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Local Romance Scammers
The pro-dater differs from the other romance scams in their method of operation; a face-to-face meeting actually does take place in the scammer’s country but is devoted solely into manipulating the mark into spending as much money as possible in relatively little time, with little or nothing in return.
This is most common to Eastern Europe, and specifically the Ukraine.
The scheme usually involves accomplices, such as an interpreter and a taxi driver, all of which must be paid by the victim at an inflated price.
Everything is pre-arranged so that the “wealthy” foreigner pays top dollar for accommodation, is taken not to an ordinary public café but to the most costly restaurant (usually some out-of-the-way place priced far above what locals would ever be willing to pay), and is manipulated into making various expensive purchases, including gifts such as electronics and coats.
The vendors are typically part of the scheme.
The mark (victim) leaves just as alone but poorer at the end of the trip.
The merchandise is returned to the vendors, the pro-dater and the various accomplices pocket their respective profit.
As the pro-dater is eager to date again, the next date is immediately set up with the next wealthy foreigner.
However, the relationship goes no further, except to inundate the helpless victim with requests for more money after they return home. Unlike a gold digger, who marries for money, a pro-dater is not necessarily single or available in real life.
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I am sorry to say I was scammed. He said he was General in syria. He used the picture of actual retired recently retired General Fredrick Benjamin Hodges who now works in cepa in dc but lives in Florida. Did not reach
My Robin was so sweet so the first request did not seem out of line . About $10,000 later I got it. Think I knew all along but didn’t want to admit
Typical scam. Single father with daughter in boarding school. First wanted me to pay his storage fees to get his box out of storage had gold bars and life savings. I started looking and found him on many sites. Think he has moved on with new name and picture. These people are good. All it did was leave me sad and broke. Not much for some but was to me
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Hey everyone whatch out to the Philippines i waa hit hard dont send money to a Denmark Mungcal it is a scam my first and last time i try dating online do to them and someone claming they are a Nicole Madison i was hit for 1650$ by them or him my phone computer and back with to top it off my SS# so im in a major fraud report vs those names and they are showing pic of Ivy Snow she is a very cut adult entertainer. Yes i was on a dating channel for about a hr frist time trying it and was all exited when this nicole madison started talking ten days later im out of bank accounts three emails i had to delete and my computer my ipad and my phone/with my bank cards attached to my phone i was burned just sent out all the reports and well lesson learned f#%k the internet im going back to the old school was if. Meeting real people .so i know most of you will talk shit. But im a idiot for letting myself get scamed not payi g attention to what was going on cause i was all googled eye over this lady that started hitting on me men think with you upper not the lower head !!!!! so talk the smack i words dont hurt ……..just letting people know the are active and after this post the my call me agin so be ware