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Guest Editorial By Clair St Jennifer
The following is a Guest Editorial by Clair St Jennifer – a Scam Survivor and Member of SCARS Support Groups. Clair plays a role in helping scam victims to recover and educating them to avoid scams in the future.
A SCARS Guest Editorial / Victim’s Story
My Truth
By Clair St Jennifer
I want to take the time to talk to people that have been the victim of a romance scam about future relationships.
When you were being tricked by an online scammer, you probably got most of your enjoyment from the flattering compliments and the constant professions of undying love.
As you go into new relationships (hopefully with REAL people that you’ve met in person), you may find yourself thinking that your new partner falls short because he doesn’t constantly shower you with flattery and romantic quotes. You need to remember that in REALITY, men do not do this as much as women would like. Even the most romantic man in the world will not likely swoon as much as your scammer did.
Why? Because your scammer was playing a part in a made-up romance. He was copying his beautiful love quotes from scripts and internet publications. A REAL person will be afraid of crossing the line between love and too MUCH (as TOO MUCH can come across as needy, weak, clingy, and even borderline obsession/stalking).
Do NOT ruin your chances for future happiness by comparing ANYONE to the relationship you had with your scammer. Your relationship with your scammer was no more real than a Hollywood movie.
Richard Gere is NOT going to pull up, waving his umbrella from the roof of his limousine. Leonardo DiCaprio is NOT going to ride the wind with you from the bow of a ship.
PLEASE try to ground yourself in reality and you will find yourself MUCH happier…either independently or with someone.
Bless you all, and please stay safe.
*Jen*
Clair St Jennifer
U.S.A.
A SCARS Member
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i met a marine well he found me i always think he is hideing something because he does want me to tell anyone about us he always says wait to you bring me home tn we can tell them about us he says he is in love with me i am with him i i am older by 11 years he says it does matter when we talk it all about love how he loves me how mucg he missing me but theres days he is so nice but then all the sundden he is mean to me by swearing and makeing out to be y fale a i apologize to him he has on the time sorry to me i think he is a scammer but cant prove it he ask me to get phone cards for him so we have data to talk and he
asked me for 16,000 dollar to bring him to me it getting close to time for that but i don’t know about him when i say no its not time yet he gets upset and does talk to me for hours then he say i understand you done’t trust me with your money or if you love me you would fine a way to bring me home i need to know if he sounds like a scammer to you Please my gut feeling says yes sometime and no sometime i pictures of him and his girls if there his familyor not can you please help me
Of course he is a scammer. Everything about it screams at you that he is. Military personnel do not need money to go on leave. You just have to read our articles on the military and scams! Please read them so you will know and have no doubt. It is a fact – you are being scammed.