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Many Scam Victims Are Pressured Into Having Phone Sex With Their Fake Relationship!
Scammers Use Heavy Manipulation And Control To Hold Onto A Victim – Phone Sex Can Be One Of Them
Phone sex can actually be a tool that allows scammers to better control a victim by drawing them into a more intimate relationship, and then use that to control them and get the victim to follow the criminal’s directions.
Phone sex refers to simulating sex over the phone. People in committed or casual relationships may participate in this activity when they wish to connect with a partner and foster intimacy, especially when one of them is away – traveling or working away from home.
During Phone Sex, Most People May Engage In:
- ♥ sharing fantasies or plans for future sexual activities over the phone
- ♥ talking explicitly about what they would like to do with the other person
- ♥ sending explicit messages or photos via text, known as sexting, or other messaging services
People may masturbate during this activity. However, in normal cases, phone sex is a tool for fostering intimacy, and masturbation is either absent or secondary to the activity itself.
But phone sex also carries several risks and dangers, especially in the case of relationship scams, such as:
Privacy Concerns:
There is a danger that one or more people will share pictures and voice, text, or video messages without the sender’s consent.
In the case of a romance scam relationship there are very likely others listening in. Also, the audio or video is likely being recorded to use for blackmail later on.
Sexual Coercion:
Fraudsters have significant power over victims and victims may be manipulated into doing things they do not want to do.
A person may hear things they do not want to listen to or feel pressured into having phone sex. In some cases, people may send others unwanted sexual content in the form of videos, pictures, and messages.
Criminal Issues:
Phone sex and other forms of remote sex may be illegal in some circumstances. For example, minors may face child pornography charges for sending sexual images, even if those images are consensual. Find out more about each state, province, or country’s sexting laws.
For example, a person could face criminal charges in some countries just for having phone sex – disturbingly, these could be countries with extradition treaties with your home country.
Romance Scams:
This is when a person pretends to be someone else online. People may end up engaging in phone sex with someone with an unexpected identity or with someone who intends to share the conversation with others.
The obvious issue is that if something happened then it could have been recorded for used against you. This is called sextortion. However, if this happens to you, there are ways to handle this without paying the extortion.
If this has happened to you, please read the SCARS Guide on Surviving Sextortion: https://romancescamsnow.com/dating-scams/scarsrsn-guide-surviving-sextortion-sexual-photo-blackmail/
Romance Scam Intimacy & Trauma
If a victim has had intimate moments with a fraudster, then this can substantially increase the trauma the victim experiences after the scam ends. This can have a profound and lasting impact, not only on trust but on a person’s ability to be intimate with other partners in the future.
We recommend that all such victims find a local trauma counselor as soon as possible and make sure to bring up this subject in counseling.
If Phone Sex Turns Into Sextortion!
All is not lost. You do not have to pay the scammers if they threaten you. Even if you pay them, there is no guarantee that they will not act on their threat anyway just for fun!
We have a guide on Surviving Sextortion here!
Remember that all blackmail is a serious crime and should be reported to your police and the FBI or your national police.
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