(Last Updated On: March 24, 2022)

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ScamScam A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. Urban Legends

A SCARSSCARS SCARS - Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc. A government registered crime victims' assistance & crime prevention nonprofit organization based in Miami, Florida, U.S.A. SCARS supports the victims of scams worldwide and through its partners in more than 60 countries around the world. Incorporated in 2015, its team has 30 years of continuous experience educating and supporting scam victims. Visit www.AgainstScams.org to learn more about SCARS. Insight

A Typical ScammerScammer A Scammer or Fraudster is someone that engages in deception to obtain money or achieve another objective. They are criminals that attempt to deceive a victim into sending more or performing some other activity that benefits the scammer. Threat Is To Come To Where The Victim Lives!

But In Reality, This Is Just A Threat

As a scam winds down and ends, scammers commonly threaten all kinds of things. We have heard from victims that scammers have said:

  • They would visit the victim and kill them. Shoot them, stab them, poison them.
  • They would kill the victim’s family or children.
  • They would report them to the police as a criminalCriminal A criminal is any person who through a decision or act engages in a crime. This can be complicated, as many people break laws unknowingly, however, in our context, it is a person who makes a decision to engage in unlawful acts or to place themselves with others who do this. A criminal always has the ability to decide not to break the law, or if they initially engage in crime to stop doing it, but instead continues..
  • They would report them as a terrorist.
  • They would have their government extradite the victim to some third-world country.
  • They will watch them and stalk them.
  • The list goes on and on …

However, it is almost all nonsense. It is just another form of manipulation. Another scam. In most cases.

After the scam ends, if the scammer cannot get any more money from the victim, they will use threats to achieve two potential goals.

  1. Silence the victim – the more victims that talk about their scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime -  is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. the more the scammer’s business is impacted.
  2. Set the victim up for a follow-on scam, Frightened victims are more likely to pay a fake investigator or a fake police officer to investigate and arrest the scammer. In this way, they can extend the scam or do a hand-off to another group to exploit that last bit of money the scam victim has.

But these are just more of the same – all lies – intended to extend the manipulation long after the scam relationship ends.

And Very Sadly, It Works!

No one knows the exact percentage of scam victims that are threatened after their scams, but some estimates are as high at 25%. And for those victims that are threatened, the after-scam experience is much worse.  These threats can be truly frightening, causing much more severe traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS..

When Should You Ignore Threats?

In almost all cases the threats are going to be just more lies. This is especially true with the Africans.

You can also safely ignore threats when:

  • The scammers are African – regardless of where you live. African scammers are only after the money.
  • The scammers are Asian – but you live in the Americas or Europe. If the Asian scammers are in your same country, you should always notify the police.
  • The scammers are Jamaican – but you do not live in Jamaica.
  • The scammers are Middle Easter – but you live in Asia, the Americas, or in Europe.

When You Should Not Ignore The Threats?

There are a few cases – very rare – when you need to pay attention to the threats. This is mostly true of Eastern European Marriage scams where someone travels to Eastern Europe (Ukraine or Russia for example) and married a local woman. In these cases, these scams are often run by real mafia-style criminals, who may indeed have collaborators in many countries.

Russian scammers are especially good at transforming a marriage scam into something more and obtaining every bit of value from it.

However, the Africans do not do this, and most of the time neither do Asian or Latin American scammers.

The Wierd Case Of Being Married To A Scammer

Many scammers, especially African scammers try to convince their victims that they are legitimately married to them, by simply creating a fake marriage certificate.

In these bizarre scams as the victim stops sending money, scammers often say they are coming to claim you, their house, and property. But there is only one small problem – they are not married to their victims, it was just another lie. So do not worry about this, the scammer would never get a VISA or make it through immigration with such patent falsehoods.

Always Report To The Police

If you are ever threatened by a scammer you must report this to the police. Even if you were not threatened you should report the crime, but especially if there are threats.

However, regardless of where the scammer is or from, if you feel afraid talk to your police. That is what they are there for. They can help you feel more reassured and safe, and give you valuable tips about how to be safer in your local community.

The reason is so that the police has this information on file. Should you ever need a restraining order or protection, they have the original file or report to justify this. If you never reported it, then you have to start from scratch. Better to have reported the crime and be prepared than otherwise.

If you ever feel that you are in real danger always call 911 or your local emergency number. This is what they are there for!

Remember, the scammer will almost NEVER come to your door. Just report the scam and then do your best to recover from it.

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This program is designed to help scam victims struggling to recover on their own and for those who want to understand the overall process. You can be using other resources, such as trauma counselingCounseling Counseling is the professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes. A mental health counselor (MHC), or counselor, is a person who works with individuals and groups to promote optimum mental and emotional health. Such persons may help individuals deal with issues associated with addiction and substance abuse; family, parenting, and marital problems; stress management; self-esteem; and aging. They may also work with "Social Workers", "Psychiatrists", and "Psychologists". SCARS does not provide mental health counseling. or therapy, qualified support groupsSupport Groups In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers., or completely independent – on your own!

The SCARS Steps program is a complete program and is provided for the purpose of helping scam victims to overcome this experience. Throughout this SCARS Steps Program, we speak about issues and challenges that a victim may have and help guide them through their recovery. But each person is different and it is important to understand your own reasons for being vulnerable to being scammed.

After the trauma of being scammed, you need to take steps to recover and move on. This may be an alternative to counseling in the short term, but we still encourage you to seek out professional help & support. Throughout this SCARS Steps Program, we speak about issues, challenges, defects, or problems that a victim may have in a generalized way.

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A Guide For Families & Friends Of Scam Victims


This SCARS Publishing book represents a complete guide to help the families and friends understand how these scams work and how to help the victim.

The SCARS Slate Book should be purchased by family and friends to better understand what happened to the victim and the traumatic impact on them. But it can also be shared by the victim so that they do not have to explain to family and friends about the scam. This publication is to help others to help Scam Victims to make it through this traumatic experience and recover.

Each person is different and it is important to understand how relationship scamsRelationship Scam A Relationship Scam is a one-to-one criminal act that involves a trust relationship and uses deception & manipulation to get a victim to give to the criminal something of value, such as money! Click here to learn more: What Is A Relationship Scam? work and why people are vulnerable; to being scammed, how they were lured in, then groomed and manipulated. This understanding is essential in helping them through the process of ending the scam and then on to recovery. The SCARS Slate Book will provide the information necessary to help support a victim through this process.

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Helps you get and stay organized. This publication is to help Scam Victims organize their crime information. Complete this information before reporting to the police then bring this book with you

Before or after reporting to the police the RED BOOK gives you a dedicated tool to record all the essential facts of this crime. The Victim, the Scammers, the Money, and your Police interactions. Everything that really matters can be easily recorded for your immediate use and for the future!

As we have seen, money recovery/repayment programs can become available years after the scam ends and you need to keep all the details of this crime in case it is needed. We have also seen scammers being extradited to the U.S. and other countries, this will help in the event you testify or give statements, Additionally, this helps you have your information ready to qualify for victims’ benefits, compensation, or aid.

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