How To Confront A Scam Victim In Total Denial

How To Confront A Scam Victim In Total Denial For Families & Friends Of Scam Victims A SCARS Guide How To Confront A Scam Victim In Total Denial What To Say To A Romance Scam Addict In Denial IMPORTANT: If you are a victim and you are reading this - IT DOES NOT APPLY TO YOU! You are already working through your scam, you are seeking knowledge and help to [...]

Removing The Face Of Your Scammer From Your Mind

Removing The Face Of Your Scammer From Your Mind The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight Removing The Face Of Your Scammer From Your Mind A Recovery Technique: How To Recover And Remove The Face Of The Scammer What is the way to put the face (from your scam) behind you? This is going to sound strange, but this is solid psychology. You need to move on and recover [...]

Humor As A Tool In Scam Victim Recovery – Psychology Of Scams

Humor As A Tool In Scam Victim Recovery Psychology Of Scams A SCARS Insight Humor Is More Than Funny - It Can Also Be Healing! It represents an alternative means of expressing ourselves in moments of both crises and in talking about extraordinarily difficult situations. It can also be a tool that can help heal trauma! Gallows humor often is viewed as an expression of resilience and hope [...]

The Scam Is Over But You Are Still Being Manipulated

The Scam Is Over But You Are Still Being Manipulated A SCARS Psychology of Scams Insight You Were Romance Scammed You discovered the scam and ended it, but you are still being manipulated by the scammer! For some victims, this can go on for months or even years after the scam ends! Scammer's Goals Think for a moment about the scammer's goals during your scam? They had five primary [...]

SCARS™ Scammer Urban Legends – Chapter 4 – Obsessive Scammer Exposing – Updated

SCARS™ Scammer Urban Legends - Chapter 4 - Obsessive Scammer Exposing Originally published chapters 3 and 4 were together, we split them for greater clarity. The Compulsion To Expose! When someone is recently victimized by a romance scammer they fall into one of four main categories: Those that simply hide Those that panic Those that are enraged & want revenge Those that want to understand After some time passes they will develop distinct Mindsets, but that is [...]

What Does Recovery Mean For A Scam Victim? [Updated]

What Does Recovery Mean For A Scam Victim? What Does It Mean to Be "In Recovery?" In this article, we are going to talk about recovery, as in recovery after a scam What Does It Mean To Recover? In Our Context We Mean That Recovery Is A Process However, because scams are complex in that they involve psychological traumatization (as a victim), involve addiction (as in the mental [...]

Scam Victim Selfishness – A Common Behavior That Leads To Romance Scams?

Scam Victim Selfishness A SCARS Guide to the Psychology of Scams Not all selfishness is bad, as you will discover in this guide! Psychology of Scams: Scam Victim Selfishness A Common Behavior That Leads To Romance Scams? Is One Of The Primary Motivations For Falling For Scams Based Upon Selfishness? This article will be hard to read and at times it will make you angry. Please read the [...]

Psychology Of Scams: Trauma Bonding

Psychology Of Scams: Trauma Bonding The Intensity of the scam Relationship Can Create Strong Bonds! How Victims Become Bonded To Their Scammers People Often Stay In Abusive Relationships Because Of Something Called 'Trauma Bonding' Originally published by: Lindsay Dodgson -  Aug. 17, 2017 - BusinessInsider.com 'Trauma Bonding' — Here Are The Signs It'S Happening To You SCARS EDITOR'S NOTE: THIS APPLIES TO SCAM VICTIMS JUST AS IT DOES TO LOCAL [...]

Failure Is A Choice

You Have A Choice To Make! Failure Is A Choice However, YOU Can Recover If You Want! We Will Help You! ARE YOU CHOOSING TO FAIL? When You Are Scammed, Why Wouldn't You Want To Protect Yourself? Strangely, many scam victims ignore their own safety. Yes, only about half of victims bother to follow the recommended actions to secure their own safety. Even members of this group have [...]

A Scam Victim’s 7 Deadly Sins

A Scam Victim's 7 Deadly Sins After a scam, bad decision making continues and leads many victims in directions that may feel satisfying but delays or avoids recovery. Originally Published April 2019 - Updated January 2021 When Scam Victims Turn To The Dark Side WARNING: Just because you are a scam victim does not make you an expert at cybercrime nor will it instantly make your decision making [...]

Helping Friends & Family Better Understand Romance Scams

Helping Friends & Family Better Understand Romance Scams Free Guide by the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams [SCARS] This Guide is intended for Family and Friends of someone that was involved in a Romance Scam Also available on LinkedIn.com here » Introduction This is presented in the hope that it will help scam victims to explain what happened to them. We hope that by reading this you can understand that the victim was not [...]

Cognitions and Trauma – The Psychology of Scams

Cognitions and Trauma - The Psychology of Scams Traumatic experiences can affect and alter cognition for scam victims. From the outset, trauma challenges the just-world or core life assumptions that help individuals navigate daily life. For example, it would be difficult to leave the house in the morning if you believed that the world was not safe, that all people are dangerous, or that life holds no promise. The belief that one’s efforts and intentions [...]

Stages Of A Victim’s Experience Without Support

Stages Of A Victim’s Experience Without Support After a scam, scam victims experience several states - this is a different view of that experience from the grief-cycle or stages of recovery. This summary of these stages refers to the scam victim's experience without support, counseling, or therapy. • Minimization and Denial The victim denies the seriousness of the situation and excuses the abuser or calls them names: “He is stupid. He is scum. It didn’t [...]