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SCARS Institute Archives - Example Scammer Grammar - Collection #2 - Fake Females

Example Scammer Grammar – Collection #2
Fake Females

Example Scammer Grammar – Scammers use language for specific purposes

Sometimes, to test how tolerant victims are

Scammer Grammar

Scammers are always looking for more effective words. Many people have learned to be on their guard, and they’re likely to suspect an overly aggressive phishing phone call from a fake credit card customer service agent speaking accented English. But victims still fall for the bad language use every day!

Online scammers use similar techniques. When texting or emailing their marks, or posting information in fake profiles, or messaging, they often work from “scripts” of prewritten boilerplate language. The most effective conversational gambits are saved and distributed to other scammers in the network, and they cut-and-paste the scripts into their grifts at crucial moments.

BUT THEY SOMETIMES ARE FORCED TO IMPROVISE!

This is where the scammer grammar becomes more obvious.

The following are examples of language we have seen and copied to share their unscripted writing styles:

Esther Nkansah fragileheart007@yahoo.com

I always treat people with respect and fairness. And I do not play games. My attitude towards life is simply living each day for all its worth, while making something for the future. I can be pragmatic at times, when it’s needed, but balance that with my own humor and lighter side of life. I have an ability to listen. I don’t consider myself as having any major personality flaws. I love learning and achieving my goals. My friends tell me that I am never boring. And they know that they can always count on me in times of need I am here for no other motive but only to find someone I can love with all my heart. This world is a harsh place sometimes. But when two people are right for each other, there is nothing they can’t do by supporting and loving each other. Are you tired of being lonely like me? Do you want to find your special someone you can trust completely? Do you still believe in true love? Are you kind, positive, reliable, faithful and honest in relationship? If yes, we could be right for each other.Please do not hesitate to write me. I’ll be waiting.

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I’m Esther 31 a years young female, single, 5’ 7’’,Weight 131 lbs long brown hair and brown eyes , And a woman with good personality,good sense of
humor,honest,sincere,faithful,loving,caring and a hopeless romantic…And i will like to be your friend for now if you don’t mind.
fragileheart007 at ym dot com
Esther

Diane Nelson

Hello, I just came across your profile,so i thought i should contact you if you don’t mind? I am new to this online dating….Anyway i will like to know more about you and see if we have a great chemistry as well as get acquainted to each other. I hope to hear from you soon, please take care of yourself. Thanks for reading this! Feel free to write me back directly or hit me up through my Y, on (Diananelson216@yahoo.com). Hope to hearing from you soon.

Kindest Regards,

Diana Nelson.

Nina Brown ninabrown300@yahoo.com

I’m educated, kind and tolerant. My heart is full of love to nature and music. I like reading, cooking, gardening. I am family-oriented. I have an optimistic outlook, but I am alone. I hope to meet a man who needs my tenderness. I want to love and to be loved. I don’t smoke. If I could have just one wish, I would wish to wake up everyday to the sound of your breath on my neck, the warmth of your lips on my cheek, the touch of your fingers on my skin, and the feel of your heart beating with mine… Knowing that I could never find that feeling with anyone other than you………

I am not looking for a penpal, but relationship leading to marriage. I am looking a man definite, self-confident, responsible, intelligent, polite caring and considerate of others. Someone who wants to live in harmony in love and with respect for each other – mental compatible with me, mature a man who knows what he wants. “Age does not protect you from love, but love,to come extent, protects you from age”

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Hello… i really like that pretty and lovely smile on your face… that suites your picture and a perfect blend with your profile… Can i know what is behind that bright and lovely smile… I am Nina and i will like to know who a special man as you are..
I have seen and met great nice looking men, I have also learner how I gaze at them but for once, and with you only, I lost control of it. I would describe myself as a professional with many sides. I am deeper than the image I project and that I must adhere to in that setting. I would spend a tremendous amount of time try to explain the past and how it has forged me in to the individual that I am. I am a philosopher at heart and would spend my days analyzing, organizing, understanding the universe and it’s complexities. I would like to meet someone who- because of the myriad of facets that makes us who we are- when we interact, enhances us both. Life and shared moments/experiences become more interesting. In short, we like being together, life is more fun than there is.. my yahoo im and email address is (ninabrown300@yahoo.com)….Waiting on your response so we can chat on yahoo or send email to each other there since i don’t get on here often and will be taking my profile off here because i have found you…

Nina

Han gh_woman2g2@yahoo.com

>Hello Are You There Well My Name Is Han a faithful and
>God fearing woman looking for a kind hearten and lovely

>person to build a friendship which will lead to
>marriage in the future. I’m single never married and
>don’t have any kids, I’m romantic and passionate and
>have much love to share with you. I’m new to This web
>site and through my serious search I came across your
>wonderful profile and I would like to know much about
>you. I would be happy if you will take the chance to
>respond to my personal mail so that I can send you some
>pictures and also tell you more about me. Email Me Or
>Add Me(gh_woman2g2@yahoo.com)

Kate James katejames848484@yahoo.com

I am a caring, and compassionate Woman. I have learned some very good lessons in life that and know what is really important. It is not how much money you have or the fancy car, to me it is more important to build wealth in who you are and who you are with. I am sensitive and enjoy communication,text me here, I believe in honesty and showing your affections as well. I am very open and honest and believe that both are required to build a solid loving relationship. I am a completely open book with the one I am with

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how are you doing today, can you tell me more about
yourself,am divorce now with no kids,you can send me
pics here katejames848484 at Y a h o o dot c o m take care.

Kathy Allah – Kathy Dallas KATHY_DALLAS@HOTMAIL.CO.UK 682-238-0204

I am a shy woman but i do my thing in my own way,I hate lie and cheating, I was raised in a christian home with good morale’s and values. I’m family oriented and believe in stepping up to be the woman for my family that I need to be. I treat others the way I want to be treated. I’m very big on respect and think respect is earned and not just given.

Am looking for a Man that will be able to listen to me , communicate his feelings to me , make me laugh, hold and comfort me in need,stand by my side, respect me, passionate lover in every way, support me in every way, love me and only me, make me smile, protect me when needed, romantic time to time,constantly relative, and treat me right…. I know you will think what is a pretty looking lady like me doing on here .

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Handsome guy,This is KATHY how are you doing today i came across your profile and am new at this site,I will like if we can get to know each other you can text me .. SIX EIGHT TWO TWO THREE EIGHT ZERO TWO ZERO FOUR … My private email .. KATHY _DALLAS@HOTMAIL.CO.UK .. Thanks

Sandra Baah Sandrabaah931@yahoo.com

A little about me, I believe in the four “C”, Commitment, Communication, Compromise And Contentment all of these much be in a relationship to make it grows and last forever.I am Angel But my real name is Sandra, 34 yrs 5’ 6″ ft tall 115 lbs and with average body type. Single and never married with no kids too..Anyway I ’m well educated, and will describe my self as I would describe myself as an elegant, stylish and very charming woman. I have a lot to share with my life partner, and keep in a good shape both my body and mind. I value the laws of ethics and good taste both in others and myself. I am an optimistic, tender, lighthearted lady.

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A little about me, I believe in the four “C”, Commitment, Communication, Compromise And Contentment all of these much be in a relationship to make it grows and last forever.
I am Angel But my real name is Sandra, 34 yrs 5’ 6″ ft tall 115 lbs and with average body type. Single and never married with no kids too..Anyway I ’m well educated, and will describe my self as I would describe myself as an elegant, stylish and very charming woman.
I have a lot to share with my life partner, and keep in a good shape both my body and mind. I value the laws of ethics and good taste both in others and myself. I am an optimistic, tender, lighthearted lady.And if you want us to know more about each other then you can reach me on my email address which is ( S a n d r a b a a h 9 3 1 @ y a h o o . c o m ) hope to hear from you soon

Joyce Ann lovelyjoyceann12@yahoo.com

I am a complete optimist, I prefer to be in good mood, no matter what! I have many hobbies and interests and I enjoy sports. I am a very jolly person and have a lot of friends.I am looking for a man who will share my interests and hobbies. It would be great if he has a great sense of humor and knows what he wants from life. He should be honest, reliable and interesting. I like to be active: I like to travel, so I would prefer to meet someone who would do everything together with me. and you ? what are you looking for here ? if we get to know better , would you like us to give tool to talk ?

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What a wonderful profile and so attractive to me, we seem to have many things in common.you sounded sweet and it was nice reading it.when i joined this place i never expected to meet a man of your type, If you like my profile perhaps you respond Or write back at me on my private E- mail address lovelyjoyceann12@yahoo.com and I will tell you more of myself and i will send you some more pictures when i receive your email… I look forward to hearing from you.

In Christ
Joyce

Cathy Bickerton cathy_bickerton@yahoo.com

I am a honest, fun loving person with a personality that shines. That’s what people say anyway. I am very versatile, meaning I can dress for the opera or going out to beach. Just very well rounded. I am looking for someone who is honest, faithful,and loving. It has been hard to find a man with all three criteria and will be included in my life. I have no time for game playing, so if you want to play, look on! i am God fearing and easy going woman who want to settle down and have a better life.

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Good morning handsome how are you

Looking For Live

I will love to meet a Kind man that believes in true love and willing to build a home with a lady that will stand by her side all the days of his life , he will be loved and pampered all the time , I sure need a man i can cook for him and be happy with Him all the time, i have been Single for a while now and hate being alone all the time, I will do anything so I wont be alone on that BIG bed again , I am willing sacrifice anything for that special man that wants to have a happy home forever , I am the type of person who trust my feelings and use my mind. I have tantalizing eyes . I am also loving, caring, and understanding Lady. I really want to make friends, easy to be with and a very nice person. I believe that love is like mountain, hard to climb, but once you get to the top the view is beautiful. I am a natural lady who consider herself an easygoing, nice, kind, well-educated, and cheerful Lady.I enjoy being with people who are open and honest.

Annie – Blonde Native American

I am looking for a partner that is as excited about being in a relationship as I am. It´s important to me that he is emotionally available and ready to be with a woman that wants to share herself with someone completely. I want a man who can enjoy the benefits of a woman who thinks a little chivalry and a certain amount of tradition are exciting while still appreciating the fact that she´s a progressive thinker socially..I want a man that looks stunning in a little black dress and equally handsome when I glance over at him at night sleeping next to me. I would like to find someone that is physically open and affectionate and understands how much even some of the little things can mean to someone.

Sherry cool_sherry_1@yahoo.com

I was looking for my happiness and still in my search, some people say it comes when you don’t expect it, others say we need to search and put our goals in front of you. I am romantic and believe in true, mutual love, when harmony always safes the family life, when it is only the laugh and positive around. I want to love and be loved, only people who love even once in life are the real people! Love gives us the special winds and protection, but we need to care and cherish it as much as we can.

I am looking for my man, the person who will communicate with my soul, bring me happiness and tears sometimes (it is life), who will fight for me and our family, with whom I will feel myself as the real woman. We can’t live without each other, missing each other, appreciate every minute of our staying together. Sharing and devotion are the main components of the strong and everlasting relations.

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Hello Good morning there. and how was your today..?
Oh I hope by the Grace Of God you are doing great. well my name is Sherry.. I’m a woman of 30 years Old. Single True lovely good caring, faithful,  honest, kind and understanding woman.. and I’m willing to meet the same in a man. So i read your profile and it really sound great to me and that makes me contact you, and I hope this is not embarrassing. Thank you. And i will be very happy to chat with you Online. So you can contact me with my email to know more about each other better soon, So my email address is..
cool_sherry_1@yahoo.com.. Im online now and cant wait
to see you there soon. Thank you…. lol

Sherry

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Hello Good morning my Dear how are you today….?
Oh my Dear i hope by the Grace Of God you are fine, well Dear Its really nice to read from you…Well, some more about myself and my family, I was born in Texas,San Antonio into a christian family with my father being a missionary. He was a single parent cos my mother died when I was very young and I was not opportuned to know her yet before her demise. This is really painful and I live with a dream of imagining the kind of mother she would have been to me.and my Father used to tell me she was grate, so I hope that close to my heart. I happened to be the only child and my father did not re-marry ever after. My father was my father and mother at thesame time as he gave me all the love and attention and I could ever need, and he makes me very happy. My father and myself lived in the United  states till I was 10yrs old before my father had to take this missionary trip to africa. He brought me here to africa with him cos I have no mother to take good care of me back in the states, and also cos he loved me so much and he wants me around him all the time and wanted to take good care of me. That was how I had to have my studies here in africa. After some years of missionary works in Southafrica where I had my secondary education, my father proceeded to Ghana for continuation of his mission and here, I continue my studies…Unfortunately for us after a couple of years, my father got attacked here by a gang of armed robbers and was murdered in the process leaving me all alone to myself which is the most difficult situation I have ever had to face in my life. well This was a sudden blow on me and it just seem that the only one thing that means the whole world to me was taken away. There was nothing I could do to reverse this to have my father back. All efforts to track this gang by the law proves abortive since the police here in this country are not competent enough. I mourned my father for a while,though still in my heart, but I knew I had to move on with my life and live good so he can be happy when he looks down on me from up above, so I did. Things got pretty ugly for me and it was hard for me to move on with my education and all…So, I put in for a schorlarship scheme examination(SSE) which I studied very very hard towards. This won me a schorlarship that helps me with the finances for my studies and my living while my years at the University lasts. I have been graduated for about 2 years now from the University of  Ghana with Banking and Finance as my major. I have since been looking for employment but up till this very moment, I am still unable to get hold of one cos this country has a very bad economy. High level of crime, corruption and poor leadership is an issue here too. I have written so many job applications and have applied for so many jobs both in banking and financial sectors, its so painful that I still cant get a job here and this really makes life miserable for me if you know what I mean. This is really killing the dreams of so many people here, and its so unfortunate that I study here. I really want to come back to the states but with my unemployment status, it makes it hard for me to afford my airfare and thats why I am still back here  struggling with getting hold of a job to help me save  up to come back to the states.

Mrs. Beatriz Yuri as_asian@yahoo.com.ph

Religion is very important to me. I am a very spiritual person, but only discovered religion a few years ago. I was raised secular and am still trying to fit the pieces of religion together.

One of my main goals in life is to attain a state of complete comfort with myself, while attaining proper balance of all my extreme personality traits.

I am a very curious person.

I have a very intense personality. I need both order and chaos. I am very spontaneous but at the same time I need structure. (A balance is sought after, but for now there are extremes.)

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My name is Beatriz Yuri, The wife of Albert Yuri who was coordinator of Bayan Muna for Misamis Oriental and Chairman of MOFA. He was gunned down and killed in our home in the Philippine on July 20th, 2008. Before my late husband was killed, I inherited from his estate a total sum of ($ 9.5 Million Dollars) in a metallic trunk box and deposited it in a security and finance company ABROAD. This deposit was coded under a secret arrangement as a family treasure.
I hope that you can be trusted, that you will not sit on this money when you claim it. I have made up my mind to give you 15% of the total money for your help, after you have secured the box for my children’s future.
I can be contacted with my most private email address:
(as_asian@yahoo.com.ph)
Hoping to hear from you soon,
Best regards
Mrs Beatriz Yuri.

Sophia Ball (Precious) sophiaball16@yahoo.com

Vicrim — 02:18 [US Eastern Time]: Merry Christmas Precious
Precious — 02:18: Same to you Gentleman
Vicrim  — 02:19: You are up very late
Vicrim  — 02:19: planning on doing any diving this weekend?
Precious — 02:20: Oh nice…how long have you been on this site?
Vicrim  — 02:20: a while
Vicrim  — 02:20: planning on doing any diving this weekend?
Precious — 02:20: oh okay
Precious — 02:21: whats your bad experience online dating?
Vicrim  — 02:22: what time is it there?
Precious — 02:22: is 7:17am here
Vicrim  — 02:23: do you live in the city, or outside Accra?
Precious — 02:23: Yes l live in accra
Vicrim  — 02:24: why did you lie in your profile?
Precious — 02:24: Am here as stuff Nurse with my grandmum
Vicrim  — 02:24: can I have your email address and I will write to you?
Precious — 02:25: sophiaball16@yahoo.com
Precious — 02:25: can l have yours
Vicrim  — 02:25: you will get it with my email
Precious — 02:27: Do you want to chat more with me there?

Remember: you cannot rely on these examples to be the way your scammer will speak or write! Scammers have vast amounts of money now and actually hire professional telemarketing scriptwriters to help them with what they call their “formats.” This means the language can be as bad as these, or absolutely perfect – it just depends on the scammer group that a victim connects with.

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  1. SCARS Institute Archives - Example Scammer Grammar - Collection #2 - Fake Females - 2013 6bbea7bafea612c36215cabebdbb97ad134ab1fd1681ad3f1b53b6ce687c3fda?s=54&d=identicon&r=g
    A Abbasi September 8, 2018 at 8:00 pm - Reply

    She connected me apparently from Ghana. That she was born in USA but after death of her parents her grandma brought he Ghana. She told me her name as MODESTA AKUTU SOSI .We started Skype and after 6 months I was feeling love for her. She told me that she has started Nursing Diploma and I provided her regular educational and house rent expenses for one and half year. She told me that she do not like Ghana and want to come to me in UK and I provided her passport fee, visa fee, made her Bank statement . But whenever I asked her to send me her documents, she said ok but never sent. I was deep in her love because of her manners. We used to chat on WhatsApp on daily basis. She showed me her naked body and sent me her nude pictures on Skype and which she was doing online sex she did whatever I asked her. I doubted only on one occasion that this can be a video. I stopped sending her money 5 months before. Story is very long what she said and what she promised. But I was in connection with her a week ago but now she is not coming on WhatsApp.

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    cm October 24, 2014 at 8:43 am - Reply

    Ester is now working under the name Linda Adjej.
    Mail adress bekind65@gmail.com

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      Romance Scams Now Publisher October 24, 2014 at 10:40 am - Reply

      Thank you!

  3. SCARS Institute Archives - Example Scammer Grammar - Collection #2 - Fake Females - 2013 918bf658b01a68eb0319ddfdf1ad14879cb0fd644d2ab2244a3bbaa39544fba7?s=54&d=identicon&r=g
    Ray Skowron July 9, 2013 at 8:48 pm - Reply

    I loved reading your scam page… Esther Nkansah has been texting me for a while, but there were clues from the start. The grammar for one, plus she didn’t know the meaning of some common American idioms. Her biggest scam is saying that she’s a mute, but not deaf. I haven’t told her that I am onto her yet… she thinks that I’m coming to Douglas Arizona next Monday from Las Vegas to meet her. She did have an unusual way of proving that she was for real… she opened a video chat that showed a busty young woman with a red top revealing ample cleavage. She also sent me a topless picture of her. I feel badly for the poor woman who has had her identity stolen. How does that happen? Her handle on Date Hookup is ‘Russyinlove’ and she says her name is Russy Olson and was born in Cypress but has dual citizenship. Her yahoo messenger ID is Russyinlove. Thanks! -Ray-

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      Romance Scam Detective October 29, 2013 at 4:23 pm - Reply

      Odds are that the girl pictured in the photos is a porn actress – they tend to use them, since most normal folks are not built as well. They think this is an advantage. If you have more photos, there is an address in the sidebar where you can send them.

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        Anonymous November 24, 2014 at 2:33 am - Reply

        thats Lana Brooke a Pornstar

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          Romance Scams Now Publisher November 24, 2014 at 3:50 pm - Reply

          Yes indeed

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