters have significant power over victims and victims may be manipulated into doing things they do not want to do.
A person may hear things they do not want to listen to or feel pressured into having phone sex. In some cases, people may send others unwanted sexual content in the form of videos, pictures, and messages.
Criminal Issues:
Phone sex and other forms of remote sex may be illegal in some circumstances. For example, minors may face child pornography charges for sending sexual images, even if those images are consensual. Find out more about each state, province, or country’s sexting laws.
For example, a person could face criminal charges in some countries just for having phone sex – disturbingly, these could be countries with extradition treaties with your home country.
Romance Scams:
This is when a person pretends to be someone else online. People may end up engaging in phone sex with someone with an unexpected identity or with someone who intends to share the conversation with others.
The obvious issue is that if something happened then it could have been recorded for used against you. This is called sextortion. However, if this happens to you, there are ways to handle this without paying the extortion.
If this has happened to you, please read the SCARS Guide on Surviving Sextortion: https://romancescamsnow.com/dating-scams/scarsrsn-guide-surviving-sextortion-sexual-photo-blackmail/
Romance Scam Intimacy & Trauma
If a victim has had intimate moments with a fraudster, then this can substantially increase the trauma the victim experiences after the scam ends. This can have a profound and lasting impact, not only on trust but on a person’s ability to be intimate with other partners in the future.
We recommend that all such victims find a local trauma counselor as soon as possible and make sure to bring up this subject in counseling.
If Phone Sex Turns Into Sextortion!
All is not lost. You do not have to pay the scammers if they threaten you. Even if you pay them, there is no guarantee that they will not act on their threat anyway just for fun!
We have a guide on Surviving Sextortion here!
Remember that all blackmail is a serious crime and should be reported to your police and the FBI or your national police.
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Important Information for New Scam Victims
- Please visit www.ScamVictimsSupport.org – a SCARS Website for New Scam Victims & Sextortion Victims
- Enroll in FREE SCARS Scam Survivor’s School now at www.SCARSeducation.org
- Please visit www.ScamPsychology.org – to more fully understand the psychological concepts involved in scams and scam victim recovery
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If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
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At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
SCARS Institute articles examine different aspects of the scam victim experience, as well as those who may have been secondary victims. This work focuses on understanding victimization through the science of victimology, including common psychological and behavioral responses. The purpose is to help victims and survivors understand why these crimes occurred, reduce shame and self-blame, strengthen recovery programs and victim opportunities, and lower the risk of future victimization.
At times, these discussions may sound uncomfortable, overwhelming, or may be mistaken for blame. They are not. Scam victims are never blamed. Our goal is to explain the mechanisms of deception and the human responses that scammers exploit, and the processes that occur after the scam ends, so victims can better understand what happened to them and why it felt convincing at the time, and what the path looks like going forward.
Articles that address the psychology, neurology, physiology, and other characteristics of scams and the victim experience recognize that all people share cognitive and emotional traits that can be manipulated under the right conditions. These characteristics are not flaws. They are normal human functions that criminals deliberately exploit. Victims typically have little awareness of these mechanisms while a scam is unfolding and a very limited ability to control them. Awareness often comes only after the harm has occurred.
By explaining these processes, these articles help victims make sense of their experiences, understand common post-scam reactions, and identify ways to protect themselves moving forward. This knowledge supports recovery by replacing confusion and self-blame with clarity, context, and self-compassion.
Additional educational material on these topics is available at ScamPsychology.org – ScamsNOW.com and other SCARS Institute websites.
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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