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SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: Reciprocity Rule & Scams

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: Reciprocity Rule & Scams Definition Of Reciprocity In social psychology, reciprocity is a social norm of responding to a positive action with another positive action, rewarding kind actions. As a social construct, reciprocity means that in response to friendly actions, people are frequently much nicer and much more cooperative than predicted by the self-interest model; conversely, in response to hostile actions, they are frequently much nastier and even brutal. Reciprocity is also a technique of Social [...]

SCARS™ Psychology Of Scams: Why Keeping Your Scam Secret Harms You And Everyone Else!

SCARS™ Psychology Of Scams: Why Keeping Your Scam Secret Harms You And Everyone Else! Why Scam Victims Don’t Disclose Being A Victim Being a scam victim is often not disclosed to anyone for many years. Some people may never disclose. When it happens, disclosure is often a process, not a single event. For example, an individual may first provide hints about a scam; if the response is supportive, then more information is shared. Over time, [...]

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: Guilt vs. Shame! [Infographic]

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: Guilt vs. Shame! [Infographic] What Are The Differences Between Guilt And Shame? And how could it help our clients to have a better understanding of those differences? Here is a side-by-side comparison of these powerful emotions created by the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine » Because understanding these differences could help scam victims begin to dismantle their negative self-judgments. NICABM Infographic Shame   Thank you NICABM [...]

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: What Drives Us To Be Scammed

SCARS™ Psychology of Scams: What Drives Us To Be Scammed Every Minute, Every Day, Throughout Our Lives We Rush Headlong From One Scam To Another Why Are We Scammed? Because we are emotional beings who want for things we do not have. It really is that simple. Marketers, salespeople, politicians, and scammers - wait, it there any difference between them? They are all selling us something we long for. Every Day We Are [...]

SCARS™ Psychology Of Scams: Hate As A Coping Mechanism

SCARS™ Psychology Of Scams: Hate As A Coping Mechanism After A Romance Scam Comes Anger Against Scammers, But When It Turns To Hate A Victim May Turn Away From Normal Recovery Self-Hate, And By Extension Hate For The Scammer And Others Is The Most Dangerous Coping Mechanism Coping mechanisms are strategies and behaviors that are carried out to mitigate, manage or adapt to anything that causes distress. AFTER A ROMANCE SCAM, THERE IS [...]