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We just received a message from one of our SCARS support & recovery group members. It was her scam victim story that she wanted us to share with new victims. This was because she had a new update on her case that she filed in Canada more than 2 years ago. She felt that her story would help those victims struggling to make it through this experience and maintain their hope!
If you are a relationship scamRelationship Scam A Relationship Scam is a one-to-one criminal act that involves a trust relationship and uses deception & manipulation to get a victim to give to the criminal something of value, such as money! Click here to learn more: What Is A Relationship Scam? victim, you can get the help you need by signing up for a SCARS support groupSupport Group In a support group, members provide each other with various types of help, usually nonprofessional and nonmaterial, for a particular shared, usually burdensome, characteristic, such as romance scams. Members with the same issues can come together for sharing coping strategies, to feel more empowered and for a sense of community. The help may take the form of providing and evaluating relevant information, relating personal experiences, listening to and accepting others' experiences, providing sympathetic understanding and establishing social networks. A support group may also work to inform the public or engage in advocacy. They can be supervised or not. SCARS support groups are moderated by the SCARS Team and or volunteers. at support.AgainstScams.org
The Canadian Ontario Police decided to move forward and arrested the money muleMoney Mule A money mule sometimes called a "smurfer," is a person who transfers money acquired illegally (e.g., stolen) in person, through a courier service, or electronically, on behalf of others (usually criminals that they are knowingly or unknowingly affiliated). Typically, the mule is paid for services with a small part of the money transferred - but not always. Mules may or may not be aware that they are performing these actions. Money mules are often dupes recruited online for what they think is legitimate employment, not aware that the money they are transferring is the product of crime. The money is transferred from the mule's account to the scam operator, typically in another country. Similar techniques are used to transfer illegal merchandise. Mules can be prosecuted for numerous crimes. she sent her money. The arrested money mule is a Nigerian living in Toronto who uses her Canadian business account to receive money transfers from scam victims. She is a willing participant in the criminalCriminal A criminal is any person who through a decision or act engages in a crime. This can be complicated, as many people break laws unknowingly, however, in our context, it is a person who makes a decision to engage in unlawful acts or to place themselves with others who do this. A criminal always has the ability to decide not to break the law, or if they initially engage in crime to stop doing it, but instead continues. gangGang A gang is normally a group or society of associated criminals with a defined leadership and internal organization that identifies with or claims control over a territory or business practice in a community and engages, either individually or collectively, in illegal, and possibly violent, behavior. Online gangs are not limited by territory and may operate side by side with other gangs while engaging in crime online. Some members of criminal gangs are initiated (by going through a process of initiation), or have to prove their loyalty and right to belong by committing certain acts, usually theft or violence, or rituals. Gangs are usually rougher and more visible than scammer cartels, and more often arrested.. This could lead to further arrests in the future.
This Is Her Scam Victim Story:
On March 4, 2020, I received a friend request on Facebook Messenger from someone named Mohmmad Ansar.
The profile picture was an Asian man and beside him a girl around 8/9 years old. I advised him that he had made a mistake. He apologized and said that his real name is Armani Chang Wei.
He wanted to be my friend as he saw from my profile that I was from Singapore. He claimed that he was born in USA to a Singaporean father and a Korean mother. He was a widower raising his young daughter Isabella after his wife Katherine and baby son George were killed in an auto accident in California a few years ago.
His occupation was Oil Rig Engineer and working on a project in the Gunashli oil field in Azerbaijan. Isabella was being cared for by his aunt in Istanbul. She was a retired nurse from USA who continued to live in Turkey after her Turkish husband had passed away. Isabella suffered from hydrocephalus since she was an infant and had been scheduled for brain surgery on April 5 in their home city of San Francisco.
They would return to USA just in time when Armani’s project wrapped up at the end of March. This was before travel bans and border closings due to the pandemic.
A few days later Armani asked to move our chats from Facebook Messenger to WhatsApp and sometimes on Hangouts.
He sent many pictures of him and his daughter. I had video chatted with Armani and Isabella on separate occasions and they looked exactly like the same people in the photos. He said all the right things to keep things moving along: Did you eat? Have you rested? Texting me all hours of the day and night, invited me to visit him and his daughter in San Francisco, etc. Isabella also wrote me many emails, called me Mom and couldn’t wait to meet my grownup children. She really tugged at my heartstrings with her innocent and childish words.
They talked about moving to my city in Canada, buying a house in my town after selling their home in California.
Armani coerced me not to tell my family and friends using excuses that it’s best to introduce him and Isabella in person.
After several weeks of chatting with Armani on WhatsApp and Hangouts there was an explosion on the rig and he said one of his workers was injured badly. He had to pay for the worker to be airlifted from the rig to be treated in a Baku hospital. He must also pay for repairs out of pocket before he can collect his contract check of over a million Euro.
At the same time he became very concerned about his daughter’s health condition now that his project had been delayed. He had no access to funds to pay for these unforeseen circumstances. I asked about contingency plan and why he couldn’t ask for an advance and his answer was his contract stipulated that he wouldn’t be paid until the project is 100% completed. A few days later he said that he had negotiated for the gas cylinder to be paid with an advance by the oil company.
He asked if I could help him with shipping costs which amounted to over Euro 26K which was equivalent to CAD$40,000. This is the first loan amount I agreed to wire to the shipping company Osuman CM Logistics in Toronto.
Isabella’s surgery had to be performed in Istanbul because of travel restrictions. He was cash strapped and asked for additional help with medical expenses for his daughter’s checkups and hospital stay because his aunt could not afford to pay with her limited pensions.
Then more damaged equipment which weren’t detected during examination after explosion. He begged me to help him raise money to pay for more parts and repairs. As time dragged on and one thing led to another, he would send me copies of invoices which I presented to the banks for loans and wire transfers.
Finally, all the damaged machines had been repaired and he was ready to leave the rig. He dropped another bombshell; he found out that he was obligated to clear the oil rig platform otherwise he would not collect a single dime. Armani asked me for more loans stating everything would be paid back once he got his contract payment. I had no choice but to help him complete his project so he could leave the rig to join his daughter in Istanbul.
I also desperately need him to pay me back to cover the loans I took out.
In total I had sent over CAD$425,000 to his designated agents in Canada and Turkey.
To my dismay, one day at the end of August 2020 I found out that I had been ghosted. Armani’s WhatsApp account was unregistered and I was blocked from the two email addresses. I proceeded to file a local policeLocal Police The Local Police is your first responder in most countries. In most English-speaking countries and in Europe report to them first. In other countries look for your national cybercrime police units to report scams to. In the U.S., Canada, & Australia, you must report to the local police first. report and with the RCMPRCMP The Royal Canadian Mounted Police (RCMP) // Gendarmerie royale du Canada (GRC)), colloquially known as the Mounties, and is the federal and national police service of Canada, providing law enforcement at the federal level. The RCMP also provides provincial policing in eight of Canada's provinces (all except Ontario and Quebec) and local policing on a contract basis in the three territories (Northwest Territories, Nunavut, and Yukon) and more than 150 municipalities, 600 Indigenous communities, and three international airports. The RCMP do not provide active provincial or municipal policing in Ontario or Quebec. However, all members of the RCMP have jurisdiction as a police officer in all provinces and territories of Canada. and OPP.
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This program is designed to help scam victims struggling to recover on their own and for those who want to understand the overall process. You can be using other resources, such as traumaTrauma Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Psychological trauma can leave you struggling with upsetting emotions, memories, and anxiety that won’t go away. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety or other emotional shocks, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can result in trauma, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective circumstances that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized. Trauma requires treatment, either through counseling or therapy or through trauma-oriented support programs, such as those offered by SCARS. counseling or therapy, qualified support groups, or completely independent – on your own!
The SCARS Steps program is a complete program and is provided for the purpose of helping scam victims to overcome this experience. Throughout this SCARS Steps Program, we speak about issues and challenges that a victim may have and help guide them through their recovery. But each person is different and it is important to understand your own reasons for being vulnerable to being scammed.
After the trauma of being scammed, you need to take steps to recover and move on. This may be an alternative to counseling in the short term, but we still encourage you to seek out professional help & support. Throughout this SCARS Steps Program, we speak about issues, challenges, defects, or problems that a victim may have in a generalized way.
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HOW TO HELP ROMANCE SCAM VICTIMS FOR FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF SCAM VICTIMS
This SCARS Publishing book represents a complete guide to help the families and friends understand how these scamsScams A Scam is a confidence trick - a crime - is an attempt to defraud a person or group after first gaining their trust through deception. Scams or confidence tricks exploit victims using their credulity, naïveté, compassion, vanity, irresponsibility, or greed and exploiting that. Researchers have defined confidence tricks as "a distinctive species of fraudulent conduct ... intending to further voluntary exchanges that are not mutually beneficial", as they "benefit con operators ('con men' - criminals) at the expense of their victims (the 'marks')". A scam is a crime even if no money was lost. work and how to help the victim.
The SCARS Slate Book should be purchased by family and friends to better understand what happened to the victim and the traumatic impact on them. But it can also be shared by the victim so that they do not have to explain to family and friends about the scam. This publication is to help others to help Scam Victims to make it through this traumatic experience and recover.
Each person is different and it is important to understand how relationship scamsRelationship Scam A Relationship Scam is a one-to-one criminal act that involves a trust relationship and uses deception & manipulation to get a victim to give to the criminal something of value, such as money! Click here to learn more: What Is A Relationship Scam? work and why people are vulnerable; to being scammed, how they were lured in, then groomed and manipulated. This understanding is essential in helping them through the process of ending the scam and then on to recovery. The SCARS Slate Book will provide the information necessary to help support a victim through this process.
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Before or after reporting to the police the RED BOOK gives you a dedicated tool to record all the essential facts of this crime. The Victim, the Scammers, the Money, and your Police interactions. Everything that really matters can be easily recorded for your immediate use and for the future!
As we have seen, money recovery/repayment programs can become available years after the scam ends and you need to keep all the details of this crime in case it is needed. We have also seen scammers being extradited to the U.S. and other countries, this will help in the event you testify or give statements, Additionally, this helps you have your information ready to qualify for victims’ benefits, compensation, or aid.
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