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We Mean Impersonation Victims – The Face In The Stolen Photo!
IT IS SAD THAT WE HAVE TO KEEP SAYING THIS OVER AND OVER
DO NOT TRY TO CONTACT THE REAL PERSON IN THE STOLEN PHOTO
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WARNING: This is going to be blunt, because this is the only way to reach some victims – this does not apply to most romance scam victims.
Invading The Privacy Of Impersonation Victims Is Not Ok.
In many cases, it causes profound disruption for their families and has even led to divorce.
Do Not Try And Contact The Real Man Or Woman In The Photos – He/She Is A Victim Too!
He or she already knows their photo is being used because of the hundred or thousands of other victims that have contacted them.
Remember, while you may want closure, that is not the way to get it. Leave them in peace, please!
It is important to understand when your own behavior crosses a line. Hunting down an impersonation victim is one of those times.
You were scammed because you acted impulsively. Yet by hunting down an impersonation victim, you are just doing it again!
You May Also Be Breaking The Law!
In fact, in the U.S. and other countries, it is actually a form of stalking (including cyber-stalking) and is a crime.
The Legal Definition Of Stalking:
Stalking is behavior wherein an individual willfully and repeatedly engages in a knowing course of harassing conduct directed at another person, which reasonably and seriously alarms, torments, or terrorizes that person. Stalking involves one person’s obsessive behavior toward another person. Initially, stalking will usually take the form of annoying, threatening, or obscene telephone calls, emails or letters. The calls may start with one or two a day but can quickly increase in frequency. Stalkers may conduct covert surveillance of the victim, following every move his/her target makes. Even the victim’s home may be staked out. Many will stop after they have been arrested, prosecuted, and/or convicted.
That is the definition of hunting someone down because you fell in love with their photo.
If you are tempted to do this, please talk with a therapist, counselor, or other mental health professional.
You Do Not Have A Relationship With Them
You do NOT have a relationship with the face in the photo – regardless of how much you want it and imagine it – that is just a fantasy.
Romance scam victims have gone so far as to accuse the real people of being scammers creating total chaos in the lives of the other person. Some have gone around to their local communities making these accusations. Some have physically threatened the lives of the person and their families.
We Are Sympathetic, But …
We are sympathetic to a romance scam victim’s emotions after the scam, but one more wrong does not make a right.
A romance scam victim that hunts down the real person should take a hard look at their real motivation – in almost all cases it is a fantasy that when you meet this person they will somehow want to continue the relationship with you. That is a delusion. An act of selfishness, not altruism.
We cannot offer everyone beds of roses, all we can offer is the truth – hard as it may be to hear sometimes.
Recovering after a scam is not easy. One of the hardest things to discover about yourself is your own impulsiveness and disregard for your own ethics. Hunting down an innocent person is an example of that.
We encourage you to seek help after your scam. The trauma can be profound and most victims do need help to show them the path out of it. We have helped thousands recover and would like you to consider one of our online crime victims’ support groups (here is one: «www.facebook.com/groups/RSN.Support.Group.27»)
Please remember that we are here to help and that sometimes helping means getting through to you with the harsh truth!
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Table of Contents
- We Mean Impersonation Victims – The Face In The Stolen Photo!
- Invading The Privacy Of Impersonation Victims Is Not Ok.
- Do Not Try And Contact The Real Man Or Woman In The Photos – He/She Is A Victim Too!
- You May Also Be Breaking The Law!
- The Legal Definition Of Stalking:
- You Do Not Have A Relationship With Them
- We Are Sympathetic, But …
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If you need to speak with someone now, you can dial 988 or find phone numbers for crisis hotlines all around the world here: www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
A Question of Trust
At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
Articles like these help victims and others understand these processes and how to help prevent them from being exploited again or to help them recover more easily by understanding their post-scam behaviors. Learn more about the Psychology of Scams at www.ScamPsychology.org
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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