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So Many Questions …
About Our Fear
Why are there Victims of Romance Scams?
Why do we accept scammers and liars into our life?
Why do we accept the stories and open our hearts to frauds?
Maybe we are afraid to truly look for a real person?
Maybe we want to believe in a fantasy because it is easier to accept the lie instead of continuing to look for someone real?
Maybe there are victims because the scammers know our fear and exploit it?
As we age, we lose our immortality, we become afraid, but why do we accept our fear as normal?
As we age, we gather money and assets, but why are we willing to gamble it all?
As we age, we lose connections, and become more isolated in our mind and life, but why do we accept that?
You are stronger than that, but why can’t you face your fear?
Can you walk away from your fear and find a life that is better?
Can you change the way you think and live with less fear?
Can you face your fear and be happy?
Well, can you?
Well, are you ready?
Well, you can!
It starts with rejecting fantasies in your life.
It starts with accepting the truth of who you are, good or bad.
It starts with accepting that you can be better, do better, feel better.
This is truth.
This is not a fantasy.
This is who you really want to be.
We all have limitations, but limitations can be worked on, and some even overcome.
We all have hard things that we are afraid of, but we can work through those fears.
We all have things we are good at and bad at.
To get where we truly want, we have to work through our fear.
To get what we want, we have to let go of fantasy.
To calm our soul we have to let go of the anger that fear has brought.
You have to become fearless.
You have to trust yourself again.
You have to look forward with open eyes at what is real.
THINK FEARLESS
KNOW YOU ARE FEARLESS
BECOME FEARLESS
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A Note About Labeling!
We often use the term ‘scam victim’ in our articles, but this is a convenience to help those searching for information in search engines like Google. It is just a convenience and has no deeper meaning. If you have come through such an experience, YOU are a Survivor! It was not your fault. You are not alone! Axios!
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At the SCARS Institute, we invite you to do your own research on the topics we speak about and publish, Our team investigates the subject being discussed, especially when it comes to understanding the scam victims-survivors experience. You can do Google searches but in many cases, you will have to wade through scientific papers and studies. However, remember that biases and perspectives matter and influence the outcome. Regardless, we encourage you to explore these topics as thoroughly as you can for your own awareness.
Statement About Victim Blaming
SCARS Institute articles examine different aspects of the scam victim experience, as well as those who may have been secondary victims. This work focuses on understanding victimization through the science of victimology, including common psychological and behavioral responses. The purpose is to help victims and survivors understand why these crimes occurred, reduce shame and self-blame, strengthen recovery programs and victim opportunities, and lower the risk of future victimization.
At times, these discussions may sound uncomfortable, overwhelming, or may be mistaken for blame. They are not. Scam victims are never blamed. Our goal is to explain the mechanisms of deception and the human responses that scammers exploit, and the processes that occur after the scam ends, so victims can better understand what happened to them and why it felt convincing at the time, and what the path looks like going forward.
Articles that address the psychology, neurology, physiology, and other characteristics of scams and the victim experience recognize that all people share cognitive and emotional traits that can be manipulated under the right conditions. These characteristics are not flaws. They are normal human functions that criminals deliberately exploit. Victims typically have little awareness of these mechanisms while a scam is unfolding and a very limited ability to control them. Awareness often comes only after the harm has occurred.
By explaining these processes, these articles help victims make sense of their experiences, understand common post-scam reactions, and identify ways to protect themselves moving forward. This knowledge supports recovery by replacing confusion and self-blame with clarity, context, and self-compassion.
Additional educational material on these topics is available at ScamPsychology.org – ScamsNOW.com and other SCARS Institute websites.
Psychology Disclaimer:
All articles about psychology and the human brain on this website are for information & education only
The information provided in this article is intended for educational and self-help purposes only and should not be construed as a substitute for professional therapy or counseling.
While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
If you are experiencing significant distress or emotional difficulties related to a scam or other traumatic event, please consult your doctor or mental health provider for appropriate care and support.
Also read our SCARS Institute Statement about Professional Care for Scam Victims – click here to go to our ScamsNOW.com website.
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