SCARS™ Commentary: Stop Just Reading Headlines
How Many Of You Just Read The Post Headline?
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The Answer Is Most Of You!
Not all to be sure. Many of you are interested in the substance of what is happening, but the majority of victims are looking for instant gratification that comes from stories of scammer arrests, or other actions to help you re-establish control in your life. So many victims just want to skim the information that would help them stay safe, instead of actually learning knowledge that they can use to help others as well.
We get 10 times the attention on a page of scammer photos than we do on an article about helping yourself recover from the scam. That is truly sad.
That Sounds Harsh And Insulting, Doesn’t It?
Over the last few years, we have interacted with hundreds of thousands of comments on our social media and websites, and one thing clearly stands out: how few victims actually read the information we present. We know they were there because they commented on a post or article, but they commented on what the HEADLINE said, and not on the article itself. Their comment clearly showed they did not understand the article since headlines many times are a small aspect of the story. Oh, and yes, we read every comment everywhere!
Consider What That Means In The Context Of Being A Scam Victim?
It means that victims are still being attracted to and make snap judgments from small bits of information instead of taking the time to explore and investigate thoroughly.
Isn’t That Exactly What Got Them Scammed In The First Place?
A perfect example is a story we presented here on SCARS about an Australian Woman who won an appeal to her prison sentence in Cambodia for drug mule charges. The comments were glowing, but since they did not read the story, it does not have a happy ending, since she is still in prison and facing a retrial. The headline was about winning, but the story is far from over – which the commenters would have known if they read it.
We see the exact same thing with the SCARS™ Guides that we publish to help victims understand what happened to them and how to avoid them in the future. We know exactly how many people read them. This is especially true on Facebook since we can see who is liking and commenting compared to who clicks through to the article. This is not a rant, but a statement of caution.
Victims became scammed because of their lack of attention when they were initially contacted. Is that a fair statement?
We also know that most scam victims (statistically) are scammed more than once – of course, this is slightly unfair since some victims are scammed dozens of times. After a victim has been scammed once you would think that the lesson was learned and it would not happen again, right? Unfortunately not so.
There are many changes that a victim needs to make, many things a victim needs to learn to avoid scams in the future. We hear them say “Never Again” countless times yet they continue the same behaviors that brought them to the scam in the first time. Staying safe online is not a conviction to avoid scams alone, it is changing your behaviors to avoid them. A big part of that is taking the time to acquire knowledge and working on your habits – transforming habits from dangerous to safeguarding. Victims can skim information, but that is what scammers rely on – that you will not take the time to spot their flaws.
Our organization spends a vast amount of money creating content to help victims avoid scams in the future and recover from the ones they already experienced.
This is a resource that is here right now for you to take advantage of. It costs you nothing but some of your time. A small amount of time that will be well spent since it helps you avoid losses in the future, or if it helps you recover from the last scam, and help the people in your life to avoid scams as well.
Isn’t That Worth A Few Minutes Of Your Time?
If it really isn’t – please tell us and we can shut down right now and stop wasting money on what is of little value.
As a victim, you have to understand that your habits and behaviors led you to be scammed in the first place.
You have to change because the scammers will not go away. The scammers are there waiting for you to make another mistake and let them in.
You may think you know their ways, but there are hundreds of different kinds of scams out there waiting for you and the only thing that will stop them is the knowledge you need and the changes to your habits. You have to learn and defend yourself, and the way you do that is with knowledge, pure and simple.
Just think about the hundreds or thousands of hours you dedicated to your fake relationship? We only ask a small percentage of that time for you to learn to be safe online and to recover. That seems a fair bargain, doesn’t it?
Maybe You Read This Commentary, Maybe You Only Read The Headline?
We will continue to help those that make the effort to help themselves. To the headline skimmers, feel free to see us after then next tie you fall for a scam!
Tom Borman
SCARS™ Managing Director
a division of the Society of Citizens Against Romance Scams [SCARS]
Miami Florida U.S.A.
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Table of Contents
- How Many Of You Just Read The Post Headline?
- The Answer Is Most Of You!
- That Sounds Harsh And Insulting, Doesn’t It?
- Consider What That Means In The Context Of Being A Scam Victim?
- Isn’t That Exactly What Got Them Scammed In The First Place?
- Isn’t That Worth A Few Minutes Of Your Time?
- Maybe You Read This Commentary, Maybe You Only Read The Headline?
- CHAT WITH SCARS™ – CLICK HERE [icon name=”comment” class=”” unprefixed_class=”2x”]
- Tell us about your experiences with Romance Scammers in our Scams Discussion Forum on Facebook »
- FAQ: How Do You Properly Report Scammers?
- Please be sure to report all scammers HERE » or on www.Anyscam.com »
- Legal Notices:
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A Note About Labeling!
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A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
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While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
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