The “Never Be Ashamed” Information & Advocacy Campaign by the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams [SCARS] #NeverBeAshamed – To Help Victims Release The Shame They Feel

Why People Blame Victims?

Why People Blame Crime Victims? The Just-World Phenomena A SCARS Insight This Is Called The Just-World Phenonema  Why We Blame Victims In Order To Rationalize Why Bad Things Happen? According to VeryWellMind.com: The just-world phenomenon is the tendency to believe that the world is just and that people get what they deserve. Because people want to believe that the world is fair, they will look for ways to explain or rationalize [...]

Shame – Secrets & Lies

Shame - Secrets & Lies The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight A Common Response To Shame Is To Hide This Can Happen Both During The Scam And After It One of the ways the scam victims hide from the reality of their situation is by lying about their real situation. This deception of friends and family, may seem like the thing to do at the time, but it only [...]

Removing The Face Of Your Scammer From Your Mind

Removing The Face Of Your Scammer From Your Mind The Psychology of Scams A SCARS Insight Removing The Face Of Your Scammer From Your Mind A Recovery Technique: How To Recover And Remove The Face Of The Scammer What is the way to put the face (from your scam) behind you? This is going to sound strange, but this is solid psychology. You need to move on and recover [...]

My Truth – Guest Editorial By Clair St Jennifer

Guest Editorial By Clair St Jennifer The following is a Guest Editorial by Clair St Jennifer - a Scam Survivor and Member of SCARS Support Groups. Clair plays a role in helping scam victims to recover and educating them to avoid scams in the future. A SCARS Guest Editorial / Victim's Story My Truth By Clair St Jennifer I want to take the time to talk to people that [...]

The Scam Is Over But You Are Still Being Manipulated

The Scam Is Over But You Are Still Being Manipulated A SCARS Psychology of Scams Insight You Were Romance Scammed You discovered the scam and ended it, but you are still being manipulated by the scammer! For some victims, this can go on for months or even years after the scam ends! Scammer's Goals Think for a moment about the scammer's goals during your scam? They had five primary [...]

Psychology of Scams: How Do You Get Closure?

Psychology of Scams: How Do You Get Closure? Closure Can Mean Different Things For Different People CLOSURE may be what someone needs to move on after a long relationship, after the death of a loved one, after a traumatic childhood event, or to overcome feelings of guilt for hurting someone in the past. However, closure after a romance scam is a different matter entirely. With a Romance Scam, there is no body to bury, there [...]

What Does Recovery Mean For A Scam Victim? [Updated]

What Does Recovery Mean For A Scam Victim? What Does It Mean to Be "In Recovery?" In this article, we are going to talk about recovery, as in recovery after a scam What Does It Mean To Recover? In Our Context We Mean That Recovery Is A Process However, because scams are complex in that they involve psychological traumatization (as a victim), involve addiction (as in the mental [...]

Romance Scam Infidelity – A SCARS Guide

Romance Scam Infidelity - A SCARS Guide It Is Easy For Individuals To Be Manipulated Into A Romance Scam Anyone Can Be Scammed And Pulled Into A Fake Relationship What Is Romance Scam Infidelity We All Know What A Romance Scam Is? You are vulnerable, maybe lonely, and you let a stranger into your life online. Maybe you were ready for a relationship, maybe not. You made a [...]

Victim’s Story: A Romance Scam Victim Speaks Out

A Victim's Story: A Romance Scam Victim Speaks Out We Welcome Each Victim To Share Their Story If you would like to send us your story, we will withhold your name. Send them to contact@AgainstScams.org Commentary From Individual Victims Who Desperately Want To Be Heard Here Is An Editorial That Came From One Victim A While Ago, And We Are Reprinting It For Our Current Viewer's Benefit We [...]

Scam Victim Selfishness – A Common Behavior That Leads To Romance Scams?

Scam Victim Selfishness A SCARS Guide to the Psychology of Scams Not all selfishness is bad, as you will discover in this guide! Psychology of Scams: Scam Victim Selfishness A Common Behavior That Leads To Romance Scams? Is One Of The Primary Motivations For Falling For Scams Based Upon Selfishness? This article will be hard to read and at times it will make you angry. Please read the [...]

Guest Editorial: Michele’s Survivor Insight

Guest Editorial: Michele's Survivor Insight A Romance Scam Victim's Insight After Recovery Michele went through the SCARS recovery program and has a couple of insights for victims that are struggling Hindsight is 20/20 By Michele I wanted to share how I now feel about the scammers and some things I have learned from this experience. Hindsight is 20/20, when we can finally see the whole picture and not [...]

Psychology of Scams: When Panic Sets In

Psychology of Scams: When Panic Sets In You just found out about your scam, what happens next can lead to panic! After a Scam Stability Can Be a Rubberband! After the scam, a typical victim is in shock, but denial quickly sets in. But if it is not brought under control then panic can be the result! Everyone understands grief, but scam victims are frequently in shock after [...]

A Scam Victim’s 7 Deadly Sins

A Scam Victim's 7 Deadly Sins After a scam, bad decision making continues and leads many victims in directions that may feel satisfying but delays or avoids recovery. Originally Published April 2019 - Updated January 2021 When Scam Victims Turn To The Dark Side WARNING: Just because you are a scam victim does not make you an expert at cybercrime nor will it instantly make your decision making [...]