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Man Realizes His Wife Is A Man After 19 Years Of Marriage
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A Man Realizes His Wife Is A Man After 19 Years Of Marriage
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A Belgian man has discovered the most shocking reality of his life after he found out that the wife he married and had lived with for 2 decades was a man. Jan got married to Monica in 1993 who was his family’s former au pair.
The “woman” he though he had married was originally born a man and went through medical procedure to become a transsexual and has managed to keep it a secret during their 2 decades of marriage.
Jan, 64, brought Monica to Belgium which he said was not easy according to Het Nieuwsblad newspaper.
Jan went on to say that he thought she was an attractive woman whom he could not remember having any male characteristics.
The big question of having children was easy to get by because Jan said that he and his wife had earlier decided that they would not have children since she already had 2 from her previous marriage but was all a lie and that she fooled him under the pretences that she menstruates for which she even fakes using sanitary towels just to conceal the truth.
For several years, Jan and Monica, 48 lived together as a couple in a normal family life and had an enviable relationship with his children. However, everything started changing when she got a full time job.
She would dress in a seductive manner and would sometimes be seen in the night clubs.
When Jan later heard rumours and was at about the same time confronted by his friend who said that his wife was a “changed man” he confronted her to disprove his unbelief.
However, Monica who then announced that she was actually born a boy but had undergone a surgical procedure to change to a woman and that now being a woman now makes her past as a man to be irrelevant and so didn’t mention it.
Jan, who is undergoing psychiatric treatment following the discovery, has initiated legal proceedings to have the marriage annulled has had his plan met with obstacles.
“That person has deliberately deceived him for years, even scammed. Presumably she has also forged documents used here to get a residence permit. The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated,” said his Liliane Verjauw, his lawyer.
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